11 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER FEEL GUILTY ABOUT
There are moments in life when we feel like the whole world is against us
and we find ourselves making difficult and unpopular choices that can influence our
relationship with close friends and acquaintances. Among these, however, there are things for
which we will never have to feel guilty about doing and should never have to apologize for.
Let's look at these "11 Things you should never feel guilty about."
1. SAYING "NO" Between our obligations that we don’t
like doing and spending time helping those we love, it is hard to find time for ourselves. Sure,
it is nice and satisfying to help the people we love not only in words, but also practically,
but saying yes to everything without considering our own mental state is foolish.
Unfortunately, it is true that the problem many people have,
which slows them down in their important tasks, is too often the inability to say "no" to others
in order to dedicate time for themselves. Our time and integrity are the most precious
things we have. We must learn to say "no" to requests from others that go against our ideas
or that would consume a lot of our time, leaving no time left to cultivate our
own goals of skills that we wish to learn. The problem of not knowing how to say "no"
is that we risk doing something that we would absolutely not want and will result in feeling
bad while carrying out the activity itself, as well as begrudging ourselves after we do it.
2. WANTING TO IMPROVE
Let's face it, most people don't want to see you succeed. Unfortunately, this is the raw truth.
With the exception of those few people who really love you, there is a much larger group that does
not want to see you realize all your dreams so they do not feel inferior in comparison.
Be careful because this is almost a paradox. Often, these people can genuinely love you,
be close friends or relatives, but they simply want to keep you at their level.
When this happens, you go on your way. Simply don't listen to them and don't be influenced.
The fact that you are watching this video right now, or the fact that you follow our YouTube
channel or other educational channels, while these people spend their time watching reality TV shows
should make you understand that you probably deserve better.
Let's be clear, wanting to improve and wanting the best for ourselves is not arrogance,
but simply a winning mentality and lifestyle, and in the end sooner or later,
each of us will reap what he has sown.
3. WANTING TO GET RID OF TOXIC PEOPLE Do you have a childhood friend with whom you
have shared many common interests over the years, yet, suddenly, you now find that you have nothing
in common with each other as you grow older? The years pass and people, like our interests,
change. We grow with different values and ambitions based on our experiences,
the places we visit and the people we meet. Life is more beautiful when we are surrounded
by positive people who help each other to achieve new goals and achieve their dreams, and often
these people are completely different from those with whom we spent our childhood and adolescence.
Obviously, this is not always the case, and indeed there are friends who will remain
so for our entire life. But then there are also people with whom we now share
interests and with whom we would never have wanted to connect. The moral of the story:
always be open to new acquaintances with whom you can improve your life together, and do
not be afraid to remove negative people with whom you have nothing in common anymore in your lives.
4. NOT GIVING A DAMN ABOUT DRAMATIC PEOPLE Do you know those people who love to be the
center of attention and magnify every little problem by making a big deal out of it?
They are just looking for attention and, with their paranoia, will not only waste your time,
but will also leave you in a bad mood. Many people create problems from trivial
things instead of focusing on the really important things they should do to improve their lives.
These people will also try to make you feel guilty if you don't go along with them.
Don't fall for it, don't waste your time, you have better things to do.
5. WHERE YOU ARE FROM You don't choose where you are born,
of course, and nobody has the right to blame you. Consider the discrepancies in the quality of life
of a person born, for example, in Santa Barbara in California and a person born on the outskirts
of Mogadischu in Somalia. We can easily see who has access to more opportunities for success.
You do not decide where you are born or how you were raised, but you do have the choice of where
you are going to live, the decisions you make in life, and what you build for yourself.
It is these very decisions will define you as a person. If you are lucky enough to be born
in a more advanced country, it is up to you to take advantage of this position in your favor.
Don't be ashamed of where you come from. Don't be proud of where you come from, either.
In any case, it wasn't your choice. Be proud of what you DO in your life,
thanks to your hard work and determination.
6. SPENDING THE MONEY YOU EARN HOWEVER YOU LIKE
You work hard, you earn, therefore you alone have the right to spend your money the way you want.
No one should judge you for the purchases you make if that is what make you happy.
We are obviously not saying to spend irresponsibly and create debts to satisfy some vice, but,
instead, reward yourself from time to time for hard work with something that makes you happy
and motivates you to continue your path of personal growth.
In general, it has been found that money spent on experiences such as travel makes
people much happier and more satisfied than when they buy luxury items, for example.
7. THINGS YOU HAVE NO CONTROL OF It is amazing how much time and energy
people waste for things they have no control over. If something is out of your control, there is
nothing you can do about it. For example, if your plane is 5 hours late and you miss a connection,
there is not much you can do about it. When these events happen, the only thing you can do is try
to react as best you can and try to limit the damage. Time is limited, use it best to improve
yourself on what you have control over and do not to blame yourself for what is beyond your control.
8. TAKING RISKS If you want to progress and
make your dreams come true, you must be willing to take risks when opportunities present themselves.
You don't have to feel guilty for making a risky choice just because it ended poorly
when you know that if it had a positive outcome, it would have rewarded you exponentially.
The important opportunities that arise in our life, however, will be limited,
and we must choose whether to take them along with the risks associated with them, or else
live a spectator's life, limiting ourselves to always choose the simplest and safest way.
9. SAYING WHEN SOMEONE IS LYING Who among us has never met at least
one serial liar in his life, who, in order to make himself appear greater, magnifies
every little thing or, even worse, shamelessly lies about what he has or what he has done?
These types of people sometimes exaggerate so much that they make their conversations almost comical,
and not only will the people around them soon realize that they are not telling the truth,
but they will also begin to doubt everything else they say.
If you have a friend or acquaintance who cares about this profile, do not feel guilty next
time to bring to his attention the mass of rubbish that is coming out of his mouth,
but make sure to do so constructively. This is important! I can assure you that it will
make you feel better about yourself, not being taken for a fool who believes in everything, but,
more importantly, it will help this person understand where he
is wrong, assuming that we are dealing with a person who can accept constructive criticism - and
if he doesn’t, then we probably wouldn't want to spend time with this person anyway.
Furthermore, I would like to add that if you do not particularly care about the
person in question, you can simply ignore what he is saying and go your own way,
you do not need to waste time with similar subjects.
10. YOUR PASSIONS Everyone has their own interests
and passions to which they like to dedicate their free time. Some are more traditional like
a football game or a walk in the mountains, others more distinct such as extreme sports, for example.
Do not allow others to give little consideration or negatively judge your passions.
Your free time is yours and you pass it as you prefer. As long as you don't hurt anyone,
you don't have to feel guilty for having a passion that gives you joy, whatever it may be.
Indeed, it is much worse not having any hobbies or passions and spending time
criticizing those of others while living a flat and boring life in the meantime.
11. LOVING SOMEBODY Falling in love is a natural thing and you
love whom you choose. Don't let others judge you or, even worse, dictate whom to love. They have
no right. Remember that life is yours, not theirs. Have you ever felt guilty for one or more of the
points described in this video? If you have, tell us your experience in the comments.
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