What is up, my fam? I hope you are all having an
amazing week. Now, this video is for all the confused
people in the house whose crush's behavior is so cryptic,
so confusing, that you're not sure if they love you or if
they hate you. I'm sorry guys, I said it, but you might be
wondering. In today's video, I'm giving you guys the top
10 signs that your crush actually does despise you. And
I'm going to help you guys understand the difference
between weird mixed signals behavior and "Get out of my face" behavior.
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So, how does your crush actually feel about you? Well,
guys, let's get right into the signs.
Sign #1 is the lamest hug in the world. If for any reason
that you have to give your crush a hug and they like you,
they are going to take the opportunity to make it an
amazing big long hug. But if your crush gives you a hug
that's limp, or super awkward, or cut short, and it looks
like they're just obviously very uncomfortable. Oh my
god, you guys, a person's hug is a tell-tale sign of the
feelings that they have towards you. Ugh! Take that
dagger right out of my heart.
Sign #2 that they hate you is the "Good for you." The
"Good for you," occurs when you are sharing something
with your crush. It's usually something great that you did,
or an accomplishment that you've had in your life. And
they respond with a flat, "Good for you." They say this
with virtually no enthusiasm, no spark, no
congratulations, no energy at all. Because, they're
actually not saying "Good for you," they're actually
saying, "I don't care." And if someone shows that level of
disinterest, they are obviously not feeling the love.
#3 is the "I hate you" body position. Now guys, the "I
hate you" body position is actually very specific. And this
happens to all of us when we're talking to someone who
we just genuinely don't like. Now, I want you guys to pay
close attention, because this position involves; A, crossing
your arms, B, scowling, C, rarely smiling, and D, actually
frowning with their forehead.
Sign #4 that your crush hates you is that they actively
avoid you. You might make the active effort to walk up to
their group of friends and start talking, only to have them
walk away seconds later. Or, you ask them to partner with
you on an assignment or something and they're like,
"Yeah, I'm actually going to partner with my friend over
here instead." Not only is avoiding you altogether very
stupid of them, but it also shows that they're just simply
not interested and you can move on.
Sign #5. This one's so bad. So bad. It's that they forget
your name, or they call you by the wrong name entirely.
So, this one's isn't so much about hate as it's about
indifference. But, it's still a major problem, obviously.
And if this happens to you guys, I think you should
consider your crush a complete write off. Moving on.
Oh my god, #6, you guys. This one is so bad too, but I
feel like we have all experienced a moment like this in
our lives. #6 is the "That's too bad." So, when someone
likes you, they're going to want to comfort you a lot.
They're going to want to console you when things don't
go your way. But in times of your distress, somebody who
actually hates you is going to respond with a statement
like, "That's too bad." I have had one of these moments in
my life when I was dating somebody in university. And
something terrible happened to one of my supervisors.
They actually died. And, I was so upset about it that I
called this guy I was dating that night and I was like, "Oh
my god, one of my supervisors didn't show up for school
today. And we found out that she passed away." And the
guy I was dating actually said, "That's too bad." For me,
this was an obvious indication that the guy had zero
empathy for me and it was a sign to cut the relationship
off right then and there. So, if someone gives you an
unenthusiastic, "That's too bad," response, you can be
dead sure that they couldn't care less about comforting
you, and they actually don't care that much about your
emotional wellbeing. Bye.
#7 is that they never laugh at your jokes. This one is
obvious because research shows that we laugh more at
people we like than we people we even find are funny.
So, it doesn't matter if you are funny or not. If it is super
hard to make your crush laugh; if you are trying so hard
and nothing is happening-
they're not even cracking a smile- just no. No.
#8 is that your crush doesn't return your calls and doesn't
text you back. This isn't the same as waiting a bit of time
in between calls, or waiting a bit of time in between texts,
because that's more of a mixed signals thing. What I
mean is never returning your calls. Or, never responding
to a snap. Or, never responding to a text. Think about it.
Other than people you hate, there's pretty much no one in
the world you just wouldn't respond to if they message
you. So, if your crush does this to you, it's such a clear
indication of how they feel. And you guys ask me this all
the time. You're like, "Kimberly, my crushes never text
me back, or like, they never answer my snaps." And guys,
I'm sorry, but this is your answer.
The #9 sign that your crush just cannot stand being
around you is that their comments are often pretty mean
spirited. And you think to yourself, why are they being so
mean? You just can't understand why they're being so
negative. And sometimes people even think this is coming
from a teasing place and their crush is like, "I hate you,"
because they're teasing them. But no, this is usually not
teasing. It's nasty behavior. So if anyone's mean and
nasty to you guys, toss them out and commiserate with
other ladies in the Ask Kimberly comments. Moving on
you guys, this is our final one.
The #10 sign that they hate you- and this one is so
devastating when it happens- is that they openly flirt. And
you feel like they do it even more in front of you, without
any observation of you, or consideration for your feelings.
They just frikking go for it and they don't care. And you
feel like they might even be rubbing it in just a little bit
because you're there. That, my friends, is a sign of
somebody who obviously does not appreciate all of the
amazing things about you and clearly doesn't deserve to
be in a relationship with you.
So guys, if your crush did display any of these things, I
want you to share with me in the comments below. Guys,
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