By the end of this video I'm going to let you know,
what five games narcissists play with empaths emotions.
That's you empath, I see you,
so that you can shut them down
from a mile away before they even start.
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So what mind games do they play with your emotions?
Narcissist and empaths
they seem to find each other, Right?
Because they see you. They spot you.
They know that you are this kind person.
They know you're a good person.
They know you feel like you can help them
that you can love them back to health.
You see they're hurting and
maybe you can fill that black hole within them, you can't.
Run the other way.
It's not going to help, Okay.
Stop thinking that you can do that.
You know what Gaslighting is?
Gaslighting is they make you question your reality,
they make you question your sanity,
because they actually make you question your own mind,
Your own senses your own eyesight,
the things that you seen with your own brain,
your own eyes, or your own ears.
Here's what I mean by this.
Your own reality. I'm going to give you an example.
“I didn't know you were going away this weekend,
you never told me that”.
Oh, yeah, we had a whole conversation about that, you agreed.
“What? I don't remember that”.
Oh, yeah, we talked about that, you agreed.
And you have no memory of that.
But they'll make you believe that you did and
you have no memory of that whatsoever.
That's gaslighting.
And I know I've mentioned this before,
but for those of you who maybe haven't seen some of my other videos,
it comes from the movie “Gaslight” from the 30’s
where the husband was actually trying
to make the wife think that she was crazy and
what he would do is blow out gaslights and
she would say, wasn't that just lit?
and he would say no, it wasn't.
And it was literally trying to make her think she was crazy and
that's where it comes from and
that's what gaslighting is.
Gaslighting is literally trying to make somebody question
their own reality by thinking they're crazy.
Okay, so that's what gaslighting is and
that's what number one is and
if you want to know more about narcissistic gaslighting phrases
you can definitely check out my video on that and
if you are so ready to shut down gaslighting
put “shut them down” in the comments below
because it is so insidious, and
it is literally something that all narcissist do
it is definitely something they do across the board,
for whatever reason, it is part of their playbook,
especially covert narcissist, for whatever reason, and
one of the things that they do, with gaslighting is they'll take
part of something that's kind of a partial truth
and they'll sort of spin it into something.
So it sort of seems true
So it really makes you question your reality.
And that way it's really icky so,
definitely shut them down, right?
Projection is accusing the empath of what they themselves are doing.
I have a whole video by the way on
how narcissist tell on themselves and
this is definitely something that they do,
but that’s just a way
that they definitely play with emphats emotions this way.
They are accusing you of what they themselves are doing and
it is so confusing
and it’s definitely one of the games that they play.
So projection,
projection and deflection is definitely something that they do
when they get caught in a lie, so that's number two.
Diversion is something that they also do
when they're trying to get you off track
when they’re being attacked personally.
And so this is something that you definitely see
when you're trying to talk to them about something
where they will say “I don't like the way you said that”.
“I don't like how you said that”.
“I don't like when you brought that up”.
“How come you brought that up then?”
And then the whole conversation
instead of being about what you wanted to talk about
ends up all being about when you brought it up,
how you brought it up, your tone,
all about that.
Or that you came in at that time
or that you were wearing that coat
or how you hung up that coat
or what you were
that you brought in that particular thing at that time,
or how you walked into the room, and
it's all about something else and
you never get to the point
of what you wanted to talk about, ever.
So that's number three, which is diversion.
which is where they bring in third parties
to validate their point of view,
or to attack you.
And this is something they do a lot
and I talked about this in my videos,
on their favorite catch phrases, which is
“everybody else thinks or no one else thinks” and
this is really to isolate you and
make you feel like
you are just the most stupid person
or the most horrible person
or you're awful in so many ways and
that they are the smartest and
they are the best and
you might as well just give it up.
They don't even necessarily have to bring in that person
to actually bring in that person
but they invoke that other person name in some way or people.
Okay, so triangulation and
so you believe that there's this other Army of people
against you that believes that you're awful and
believes that they're wonderful.
So that's triangulation.
Pretending like they're the ones that are suffering
in such a bad state and
especially if it's at your hands,
like you caused it,
making you feel guilty,
especially if you ever did anything bad to them,
you know, just playing this victim.
Covert narcissists are very
famous for this at all times.
Really playing this suffering victim person
that you have to
either take care of them, feel guilty.
So victim playing is definitely a mind game
that narcissists play with emotions
and no one loves me or you don't love me
or you don't take care of me.
So victim playing is definitely a mind game
that narcissist play with emotions.
Let me know in the comments
would love to know what you think about this,
but these are definitely five mind games
that narcissists play with emotions.
You would definitely see this in negotiations, for sure.
I seen all of these played out in negotiations.
You need to know about these in negotiations, for sure.
They use these as leverage in negotiations.
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