How is it to conceive a child using husband’s sperm and a donor egg? -This is a very frequent
question from the people and is a bit off from decency. It is asked a lot.- I am the
2nd wife of my husband. My husband Masha Allah has 3 sons. His elder son is married. My own
marriage was very late and my age is 48 years. I got married last year and because of being
older , doctors say that I can not conceive a child. I am trying for test tube baby but
my egg has a chance of 1% success. Doctors suggest to use a donor egg with my husband’s
sperm if I want to conceive a baby. Can we do this? That we use sperm of my husband and
we use donor egg of another woman as without a childi cannot find purpose in life. – A
woman from UK has asked this question. I am not mentioning her name on purpose -.
Answer:This is totally haram. A child can be conceived by a test tube but with the surety
that the sperm is of a husband and the egg is of a wife (woman who will develop the egg
into a baby). But if the egg is of someone else and the belly of someone else then this
is haram and impermissible. This is just as protection of ancestry of the father is necessary,
same is the case for a mother. In severe need, test tube baby method may be used because
no 3rd party is being used. Neither another woman’s egg is used nor another man’s
sperm is used. As sperm is of a husband and egg is of his wife. So there is no alteration
in ancestry. But if a woman or man is involved; as interference of man obviously changes the
father which is totally haram ; and another woman coming into this as egg is of another
and the egg is placed in the body of another then the element of “mother” which is
mentioned in Quran Majeed ; the right of mother mentioned in Quran is due to 3 reasons [Arabic]
she conceives the sperm in her egg, develops/gives birth [Arabic] and feeds milk. So when the
egg is of another woman and blood of another then the child will be of doubt when it comes
to deciding the actual mother. Because if we relate it to egg then his mother is the
one whose egg is used whereas the blood and meat is of another woman. This would be great
damage to the ancestry of one’s mother. Do not relate it to breastfeeding that when
a child is born then another lady can feed to. The milk feeding is when the baby is developed.
This is the process during development and there is the problem in deciding the actual
mother. So all serious and devoted scholars either of Arab or Non Arabic all agree and
have given the collective fatwa that it is haram If your age is a lot then pray to Allah
only. You can not use another woman’s egg or donor egg. I pray to Allah that he blesses
you with a pious and good child and until you conceive you should be patient. Those
women that do not have a child should think that Allah has blessed all hardships with
good deeds on the day of Judgement/Qiyamah. It is highly possible that Allah blesses you
an alternate and be patient thinking that this world is only a traveller’sstop . Develop
patience thinking that there are a lot of people who have a child but it is a huge calamity
on them. I know people who have murdered their mother and father. Think of that father who
wished that the child wouldn’t be born . So think of this that Allah has saved you from
a huge test.