All right, my loves.
Let's talk about how to believe in yourself
and your vision, even if no one else does.
Self-belief is one of the foundational things
that you need in order to find success
and a fulfilling life.
You've got to believe in yourself
in order to get somewhere.
You can't really do anything difficult
if you don't believe in yourself.
If you have self-doubts along the way,
there's so many internal blocks
that are gonna stop you from executing
and seeing something through
because you don't believe you can truly do it.
Let's talk about honing
our self-belief and our self-confidence
in ourselves and our abilities,
and also in our visions
for what we wanna create in the world
or in our lives.
Exactly this time of year,
nine years ago was
the beginning of Lavendaire.
It was when I started to have these ideas
and started planning this
new YouTube channel that I was gonna launch,
and the spring always takes me back to that time,
especially this year.
This year is a funny year.
But I was reminded of how it felt
in that first year of
starting this YouTube channel.
I remember how I had to commit
to making a video every single week,
putting it out there for nobody to watch.
Literally nobody was watching these videos.
No one was really searching for these videos
in that time, 2014.
A lot of the topics that I talk about now,
personal development,
self-care, spirituality,
mindfulness,
whatever, it was very weird.
It wasn't mainstream.
Everything on YouTube
was just beauty and fashion,
and I really wanted to
go deeper and talk about life.
I wanted to talk about purpose,
how to overcome your fear,
how to change your limiting beliefs.
It's funny because when
I started the channel,
I had the intention for,
you know,
to talk about these topics.
And I knew it was not popular,
but something in me had like.
an intuitive knowing that there was a gap.
If no one's talking about this on YouTube.
I can talk about it.
That's a gap that I can fill.
And I truly believe that eventually,
more and more people
would care about things like
meditation and journaling
and want to relate
and talk about this kind of stuff.
I also remember a big struggle
in that time of my life
was dealing with the judgment
that I felt from my peers,
from society,
from my family,
and just doing something
that was not normal to people,
that people didn't understand.
People either didn't support.
or they looked down upon.
I truly had to commit to my vision.
and commit to doing the thing
for a long time before.
people started to get it,
before it finally started to become
what I had envisioned in my mind.
When I started Lavendaire,
I did have a vision
and a feeling of what it could be.
because I'm a dreamer.
I know how to envision it first.
But obviously when you're starting,
like your videos are bad
and it doesn't really look that great
and execution is not good.
People don't really understand
what you're trying to do.
People can't see what's in your mind.
Only you can see
what's in your mind and in your heart.
There will be times where
if you have a dream
or if you wanna do something,
you wanna create something,
the people around you
might not get it and
they might think you're dumb.
They might just judge you
and it's up to you to
not let that bother you.
Trust yourself,
trust your vision,
and truly believe in it
in order to give it the energy.
Nurture that idea for it to
begin to take form.
If you doubt yourself in the beginning,
you're not gonna get very far.
If you let what other people say.
Or think about your dream affect you,
you're not gonna get very far
because there's always gonna
be someone who doesn't agree with you
or who doesn't support
what you're doing or
who has some sort of judgment
And it's not because they're
a bad person or anything,
but it's just because
they don't see what you see.
Like their perspective is completely different.
How can you expect them
to understand what you see?
The first thing that I will say
about learning to believe in yourself
and your vision is you have to
truly lean into your intuition
and your inner wisdom
You have a voice inside
that is connected to
something bigger than you.
It's connected to the divine
and so trust in those
very organic feelings of,
oh I, I feel this is right,
this is the right path.
This is the right decision.
You have to get quiet with yourself.
You have to really
develop this relationship
with yourself in order
for that to feel stronger.
But each of us has that intuition
and that inner knowing.
Lean into that in order to be confident
in what you believe and
be confident in your vision
because it feels right to you.
The second thing is to learn
to set very good boundaries
that protect your energy and
protect your idea and your vision.
If you feel like your vision is
so out there and
a lot of people are gonna reject it,
then just don't tell them.
keep a boundary that protects you
from anything that takes you away
from that deep inner knowing
because we easily get swayed
by other people's opinions
and what they say.
