I just saw you and I just wanted to come over and say hi
so this is kind of creating a moment
it's creating a lot of tension because I'm holding her hand she's like imagine
she's just a stranger i'm holding hands with a complete stranger like if she
pulls away pull away that means she's just not comfortable but someone will be
comfortable somewhat and if you can hold that tension it's going to be more
powerful because it's going to be sexual tension
showing your intent
it away not having to hide it not feeling ashamed of your attraction for
her and just being outright and open and honest
honesty is another thing that women find very attractive a lot of women have been
burned at some point been lied to by men or cheated on right away you're showing
your honest you're not hiding anything
you're just saying hey listen this is why I'm talking to because I'm a man
you're a very attractive woman and I wanted to unapologetically talk to you
hit on you approach you compliment you
because it shows your confidence just the fact that you walked up to our shows
confidence but doing it this way is going to show a lot more confidence
this shows that you're not hiding anything goes honesty she was courage
courage do you know the definition of courage being afraid of something or
having some fearsome hesitation but doing it anyway
going forward anyway that's what we're doing here right
so giving a genuine compliment is going to work much better than using something
indirect at nine out of ten times or even more because the other reason is
people are in a hurry
women are in a hurry during the day you go up to her like hey I need your
opinion on something
my friend his girlfriend just cheated on him and should he take her back and
you're just making up some something whether it's true or not but usually
it's probably not going to be true
something you read online to do or say you're wasting her time she's just like
what
why is this guy talking to me why is he asking me out of all these people it's
just it's weird it's awkward
instead cut to the chase don't waste your time don't waste your time either
you know there's more women for you to talk to you don't waste time talking to
one woman having this 10-minute conversation when it turns out she's got
a boyfriend
you hit your interest so she didn't tell you that she had a boyfriend and you
have this long interaction with her and it didn't go anywhere better to find out
within 30 seconds
is she in a relationship yes ok well let's keep going to look for somebody
else
you know so during the day people are doing things women are busy they're
usually not just sitting there waiting for a guy to talk to them
is that right is that right yeah
so we want to acknowledge the situation i call it acknowledging the reality
because if you just walk up and let's say she is walking really fast and you
say hey you're cute what's your name
she's probably going to acknowledge you and and talk to you but there's a good
chance you could just be like ah thank you but can't you see I'm in a hurry
people are doing things during the day so you just have to acknowledge what
they're doing
instead you said hey I know you're in a hurry but I just had to tell you
something
so what else could women be doing during the day sorry
shopping so how would you acknowledge the reality you
you know if you're going to go ahead and complement that
how would you acknowledge the reality what would you say is your shopping
exactly that is just say it
it's so easy just say what she's doing it right
what else well it should be doing on the phone
ok so what did you do there what would you say hey I know your phone
good work good now the thing about the phone though is it can be a little bit
rude even if you acknowledge that she's on the phone hey look i know you on the
phone but I want to come say hi
it's still a little rude isn't that isn't that right so you want to
acknowledge the fact that it's a little rude to interrupt somebody on the phone
so you acknowledge what she's doing but you can also acknowledge what she's
thinking or feeling now we're not mind reader's but you can assume in certain
situations right like on the phone okay that's a little rude just acknowledge it
she's not going to think it's rude if you say it first
should be checking her voicemail you don't know now she's like yelling on the
phone
oh you know ok i probably wouldn't approach them you know there are some
situations like that but generally speaking if she's doing something where
it seems a little bit inappropriate as long as it's not like completely
inappropriate like she's getting married him right then and there and you're like
a real quick before you get married
come on I've seen youtube videos of you know stupid people doing stuff like that
so the other reason you want to acknowledge the reality is because it
takes more time
so if i say hey you're really cute
how long from the point that I got their attention
did I say the compliment how long did that take
well together hey you guys are cute but one second two seconds something like
that
ok so notice that vs
hey real quick
this is really random and I know you two are busy
I know you guys are eating is so rude but I i just saw you when i was walking
by and I had to come over and say you're absolutely adorable
I want to introduce myself something like that right how long did that take
from the moment I got their attention to the moment I came up the moment I gave
the compliments about 20 seconds maybe 15-20 seconds much difference why did
you guys see the difference
you can feel the difference it's a big difference
so what happens there is some tension and create some tension that pausing
because if I don't do that it's kind of like it's like a comedian who doesn't
build up the joke and then like maybe you see comedian on stage and you try to
tell your buddy the same joke
and he's like well I don't get it that's not funny it's because you didn't create
the attention you didn't have that same build up right
so what we're doing here is we're building that up building that tension
