you're walking down the hall to your
chemistry class when you see him
immediately you feel like you've been
shot at the elevator and you've left
your stomach two floors below stake home
you tell yourself get your heartbeat
under control maybe ask him if he wants
to see a movie that's not too painful is
it alright he's almost approaching now
flesh him that cool confident
unflustered smile you okay you just
walked smack-dab into a locker door
ouch hey lovebirds welcome to well cast
do you want to ask someone out but
you're afraid of accidentally injuring
yourself instead it's okay this week
we're gonna talk about that stupid
awkward awful awesome feeling of liking
someone and we're gonna make you do
something about it we're gonna give you
four tips for asking him or her out on a
date are you ready what have you got to
lose the hardest part about approaching
someone you like is the anticipation of
it so let's cut right to the chase step
1 the first thing you're gonna do before
anything else is set a deadline for
yourself that's right a deadline gives
you a built in time to approach him and
start a conversation step 2 have a
specific plan in mind before you
approach him pick something you know
he's interested in so if he's a fan of
horror movies ask him to a new
blockbuster if he's a political walk ask
him if he wants to watch the debates the
more specific the plan the better take
out your well cast journal and open it
to a brand new page write down the date
that you have to approach this person
and what you'll say to him when you do I
have to ask him by Friday if he wants to
go to the new John Carpenter movie with
me if you want you can try to hold
yourself to this by adding a penalty I
have to ask him by Friday or else I
can't go out this weekend okay you don't
want to be too hard on yourself of
course but any added incentive helps
step 3 here's the hard part
you're going to have to bite the bullet
and do it now don't do it over the phone
or text or gchat or by carrier pigeon do
it in person I don't know if I can
handle this kind of rejection okay what
if you laughs it'd be that the whole
school knows that I like him and I'm
gonna have to move to Canada I don't
even like syrup then check out our
automatic thoughts video approached him
as confidently as you possibly can pay
attention to your own body language
don't slump or look embarrassed smile
keep eye contact the entire time also
call him by his name it's a proven fact
that a person's favorite word is their
own name also keep in mind that a
person's reaction to being asked out
regardless of the response is almost
always unabashed flattery Hey stick to
the plan in your well-cast journal take
a deep breath and ask step for granted
all of this depends on what he says so
first of all if he says yes
congratulations
have fun on your date you should also
open yourself up to the possibility of
rejection it's possible that he might
say no but take it gracefully okay and
no answer isn't even necessarily a
rejection it could just mean not right
now
and either way be proud of the fact that
you put yourself out there you're gonna
find that the worst part is the
multitude of thoughts running through
your head right up until you ask this
person if they maybe want to go out
sometime
let's recap you've decided to take the
plunge and see if someone you like wants
to hang out first you set yourself a
deadline and decide where you want to go
have a specific date in mind one that's
tailored to his interests when you do
approach him make sure to smile and make
eye contact take a deep breath and just
do it
whatever he says be calm and confident
so how did your first date go let us
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comment down below we'll see you next
time
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