Zeus: Texting is perhaps the most important skill in modern dating.
Whether you’re on instagram, Tinder, snapchat, or even plain old text messaging, knowing
how to communicate with and attract beautiful women with your messages is absolutely critical.
Without this skill, you might as well be sent straight to the gulag!
Texting is an integral part of the early relationship before you go on a date and before you escalate
into all the fun stuff that comes with romantic relationships.
Yeah… you know what I mean when I say fun stuff, don’t make me say it!
And since texting is such an important aspect for men to learn in the modern dating game,
I brought some backup with me.
I brought the big guns, one of the legends of texting and messaging women in online dating,
Alex from the Youtube channel PlayingwithFire.
And since this intro is getting a bit long and that’s not what we do around here, I’m
gonna let Alex start us off with #1.
Alex: 1) Overgameyness - This is the most rampant one in the seduction community and
probably men in general. Over gameyness is being too fancy, too corny, too cheesy, basically
trying too hard. The best way to explain it is to look at texting as a sliding scale.
On one end are the guys who are super boring and plain. Saying things like “hi what’s
up” every other text. Over gameyness Is going too far in the other direction. Unfortunately,
when a girl sees you are being overly gamey she looses attraction and might even subtly
or sometimes not so subtly neg you
Zeus: If I’m being honest, I was guilty of this for a while and this is something
I’ve actively been removing from my game over the past few months and it’s simplified
my text conversations so much and gotten me much better success.
The reason I struggled with overgameyness is because I’m naturally a funny and sarcastic
guy, but trying to communicate all of it over text can come off as too much and try hard.
A lot of guys want to avoid being too boring or dry over text so they resort to trying
to say everything in the most interesting and over the top way possible, this often
distracts you from getting to the point and setting up a date.
Going with a more laid back and direct approach over text and saving a lot of that quick wit
and sarcasm for in person is typically a lot better since you give her the chance to see
it in action when it’s a lot more charismatic and attractive.
#2 Beating around the bush.
I’d say this is probably the biggest problem guys have, I see it all the time. They think
they have to go through some ceremony with a shaman and make a blood sacrifice with a
whole ritual before asking the girl on a date.
It’s like jeez bro just ask her out already!
They ask the girl questions about stuff they don’t care about and act really inauthentic
because they feel like they have to.. They’re just going through the motions.
Here’s a bonus tip, if you’re bored in the conversation or just asking questions
for the sake of it, she’s definitely bored too, so avoid this at all costs.
Alex is great at being direct and to the point so I’m sure he has a lot to say here.
Alex: Beating Around The Bush - This when the guy banters and banters, but never moves
things forward. Unfortunately, the girl gets eventually bored and moves on to the next
guy. A big part of good text game is moving things towards the date, because girls expect
the guy to “make it happen” and will very rarely do it for you
#3 Poor logistics planning / Closing - Extremely common. The guy gets good rapport going, him
and the girl are vibing so he thinks it’s a done deal and gets lazy on the close. This
can manifest in many ways, the most common is either pushing to meet that night or not
taking her schedule into account when proposing plans. Even if the girl really wants to meet
you, she is forced to say no because she can’t hang out that night. The correct way to close
is to
A) soft close “we should get together sometime soon”
B) figure out her avalaibility / logistics “What’s your schedule like”
C) Hard close “Good. Lets do Fri night, say 9?”
Zeus: #4 Letting the momentum die.
Momentum is a HUGE thing in relationships. Momentum is more important for women than
it is for men.
It creates emotional engagement and attachment and since it’s such an emotional thing,
guys usually overlook it.
Men are super logical, if a girl can’t hangout one day, they won’t follow up with her at
all until a week later. By then, the momentum is dead and she no longer feels any emotions
toward you.
Your chances are done by that point.
If you wait too long to hit her up again she’ll forget about you.
Alex:
5) Getting Butthurt / Needy - This is either when the guy chases the girl too hard. He
might start blowing up her phone. Double or triple texting her in a short time span. Send
her long essays. Etc.....Or Conversely he might get pushed off when she doesn’t respond
and send her an angry text that shows just how invested he is and how he lacks abundance.
Automatic turn off
Zeus: Could not agree more. I feel like it’s become more popular nowadays to get triggered
by a girl and then tell her off… this never works.
A lot of guys in the redpill community think it’s their job to police girls when they
do something wrong, even if they’re not even dating the girl… it’s like bruh,
who cares what someone does if you’re not dating them!!
Here’s the truth: if a girl does something you don’t like, you can bring it up to her
maturely, calmly, and even humourously, but NEVER in a butthurt manner.
It’s just simply unproductive.
It makes you look like a b*tch and will just put her on the defensive, once she’s on
the defensive the chances of you guys coming to a resolution is slim to none.
And that my friends is it.
Here’s a quick recap of everything we covered on screen.
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Zeus out!