Hello, my wonderful friend! Let's talk about sneaky ways girls test your confidence. This
is how to pass her tests the right way. Yes, there's a right way and a wrong way, you need to
know the right way. Okay, a little bit of real talk. Have you ever heard that women test men,
that's just the way they are? Or maybe you've even felt like maybe this gal you knew was testing you.
Let's be perfectly honest, that's frustrating, right? It is hurtful. It makes you feel like you
have to prove you're good enough, right? And it leaves the relationship or potential relationship
feeling pretty empty and like you have to prove your worth to this gal. Well you're about to learn
some pretty surprising things about how to pass her tests and why women test men. But first,
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I'm about to say something that you did not expect when you clicked on this video. It is not okay for
a woman to test you. There is so much noise online about how to pass her tests and why women test men
and sneaky ways women test men. But what you need to understand first and foremost is that the fact
that a woman is testing you is actually a sign of a toxic woman. Toxic women test men all day long.
A classy woman, a high quality woman, would never test you. Allow me to explain. A classy woman
is going to pay attention. She needs to know if you're compatible, right? That's the whole point
of dating, is seeing if you guys are going to work together. If you haven't yet seen this video
make sure you watch it. I'll put a link in the description below. I explained this a little
bit more in that video. It's gonna blow your mind. It's gonna rock your world. Bottom line,
a classy woman is going to see if you are going to be a good husband and a good father, but she
will never test you. Number one, she honestly does not have time. She's out living a good life. She
does not have time to play mind games with you. Number two, a classy woman, a high quality woman,
has far too much respect for you to test you. And number three, she honestly doesn't care. She does
not care to take the time to test you. But toxic women on the other hand, toxic women love drama,
they love mind games, they love control. They get an actual thrill out of it. Something many people,
most people, don't know is that drama is actually as addictive as some of the most addictive drugs.
And toxic women love drama. Anytime one person is testing another it puts them on a pedestal above
the other person. So if she is testing you she's saying, "I'm a little bit better than you. See if
you can live up to it." That is toxic. A classy woman would never do that to you. This is why
you cannot create a healthy relationship playing mind games like testing. When I teach about this
in my program and how to avoid relationships like this I explain the signs of the siren. Now
if you are familiar with mythology you probably know about sirens. They are mythical creatures,
beautiful female mythical creatures, that would sing so sweetly and literally lure
sailors to their deaths. They would jump onto the rocks to be with these sirens.
Toxic women are really the same way which is why I explain it this way in my program.
They make it appear really attractive and really charming and really appealing, but really they
don't have your best interest in mind. The good news is once you understand what a toxic woman is,
how to avoid women like that, and how to instead create a healthy relationship, that's what allows
you to finally leave toxic relationships in your past and instead attract and find a classy
high quality woman. So right here, right now, we are going to go over some signs that she is
testing you. And really all they are is signs of a toxic woman as well. Understanding these things
will help you start to avoid women like that and help you get the respect that you deserve.
