first things first well casters if at
any time your safety is in jeopardy
call 911 a tional domestic violence
hotline one eight hundred seven nine
nine safe there's nothing more important
than your health and well-being
what do you do if you're in a romantic
relationship with somebody who
physically emotionally or sexually
abuses you it's possible that you don't
even recognize the fact that you're
being abused in fact twenty-eight
percent of young adults have experienced
violence in a romantic relationship like
healthy relationships abusive
relationships have ups and downs and
it's easy to write off the bad moments
when you're in a good one however an
abusive relationship is not a normal
relationship and the strategy for ending
an abusive relationship is fundamentally
different on today's webcast we're going
to show you how to tell if you're in
this kind of relationship and how to
safely get out of it ASAP know this
you're not alone and there's never too
deep a hole that you can't pull yourself
out of it help is out there you just
have to recognize that you need it
step one admit to yourself that you're
in an abusive relationship people often
assume that relationships are
categorized as abusive only if physical
violence is involved this isn't true
there are many different kinds of abuse
and unhealthy relationships exist on a
spectrum it's not always easy to
determine if a relationship you once
thought was healthy is cross the line
here are a couple of warning signs you
should look out for if you suspect that
your partner is abusive we got these
from an awesome resource that you should
check out love is respect org do they
constantly put you down especially in
front of others are they extremely
jealous do they easily lose their temper
did they try to keep you away from your
friends or family do they physically
hurt you have friends and family members
warned you about this person too
nobody deserves this everyone deserves
to be safe
in other words build your army try to
spend as little time as possible alone
with your abusive partner make sure your
friends and family know to surround you
at this time have them call you to check
in on you periodically and always let
them know where you're going you're also
pretty emotionally vulnerable right now
use these people as support let them
remind you why you should be treated
well you deserve to be in the company of
people who actually care about your
safety
after all this situation is not your
fault it has everything to do with your
partner's emotional problems something
you cannot even begin to fix step 3 plan
a safe break up tell people close to you
family friends that you're planning on
getting out of this relationship be is
honest with them as possible and tell
them that you're going to need their
help in the coming weeks next figure out
how you're going to deliver the news if
you're scared of your partner's reaction
you do not have to do this in person
again normal healthy relationship rules
do not apply here if you do decide to
meet in person please bring someone with
you and do it in public this should be a
short conversation explain that you're
leaving and explain why
once it's your decision not your
partners don't change your story make
excuses or apologize then leave quickly
take your army go do something that
makes you feel happy and healthy with
the people that you love for turn to
someone who's in a position to help you
out there are a lot of great resources
out there for this type of situation
again you don't have to go through this
alone reach out to people you trust all
the better if it's someone who has
experience or ability to help you if
you're too scared to talk to someone you
know contact one of these three
resources
you
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