- In this video, I'm gonna share with you
the cure to neediness,
and how you can practically go about
eradicating that pattern from your life,
because that pattern will block you and stop you
from attracting love to come in.
The reason that is by the way, it's needy energy.
Anytime we feel like we need something outside of ourselves,
it feels like to the other person,
we are trying to take something from them.
What people that are needing want or need
is validation and approval.
So when somebody is trying to get
and needs the validation
from some girl or guy they're dating,
what happens is that person's like,
wait, why do I need to give you this validation?
Why do I need to give you this approval?
Aren't you just good enough already?
And it repels them from being attracted.
So the weird thing is that,
people that have a needy pattern,
they think that what the neediness is going to do
is get them what they want,
otherwise they wouldn't do it,
and in fact, it actually blocks that very thing
from coming into their life.
And in this video,
I'm gonna show you the practical step by step way,
you can eradicate neediness from your life
once and for all.
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Welcome back to another video,
my name is Aaron
and I help people expand their consciousness.
Now this video, I'm gonna be sharing with you,
how you can eradicate neediness from your life
using this handy-dandy whiteboard over here.
Sometimes I have this handy dandy whiteboard,
and I hardly even address it.
It's more so in the back because it looks kind of cool
and it looks like I'm eventually gonna get to it.
And I do have intentions of getting to it,
but sometimes I just don't.
But this time I promise I'll get to this in a minute.
Now when it comes to neediness,
you might be asking yourself, well Aaron,
isn't neediness what gets you to attract love?
And of course, you're actually not asking that
because you know or you've seen some of my other videos.
But it is this ingrained belief that we have,
maybe it came from Disney channel, maybe it came,
I mean we don't have to blame everything on Disney,
but you know, it's like if we,
especially as men,
if we can gain the approval and validation of the woman
and slay dragons, then we're worthy, then we're good enough.
So it sets this frame,
like I am only good enough when or if,
and a lot of times that is a very unattractive energy.
You could actually say,
that the degree to which you are attractive
is the degree to which you are not needy.
Let me say that again.
The degree to your attractiveness,
is the degree to which you do not need something
from somebody else,
their validation, them to be a certain way,
trying to control them.
And this for me was something
that I had to learn the hard way.
I had learned from long time of feeling this pattern
that I believe that was kind of passed down in my family
from on my dad's side,
my dad's like a traditional nice guy.
So he is very nice, doesn't rock the boat too much
and just kind of the right thing.
And I had to learn a couple like a year or two ago
that that doesn't actually work.
It's not attractive, and not only that, it's not authentic.
To be a nice guy, to be a people pleaser is saying,
I will give you and be nice to you,
and like, be very agreeable,
if in exchange you will give them something.
Give me validation, love and support.
So once I became aware of this pattern,
what really helped me is understanding
that the reason it is that dynamic
and the reason is because I literally don't feel whole
and complete within myself.
I did become very honest to myself
and realize that even in relationships,
I was seeking something from other people
to give me something I wasn't giving to myself.
Now, one of the biggest game-changers though for me
and the thing I wanna share with you in this video,
the practical step for you
is I met my shadow work integration coach.
My shadow work integration coach
is someone I've been working with for about a year now.
And he has a double PhD in psychology,
he started his Carla Yoon, is like his passion,
and the shadow.
And I became aware of the shadow of myself,
of the neediness, of the validation,
of the childhood wounding,
but what really changed it
was one meditation practice
that you guys have probably heard me talk about before,
it's called the frame technique.
The frame technique is where you are,
there's this candle, this candle thing over here.
When you're looking at a candle,
you start to feel the separation between you and the candle.
You bring the awareness for inside the body,
a lot of people that are needy,
what happens is they went through trauma as kids.
And there's this part where they're not really fully
in their body.
So what they feel like they need,
is they are pushing their energy out,
trying to manipulate the outer environment
to give them what they feel like they lack.
And a lot of times that means
they're not fully present in their body.
So one of the biggest cures for you to having
not needy energy and to be more magnetic, just in general,
is you getting more inside damn body.
Get in your body.
How do you get it in your body?
You literally we bring the awareness into your body.
I also have something
that's called the frame technique activation.
It's completely free,
it's an hour long workshop I did,
where I show you step-by-step
how to use the frame technique.
So if you wanna check that out,
you can go to a brand new app,
it's an amazing app called HighViber, H-I-G-H-V-I-B-E-R.
You can click the link below or go to apple or Android
and download HighViber.
When you go in there, at the top,
you will see the frame technique workshop,
plus an inner child meditation,
which is where we energetically go to quiet why
to heal this stuff,
because it normally sends all the way back to childhood.
Us walking around going, are you my mummy?
Are you gonna give you my needs?
Are you gonna do this?
And that's what happens until we bring them awareness
into our body, we stop morphine.
We stop morphine to other people.
Now what's really attractive and not needy
is when you are in your own values,
you are being yourself,
you're in integrity to your own word.
And when you're dating,
you are not saying,
is this person gonna give me validation and love,
when you're dating,
you're almost curious to how they are gonna respond
or how they, how they're showing up.
It's almost like, instead of you wondering
am I good enough?
You're vetting them.
You're not judging them,
but you're kind of like feeling it out.
You have a standard and you know your self worth,
so you are not at the mercy of their validation and support.
So it's a very different energy.
But what happens is when we are needy,
we are saying, we have a belief,
that we need something from the outside
to make us feel whole.
So we project our energy,
maybe it's towards some beautiful woman
or some hot guy or whatever you're into.
And what happens is you're projecting the energy outside,
they feel it,
and they're like, why are you trying to take away this?
Why are you trying to take it from me?
And if you would just be present inside your own body
and in body, you would then be attractive.
I use this frame technique by the way,
I've shared this before, but I would just go in public,
and I would put,
I did this actually yesterday at the gym.
I was just at the gym and I was just bringing the awareness
back to myself
and I noticed it just, it gets people that it's like,
it's a different magnetic energy
that's very hard to describe.
But when you are projected your energy out,
you are less magnetic.
When you are inside your body and you are present,
you are very magnetic and attractive.
And the key to not being needy and let go of,
and let go of the neediness,
is to be in your body, in your own frame of reality.
And as you do that, you'll be in yourself
and you won't be trying to project your stuff on the other.
It changes absolutely everything.
If what I'm saying right now is vibing with you,
like the video, comment below, let me know,
say, Hey, this video is vibing with me.
And also download HighViber, check that out.
The key to neediness is getting back at your freaking body,
being present to them moment, it changes everything.
The freight technique is a completely free workshop.
You could download the new app, HighViber, check it out.
We'll be doing live meditations in there,
live activations workshops, connecting to each other using,
its like finding your high vibe drive
and also doing like meditations
where we amplify the energy using group energy dynamic work.
So with that being said,
hope you guys enjoyed this video.
I'm not needy and don't need you to like the video,
but it's just a general hope that,
you know, hopefully this video
is something that added value to you.
Other than that, there's always peace,
much love and namaste.