Body Language: You've probably heard the saying that
seventy percent of all communication is
portrayed through body language think
about it before someone even open their
mouths
we already start assuming what they're
like just from the way they carry
themselves that's why in this video
you'll learn exactly how to portray
confident attractive and respectable
body language
we're going to cover everything from
your feet to the expressions on your
face and we're going to make sure you
have a full understanding of why certain
types of body language are good and why
certain types are bad so starting with
the feet you want to make sure that your
feet are shoulder length apart with your
toes pointing outward why
well the rule of thumb when it comes to
body language is that closing off your
body is associated with nervousness and
fear
hypothetically if someone was about it
hit you your instinct would be to close
off your body to cover your organs and
genitals open body language on the other
hand is associated with feeling relaxed
calm and confident so having your feet
apart toes pointing outwards is open
while having them together pointing
inwards is closed
moving onto your hands do not keep your
hands in your pocket
do not cross them do not have one hand
holding the arm of the other hand and if
you're at a party
do not hold a drink covering your chest
all of these are forms of closed body
language so what should I be doing with
my hands and arms instead it's best to
keep your hands at your sides relaxed
even if you have a drink if you're
speaking with someone you can use your
hands to emphasize certain points if you
want to ask me to adjust one part of the
body that would have the biggest
influence on how people perceive you
it would have to be the chest this is
actually the area that people have
problems with the most a lot of us have
what are called rounded shoulders
shoulders arcs forward pass the next
largely due to our culture which is
increasingly dependent on computer usage
the ideal way to hold your chest is to
have your chest out words and your
shoulders back like in this image here
for those of you who have a posture
problems with the years of computer
usage there are a lot of exercises out
there that will help straighten your
back and fix your shoulders moving on to
the head
you should stand straight with your head
in line with the rest of your body your
head should be facing forward
you don't want to tilt it down as it
seems to some misses you don't want to
tilt it up too much as it seems to
arrogance the face is a large part of
how people perceive you during
interactions there are two things that
you want to focus on the first is I
contact chances are if you're watching
this video you're not making enough i
contact especially if you're a male
strong eye contact is a huge indicator
for confidence i'm sure you've met
people seemed totally normal but just
could not maintain eye contact
this makes the interaction feel very
uncomfortable and they come off as very
very unconfident the magic ratio you
want to maintain is a t20 you want to
spend eighty percent of the time during
the conversation making eye contact and
twenty percent of the time letting your
eyes wander this way you seem very
confident very interested in what the
other person is saying but at the same
time you don't come off as creepy
the second thing you want to focus on is
your smile do not have one of those
giant teeth showing smiles plastered on
your face
24-7 because well it actually seemed
nervous these smiles seem forced and
speak instead it's best to have a subtle
grin like you're having a good day
this projection or of happiness but
seems genuine and not forced now don't
get me wrong it's perfectly okay to
smile with the teeth but save it for
those special occasions now that we've
covered what good body language looks
like let's talk about how you should
move your body the world of dumb when it
comes to movement is slow slow slow
the slower you move the more confident
you seem a lot of us are problems of
fast digital movement you know we like
to touch our face or player for hands
and this just screams arm nervous it
makes you look like you're on the edge
all of the time
the reason we want to stray away from
nervous behavior so much is that
emotions get transferred if you're
nervous
the people you're interacting with will
feel uncomfortable as well they feel as
if something is wrong and this hinders
your overall likability well how should
we move
honestly you can move pretty slow
without it looking weird
just don't move
too slow like you're in the matrix the
last concept we're going to talk about
is space this relates a lot for the open
and close body language concept that we
spoke about earlier the more space you
take up the more comfortable and
confident you seem when you a desk
spread your belongings don't be afraid
to have some space between your phone
and your notebook but don't be that guy
who takes up three feet with his book
bag and jacket when you're sitting don't
be afraid to sit with your legs apart
drape your arms on the chair next to you
if it's empty
do not be afraid to open up your body
and that's it if you want to be
perceived as more confident look more
attractive and gain more respect you
just have to keep in mind these concepts
stay away from close body language move
slower take up more space and increased
amount of eye contact you make by making
these changes i can all hundred percent
guarantee you'll see an improvement in
your social interactions whether beyond
think during meetings at parties or even
just hanging out with your friends