If you're that type of person,
just keep it to yourself.
And if you do experience
other people giving you
that negative judgmental energy,
then remember to cleanse yourself from it
and I'm doing this because
I learned this exercise recently
from this healing guide teacher.
Basically, we all have auras
and we wanna protect our energy bubble.
Basically, you can do this in so many ways.
You can meditate and
imagine a bubble of energy,
some, maybe it's like a pink bubble
that you're in where you're protected
and negative energy, doesn't get to it.
You can visualize it
if you're a visual person.
Another thing that I was saying.
I learned recently is if you envision,
you have like an aura
and an energy bubble around you
and if you experience people's negativity
or whatever,
you can literally just shake your body
and do this.
If you imagine there's smoke here
and you do this like a zigzag motion,
like the smoke kind of disperses,
even if it's weird, try it.
You know, if you just clear your energy.
Or you can take a shower,
you know, showers literally
cleanse our energy.
You can go out in nature,
go for a walk because
I feel like nature cleanses our energy.
You just wanna purify,
cleanse and detach yourself
from any negative energy
from other people because
it's not your own.
Just focus on yourself,
your own inner knowing,
your own inner wisdom and
cleanse everything that is not serving you.
Another thing that's really important is
for you to get super clear on your vision
and your idea so that you can believe in it.
The more you can visualize it,
the more details you can imagine
about that future or that idea,
the more that you can truly
believe that it's possible.
I've mentioned this in.
previous manifestation videos,
but the things I used to do
in that first few years of
starting my channel
where no one was really watching Lavendaire,
I would Photoshop like my channel
and put like 1 million next to the subscribers,
even if I only had like 100 subscribers.
And I would put that on my vision board.
I would also write affirmations
of this new reality that I was creating
and I would read it to myself
every night and I repeat it in my mind
as I was going to sleep.
For example,
I would write something like,
I am inspiring and empowering millions
of people from around the globe
on improving their lives and all this stuff
and I was saying this,
even if the reality was so far from it,
I mean it is weird that I say that now
because I feel like I'm truly doing
that and the YouTube channel
just hit 2 million subscribers,
which I haven't acknowledged
on this channel yet.
Thank you.
Thank you guys.
It's funny cause my goal was always 1 million
and I never really set a goal above that.
So it's reality now.
But nine years ago,
It was so far from reality and
it was not like a very fast
or very clear road there.
Before some reason
I did truly believe in my vision
and this path just felt truly aligned
to what I was meant to be doing.
Like everything just felt so right
that I had that level of commitment.
Okay, this, I know I have to be patient,
but I believe that it's going to work out.
Another reason why this topic
came to my mind recently
was because I feel I'm in a stage of
my life where I am beginning again.
I am once again a beginner.
I am once again an amateur
and I'm going through those feelings
that I was going through in 2014
when I was just starting this channel.
And I'm referring to like the
new directions that I'm taking this year,
for example,
our new dream life club,
I'm doing monthly events where
I'm hosting workshops or
I'm inviting guests to host workshops
and we're doing something
that we've never really done before,
but it's something that I've been planning
or thinking about for over a year.
I thought it'd be so cool.
To have like monthly events
and to have a space to learn and
to grow together in community
that is something that is new,
it's a new direction
and I've been getting new ideas this year,
like new dreams.
And I think maybe it's
once you've gotten to a point
where you've achieved the dreams
that you've set for yourself before.
then, you're ready for something new,
the new chapters are coming and
then you have new dreams come to you.
Once again, I am feeling like I'm a beginner.
Obviously I've been doing this for nine years,
I have some level of experience
compared to when I was literally out of college.
But still I feel those feelings of,
okay, I have a vision for what
the future could be,
but I'm experiencing that feeling of
people not seeing my vision
and people not understanding it.
I'm dealing with that.
And that kind of reminds me and
brings me to my next point,
which is you just have to show them.