Sound good? Let's dive in. Okay, the first sneaky sign a girl is testing your confidence,
sign of a toxic woman, is if she plays hard to get. A lot of people try to play this off as
innocent and flirtatious and charming and fun. But if you look at it at its core, do
you want to know what playing hard to get is? It's withholding affection. It's withholding support
just to get what you want. Do you really want to marry someone like that? Do you really want
to date someone like that? That's not a real relationship. A relationship like this can have
no closeness. So she acts like she doesn't like you just to get your attention or if she waits
a certain amount of time before she can talk to you again, all of these playing hard to get games,
they're nothing more than mind games and a very good sign that she's testing you, that she is a
toxic woman. If you have not yet seen this video on the theory of once you stop caring she starts
chasing, do yourself a favor and watch that one right now. I'll put a link in the description
to that as well. Okay, our next sneaky way toxic girls test your confidence is if she's always late
and she has no respect for your time. Now she's always going to have a really legitimate sounding
excuse, and she's going to be charming. Toxic people are charming. If they weren't charming no
one would play their game so they are always very careful to be charming. But if you pay attention,
you see them for what they really are. Now she'll probably have really good excuses,
but if you notice she just does not respect your time, she's late for everything, she is testing
you. She's trying to see how much manipulation she can get away with. She's trying to see where your
boundaries are. And if you don't set boundaries, oh my goodness, you're the perfect guy for a
toxic woman to prey on. So pay attention. If she's always late for everything, if she doesn't respect
your time, that is a sign of a toxic woman. Our next sneaky way a girl tests your confidence is
if she's hot and she's cold. This is another trait that media often tries to glamorize, but it's just
because they're trying to convince you that's as good as it gets, okay? Toxic women, toxic people,
want you to believe that toxic habits are normal, that that's as good as it gets. Because if you
believe that's as good as it gets then you've got to settle for a toxic woman, right? Guys, a classy
woman would never play hot and cold with you. She just would not. She has too much self-respect and
she has too much respect for you. Plus, she's got way better things to do with her time than
play hot and cold with you. So if you notice that she's hot and then she's cold, she's super super
nice and really wants to get to know you and then she like doesn't want anything to do with you,
that is playing hot and cold. A really really good analogy for this is like fishing. Reel them in,
reel them out. Toxic people will be super super nice and awesome and make you think that they are
the nicest person in the world and then once you've let your guard down then they kind of
flip that switch and then they start being a jerk again. And if they start feeling you go,
"Whoa, what just happened?" then they're like super nice again. It's this hot and cold game that
is exhausting. Can you imagine a relationship with someone like that? It is completely exhausting and
it doesn't fill your needs in the relationship, right? So by now you may be thinking, "Wow,
I've known some really toxic women." Or you may even be thinking, "Whoa, why do I only attract
toxic women? Why are these types of relationships the only kinds of relationships I've ever had?"
Is that you right now? Are you thinking that? Here's why that happens. Most people
only teach you the skills that attract toxic women. And if those are the only skills you have
that's all you can attract. What you need instead are the skills that allow you to attract those
classy women. You need to understand the basics of healthy relationships, what that even looks like,
and how you create that. Because again, if you've been taught all these skills that attract toxic
women you have no idea how to create that happy relationship that you really deserve. This is
why my program focuses on teaching you those skills, so that you make finding and attracting an
amazing gal who will treat you right, who will love you with her whole heart, so you make that
simple and automatic instead of all this wasted time and heartache on these bad relationships. To
learn more about that make sure you watch my free masterclass at coachmelannie.com/masterclass. I'll
put a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comment. If you are sick and tired of
bad relationships, or if you even just want to make sure you always avoid them in the future,
you must know these things so make sure you give it a watch now. Okay, are you ready for our next
sneaky way a girl tests your confidence, a toxic sign? This sign is that she embarrasses you,
especially if she embarrasses you in front of people. This is a classic way toxic people
will test you, test your confidence, test your boundaries, see how much they can get away with.
People who are embarrassed are easy to control. I want you to remember that. People who are
embarrassed are easy to control. They back down immediately because you're humiliated. So they
will embarrass you in public. They will find out what things you are really self-conscious about
and they'll display it for everyone to see and they'll make fun of you and they'll poke fun of
you and make you feel stupid. So if you're in a situation where a girl is embarrassing you in
private or in public it's a very good sign that, yes, she's testing you and she is toxic. Okay,
this sign is going to surprise you. I can almost guarantee you've never heard this before. This
sign, this way that she tests your confidence, this toxic trait, is if she shows too much
skin. We live in a world that glorifies how much skin you show and pretends it's confidence when in
reality, guys, that's a toxic trait. Toxic women will purposefully show a lot of their bodies
in order to control and manipulate you. It accomplishes a couple of things. Number one, it
distracts you, okay? If she can distract you with her body you can't pick up on the manipulation
that she's using. She knows that if she does that she can get away with anything. A second
reason toxic women will do this is to embarrass you. Let's be real, somebody showing that much
of themselves when they're not your spouse is inappropriate. And so it will embarrass
people whether they know it or not. And again, someone who is embarrassed is easy to control.
