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hello there and welcome back to the bliss bean so there are some habits that we do
that are very well defined quantifiable and visible things like drinking water going outside
journaling but what about the habits that happen inside our heads that we can't quite see happening
nor are as easy to track but that are still super duper important so i define these mindset habits
as the thoughts you think the stories you tell yourself and the lens through which you view
life so i did a video a while back on five mindset habits that have changed my life
since then i've experimented with and added a few very helpful new ones to my mindset tool kit
i'm fun am i fun? what do you mean?
am i a fun person? no.
so there was this quote from ryder carroll's the bullet journal method which
grabbed me by the shoulders and slapped me across the face he said if achievement is a
defining measure of productivity then what is the defining measure of achievement in
other words why is achievement valuable? basically why are you trying to achieve so
on the one hand i do actually find my work very fulfilling i think it brings me a lot of enjoyment
but like on a deep level so contentment if you will and so i don't find my work to be fruitless
i think most of the time i'm not chasing after achievement for the sake of achievement i don't
think but i also think that surface level fun is important as well and so that question made me
realize that yeah i do actually find myself often tempted to sacrifice little moments of fun for the
sake of productivity for the sake of achievement but if it's hard to sometimes even identify
why achievement is important to us then maybe sometimes we should just have fun so obviously yes
sometimes we do need to sit down and get the work done or delay gratification in service of some
bigger reward in the future but what is life if not for random little magical moments and i feel
like sometimes in the quest for productivity we squash those little moments or just
prevent opportunities for them to happen in the first place so for me this mindset has translated
to my life in a couple of different ways i used to feel pressured to listen to podcasts any time
i was driving or cooking or folding the laundry as if listening to music instead would just be
a waste of time so first of all rest and fun are productive let me repeat that rest and fun are
productive did you write that down when i say productivity just as a blanket statement across
my entire channel i really mean using your time in the best way so sometimes that means we're talking
about productivity tips to get your work done efficiently so that you then have more free time
other times that means we're talking about how to use your free time to recharge and enjoy and rest
and i think that is a great use of time so i have been recharging and enjoying my free time
by listening to a lot more music putting together my monthly playlist and just having a good
time and do i still listen to podcasts sometimes? yes of course but when i
want to not because i feel like i have to another example is oftentimes after i eat
dinner in the evening i get like the second wind of energy and i actually feel motivated to go do
something like answer a couple of emails but i don't want to go upstairs to my room to do that
because i've been in my room all day long but i feel like if i stay downstairs where my family
is and the tv is on i won't be as productive but i don't want to go up to my room but i won't be
as productive downstairs and you see what happens okay maybe maybe i might be a little more focused
in my room i don't really have clear data on that but as far as i'm concerned if i'm spending time
with my family and answering emails at one time that is just killing two birds with one stone
and if it's gonna make me enjoy the task more then that's what i'm gonna do
so to apply this mindset of fun to your life you might even set an intention for the week and ask
yourself how can i make everything that i do this week more fun sing karaoke in the
car play with your food wear a rainbow sweater productivity and fun are not mutually exclusive
if anything fun recharges you for more productivity so they're actually intertwined
oh yeah i wanted to ask do you have any mindset habits that you want to talk about or share
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acceptance i have some control issues so this one was very relevant to me so there is this zen
buddhist concept of acceptance or non-attachment that can be applied to so many moments of your
everyday life it doesn't mean that you stop caring or that you stop trying to change things for
the better it just means that you give yourself permission to stop resisting the way that things
are so for us personal development nerds this means that if you're on a personal development
journey you can choose to love yourself right here and right now with all your flaws without having
to wait until you have shaped and fine-tuned yourself into some perfect version of yourself
this also applies to everyday kind of things you can choose to accept the fact that you're running
late for a meeting knowing that stressing out about it will not change anything you can accept
that you're a human being who makes mistakes and not punish yourself for getting distracted
or breaking a habit streak or anything like that so for me where i see this apply to my life is
when i have a day where i'm just struggling for some reason or something is not going my way
the example that comes to mind is a really stupid example it's literally listed on the wikipedia
page of first world problems so i apologize in advance basically i misplaced my airpods i was 96
sure that they were in the house but i tore apart my room the entire house the car and i could not
find them i couldn't focus on anything else the entire day i was just so wound up and agitated
after i found them a few hours later they somehow ended up in a drawer inside my hard drive case
i felt guilty for not getting much done that day and my dad was like chill you were understandably
stressed out today stuff like that happens some days are just like that and i thought
you know what yeah i could sit here and continue regretting that waste of time and beating myself
up for not keeping better track of my airpods or i could just accept the fact that sometimes
things get misplaced it's annoying but it happens and just move on with my day
so to apply this mindset habit i think it's good to sit down with your journal and ask yourself
what are you beating yourself up about right now what are you dwelling on give yourself permission
to accept these things that doesn't mean that you don't try to change things like i still looked
for my air pods but i could have done it in a much calmer way and just accepted the fact that
okay i don't know where they are right now i'm gonna take some time off today to find them
and i'm 96 sure that by the end of this i will find them and everything will be all right
as somewhat of a recovering perfectionist and people pleaser i find it very difficult to
accept the slightest hint that i might have done something not perfectly however i also know that
constructive criticism can be one of the best ways to grow out of that little bubble that
you have for yourself so in my life two recent examples of seeking criticism have been number
one i really wanted to commit to doing all of my habits for the month of may and i have been
successful so far my accountability buddy love her bless her heart she is very understanding of when
i don't do the things that i said i was gonna do so at the start of may i said to her please keep
me accountable for this show no mercy i need to do this and on the very first day i actually did not
properly complete one of my habits and she called me out on that she said walking from your car
to the store does not technically count as going outside beatrice and i was surprised at how that
made me feel i felt like i'd done something so wrong and just screwed up and disappointed her
but i needed that once i worked through my bruised ego it actually motivated me to do better the next
day then more recently i was editing a weekly vlog video and those are kind of challenging to
edit because you have to take this gigantic jumble of footage and try to pull some kind of story out
of it and make sure the pacing is good that it's interesting that the storyline makes sense etc
so this might have been the very first time i've done this with a youtube video but i reached out
to a few people on instagram i said i want you to please give me your feedback on this video
do not be nice i want you to tell me exactly what works and what does not work
and even though every person of course phrased their messages in the nicest and most helpful way
i was scared to open up their messages as if the existence of any tiny bit of criticism meant that
i was bad at making videos but it was actually the opposite though that feedback was what
made the video better and i think that's what the indicator of a true professional
is is that they are willing to put themselves in a position where their work is being critiqued
so to apply this mindset to your life get out of your comfort zone and ask the people around you
or just random people on the internet like i did for feedback this could mean asking
someone to keep you accountable for something or sharing a project with someone and asking for
their honest feedback on it notice if this makes you uncomfortable and just know that gradually
you will get better at using this criticism to grow rather than taking it personally you
just kind of have to build up a thick skin to it so those are the mindset habits that i've
been working on make sure you check out my other mindset habits video before you go give this video
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