At the end of the day,
if people don't understand your vision,
it comes down to you learning to
communicate your vision.
That's number one is learning.
to communicate it clearly.
And in order to do that,
you have to get clear on what it is.
And the second part is
you just have to take action.
You just have to do it.
You just have to show them
and then they will get it.
I mean, that's what I had to do
with Lavendaire in the beginning.
Nobody really understood what it was,
what I was trying to do with it.
And you just gotta do it.
You just gotta do the thing
and get better at doing it
and show them.
I feel like when you are
gifted with a vision,
a vision of what your future could be
or something that you want to create.
That is your gift,
only you can see it
because only you can see it.
You are like the medium
to bring that vision to life.
You are the medium.
to take that vision from the ethers.
and through your actions, through you.
It becomes a reality in this physical world.
Don't feel discouraged if
you have a vision or a dream and
people don't believe in you
or they don't see it,
they don't believe it's possible,
like that's not their job.
Don't worry about it.
Just do it and show them.
Just build it and make it real
and then they'll eventually get it.
But the road to building it
and doing the thing is you
learning to believe in yourself
even when nobody else believes in you.
And it can be a very lonely journey.
But it's a journey of self-love and
it's everything we've talked about,
like learning to like know your worth,
feeling confident in yourself,
loving yourself,
Having all of those things
will help you believe in yourself
and it'll help you be so much stronger
in this journey because that's truly
the foundation of what you need.
In short,
your dreams don't have to
make sense to other people.
You don't even have to share it with other people.
If you wanna keep it to yourself,
if you wanna protect it for yourself,
that's totally okay as well.
But the most important thing is
you have to learn to believe in yourself,
believe in your vision,
trust that inner knowing and
that inner wisdom,
because it truly is a gift.
Only you can see it
and that is such a special thing
if you really think about it.
You know.
Think of all the artists right in the world,
the famous artists,
famous sculptors,
like only they had that vision and
only they were able to bring it to reality, right?
Think of entrepreneurs
only they have this vision of
what this company can become
and then they eventually do it
People can't see what you see.
And there's beauty in that.
There's something very special about that.
The last thing to note that is also very important
is to have patience for the journey.
Because in this journey,
like anything good,
anything difficult or challenging
is not gonna happen very fast.
Clearly you're gonna need
a lot of patience for this journey.
You're gonna have to
be patient with yourself,
you're gonna have to be patient with time
because things take time to do.
Also, don't compare your timeline
to anyone else's timeline.
We're all on our own paths
and it's not a race.
Don't feel like you're behind.
Don't worry about the time that it takes.
Just stay patient and keep going.
Keep taking action.
Keep manifesting,
keep setting your intentions
and being really focused,
putting all of your energy into it
and just do the thing and be patient.
Don't expect the results
because you know,
you can't really predict
when things will happen for you,
but you have to have that trust and that faith that it will happen for you.
That's what self-belief is.
It's just believing that it will happen.
But being super patient,
not expecting it to happen.
Like immediately.
Patience and perseverance.
Alright. Let me know down below,
how much do you feel like you
believe in yourself right now in your journey
from one to 10,
10 being the most,
one being the least.
Where are you right now
in your journey of self-belief?
And then let me know.
What you think will get you to
the next level of believing in yourself.
What are you going to do
in order to trust yourself
and believe in yourself more?
Let me know down below.
On that note,
I wanna wanna let you know
real quick that I am hosting
a Self-confidence workshop on April 20th.
It's gonna be a live Zoom event.
And even if you can't make the live event,
you can watch this video
after the event is over cause
it will be recorded.
If you wanna learn more
about that workshop,
I'll leave the link down below
where you can check it out.
It's part of our Dream Life Club.
If you're in the club,
you can attend that workshop.
It's part of your membership.
But if you're not in the club,
you can also get tickets
just for that workshop itself.
It's gonna be my first workshop
that I'm teaching personally.
for the Dream Life Club.
I am super excited.
Hope to see you there!
Alright,
I'll see you in the next video.
Bye.