Now a third reason toxic women will do this is they really have nothing else to offer, okay?
A toxic person does not have anything to offer in a relationship and so she will use that as
the only way to attract you. So if you notice a woman shows a ton of skin a lot of the time it's
probably for a reason. Okay, quick question before we keep going. Are you enjoying this video? Is it
helpful and freeing to understand the lies you're being taught so instead you can get that healthy
relationship? Because it's frustrating to feel like you're in that hamster wheel, right? "Why do
I keep having these bad relationships?" It's good to instead just know the truth. Should I make more
videos like this? If I should, in the comments, comment "healthy relationships" to let me know
that you want more myth debunking videos. I love making these for you. Your feedback helps me so
much. So again, if you want more videos like this, comment "healthy relationships" in the comments
below. Okay, our next sneaky way a girl will test your confidence if she's toxic, I have to say
that every time, is if she uses you financially. Does she only want to hang out when she's hungry?
Does she always ask you for gifts, or ask you to pay for certain things or buy her certain things?
That is a really good sign that she's just using you, she's just testing you, she's just seeing
how much she can get away with. Now I'm not saying that you shouldn't ever spend money,
and I'm not saying you shouldn't pay for the date because that actually shows a massive
amount of confidence, okay? So it's not that you shouldn't pay for the date, it just means
if she's using you financially all the time she has no self-respect, she has no respect for you,
and she's a toxic woman. A classy woman would never dream of using you that way. Our next sneaky
way a girl will test your confidence if she's toxic is if she belittles people in front of you.
It may be your family, it may be your friends, it may be people who have similar interests to you.
If she belittles people a lot it's a way of keeping you in your place,
letting you know not to step out of line because you'll be stupid like those people.
Okay, by now we've talked a lot about some of the signs of a toxic woman and someone you certainly
don't want a relationship with. But I'm going to share with you one sign right here right now that
is not necessarily a sign that she's a toxic person. A lot of people think it is a sign,
but it's actually not. A lot of men come to me every day saying, "Melannie,
we started dating, I thought things were going really good, and she just lost interest, or she
just started ghosting me, and I have no idea what happened. I think she might be toxic." And I start
to talk to them and I realize, no, in this case she was not toxic. As a matter of fact, guys,
almost every single time it's not because she's toxic. So what causes this? Why does this happen?
It's like I mentioned earlier. If you've only been taught the skills that will attract a toxic woman
that's not what a classy woman is looking for. So initially she's attracted to you, she wants to get
to know you better, and then she sees, "This guy has no idea what a healthy relationship means.
He doesn't know how to create it." And the truth is it's very simple to create, but if you don't
know how to create it it doesn't matter, right? And that's what causes her to lose interest,
that's what causes her to move on and go find someone instead who does have those skills, who
does understand these things. So the solution is simple, right? The solution is to learn the skills
that do in fact attract a classy woman and starts repelling those toxic women. So at this point, if
you want to make sure you do get that dream girl instead of settling for a terrible relationship,
the kind of relationship most people say is normal which in fact is not, if you are sick of that
hamster wheel of those bad relationships, the solution for you, what you must do, is you must
learn those skills. This is exactly what I teach as a coach. To learn more about this, watch my
free masterclass at coachmelannie.com/masterclass. I have helped hundreds of men with this,
guys. I have seen it absolutely transform their lives. They're getting crazy awesome results,
and I know it's going to benefit you as well. So make sure you give that a watch. There's a link in
the description and a link in the pinned comment. Now what I want you to remember from this video is
that even if everybody else says it's normal for women to treat you that way, it in fact is not.
That's a lie toxic people want you to believe. A classy woman is going to treat you amazing. You're
going to be her knight in shining armor, you're going to be her prince charming, and she's just
going to want to love you for you. The key is to make sure you understand how to find her and how
to attract her. Thank you so much for watching, my amazing friend! If you enjoyed what you saw
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