Swipe left.
Swipe right.
I got a match.
Now if this were Tinder, you could you just sit back and wait for the dude to initiate,
but if this is Bumble, you've got 24 hours to contact him or else he disappears.
In this video, I'm going to teach you four flirty first messages to send a guy on Bumble.
Keep watching.
Now this video is meant to be very practical for you ladies out there.
You see, a few years back a couple women designed a dating app that was essentially the female
response to Tinder.
It's called Bumble, and the nice thing about it is that it puts you in control of the process.
In order for a guy to be able to message you, you need to message him first.
No more uncomfortable pick up lines from dudes.
No more unsolicited messages.
No more creepy dudes messaging you late night for a quickie.
Now that's all well and good, but here's the problem.
Now you need to be the picker upper.
You need to message him first, and I've been hearing from a lot of you that this is stressing
you out.
You probably never had to initiate conversation online dating, and now you kind of know how
it feels.
So here are four messages you can send a guy to be able to catch his attention, and be
able to start that conversation.
The first one is a lighthearted, poking fun message.
Here's an example.
I think your shorts might just be a little too long.
You see?
There you go.
You got his attention, you might be poking fun a little bit, and that's the whole point,
right?
You're not here to make fun of him in a serious way, just find something in his profile that,
you know, you're poking fun.
You're teasing him a little bit.
It's going to get his attention; it's going to want to make him respond.
Number two, is the inquisitive observation.
Here's an example.
I see that you like to snowboard.
Where's your favorite mountain?
Look, all you're doing is finding something in his profile, anything, identify it, and
then ask a question, right?
Just be observant.
See if there's some type of hobby that he's into.
Maybe there's something that he's doing at work, maybe there's something that he's doing
with his friends or his family.
Just take a look at it.
Literally, it can take you 10 seconds, and then simply just ask a question about it,
and ask for more details.
Boom, there you go.
Number three, is called the cold read.
Here's an example.
Let me guess.
You're not from Boston?
I'm thinking LA.
It's a cold read because you are looking at something in his profile, and you're guessing
something about him.
It's a really fun game to just be able to, you know you could be completely wrong, by
the way, and you might be wrong in that example, but it will still at least kind of like spark
a fun conversation, and chances are it's going to get his attention.
Other cold reads could be: you're guessing his astrological sign, you could be guessing
what he does for work, you guess something that he does for fun, or, of course, where
he's from.
Just take a quick look at his profile, guess something about him, throw it out there, and
watch him respond.
And finally, number four is just go straight for the pick up line.
Now let's say you got a guy's profile and literally there's nothing in there that you
can really work with, but you still want to message him.
You could try this line.
Two truths and a lie.
Ready.
Set.
Go.
Believe it or not, Hinge, which is another dating app, ran a survey, and they found that
this line improves your response rate likelihood by over 31%.
It's fun, it's playful, and you know what?
It's just like a fun little game for you guys to get to know each other.
Before you know it, he's going to say his two truths and a lie, you can guess.
You're going to have your two truths and a lie.
Before you know it, you're having a great time and see where the conversation goes from
there.
So there you have it.
Those are four fun messages that you can send on Bumble, and here's the message that you
should never, ever, ever send a guy to start it.
He will have no idea where to go from there.
Keep it light.
Keep it playful.
Remember, the only goal of online dating, whether it's Bumble, Match, eHarmony, or OkCupid,
the only point of all of this is to meet the person off line, and Eve and I both agree,
don't get catfished.
It's not a relationship, it's not anything yet until you've met offline.
So just use it as a tool to be able to meet people in the real world.
So I want to ask you.
What are some fun lines that you've used that have worked really well?
Share in the comments right there below.
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