she doesn't know what you're going to say up into that . she might be thinking
that you're going to ask for money
hopefully you don't look like somebody that would ask for money but you might
think you're trying to sell her something she might think you're gonna
ask you to do a survey right as always people selling things and doing surveys
she doesn't know why you're going to what you're going to say so it creates
tension because you're a man she's a woman especially if you're close if
she's sitting down is less tension but if she's close
then I'm gonna we're going to do some examples later then it creates sexual
tension that's what you want that's not going to be a friendly conversation with
that kind of interaction you're not going to end up in the friend zone but
it lets say she's eating right same thing the same as I think hey listen I
know you girls are eating and it was really rude to her up somebody whether
whether eating but I just had to tell you
and then whatever it is that you have to tell them whatever
that you wanted to say the compliment the genuine sincere compliment after the
games that their reaction whether you like to continue talking or we like one
that will you make a decision of what to do that what do you think i think i've
stayed too long before and the so good . it during the day people are busy you
got to see what they're doing
also notice the reaction if she seems really busy
she's like on our way to work if she tells you like hey listen I got to get
to work in like two minutes then you can keep it very short but if you ask
somebody up to right now she says oh nothing i'm a taurus I'm just walking
around I'm nothing to do all day and you don't have to think okay I better go
that makes sense she'll give you that indicator
she'll give you that indicated that makes sense but it is indicates the way
couple people have been real
so if you're going to stand with us it's two girls having a meal if I'm standing
and they're sitting this situation isn't very ideal because i'm less comfortable
than that right you two look pretty comfortable
I'm standing I'm less comfortable ok if there's nowhere to sit
and I have to stand the whole time then I'm going to keep it very short i'm
going to be very sure i'm not gonna have a 10-minute interaction not going but
I'm a five-minute interaction we keep it two to three minutes max maybe not even
that long if they're like obviously like in the middle of eating like their food
is already there i'm not i'm probably gonna say look I saw you here I know
this is totally rude but I had to come over and say hi to your friend here
hi nice to meet you listen I gotta run
I would do a quick qualifier which we'll get into in a second and then get her
phone number and go that's it would be like a minute
so you should cuz it was because of the situation now there's somewhere to sit
that could be totally different i'm going to gauge the reaction if they're
like oh hi where are you from
if they're asking me questions then that's an indicator that they want to
stay the indicators that there that are really interested in you and they want
you to stay are really obvious usual
now if you're not getting those in indicators that doesn't mean she's not
attracted to you that just means the situation isn't ideal for you to stay
like the girl could be really attracted to me but she's like met up she's having
breakfast you're having lunch with her mother or something like that you know
and just want to be rude and just like talk to me for 10 minutes
ignore her mom right she could but she could be really attracted me so many
keep it really short
does that make sense the indicators are very obvious
it's not like you know the old if you guys read like mystery method were like
oh she touched her hair and you know you touched your elbow like things like that
those don't mean anything don't worry about those talk about obvious things
make sense
like she's asking you questions or she's touching you or she gives you a really
long handshake things like that
they're pretty obvious and also time constraint
ok you guys know what time concerning is just say hey real quick
that's a time constraint I gotta get going just saying I have to go in a
second
I'm not going to take up too much of your time okay so start hey real quick
and then acknowledged whatever she's doing whatever she could potentially be
thinking I say this all the time and say this is totally random
because it is for her it's not random for me at all that is random for her
I guarantee it doesn't happen women don't get approach during the day
very often it's it's pretty rare
if they do it's not the way we're doing it
it's like a really indirect way really cheesy way or it's like damn girl like
things like that damn beautiful it's not an approach it's just like she's walking
by and they they look at her in the yell
so this is very random
or you could say unexpected if it's in a situation that's a little awkward
i'll give you some examples she's with a big group
she's in a lingerie store she is what else would be awkward I don't know
not that many things are awkward but let's say let's take the lingerie store
you want to say you want to acknowledge that hey look this is really awkward
right
hey real quick this is totally awkward but I was just walking by and I had to
tell you then the compliment you're absolutely beautiful kick myself by and
say hi
you can also acknowledge your reality to what could your reality will notice in
that example I was just walking by and I noticed you
that's my reality you can also acknowledge the way you're feeling which
could be nervous or it could be i don't usually do this if that's true
don't say that if you've been doing this over and over again I did that one time
I said I don't usually do this
the girl says I can tell you do this a lot and I got called out called me on my
bullshit
ok so if you're feeling nervous it's much better to acknowledge it
much better to say it then to say hi i just saw you here and I wanted to say hi
just say look I don't usually do this i'm actually kind of nervous but I had
to come over and give you a compliment