-HappilyEverHanks back at ya. This week with a new topic and...
Just a little more cringe.
-Oooooh.
-Like you didn't get enough.
-We are deep diving behind the scenes of HappilyEverHanks. And you know what?
You guys are gonna find out...
Is HappilyEverHanks always happy?
-Yes. Yes. Yes we are.
-Uh...let me be the judge of that.
-Seriously, just give me a little space.
Just a little. -Where? -Back off. -What space?
-There is just not a lot of space. And we gotta say, we're forewarning ya.
When you leave your home and you get out here on the road.
Don't have too many expectations with all the breathing room.
-You're gonna be down each other's backs all the time.
(loud breathing)
-Is that how you breathe down people's backs?
-I was gonna say breathe down people's necks.
Get off me. You're crazy.
You know what's a great thing is I think we nailed it.
Not at first though. It took a couple years.
-Well 27-foot travel trailer at first, it was kind of hard.
-But now four years later of full-time rving. We've kind of come up with a little routine.
-We're still stressed.
-And we know each other's pet peeves like the back of our hand. But we'll get into that later.
I want to talk about your pet peeves more than anything.
-No don't. -I do.
I did think of something though. -Okay. -When we have our morning routines.
We're able to give each other space by waking up at separate times.
-Oh that's good. Yeah, yeah. Share it with them. Don't look at me. Look, tell them. Tell them.
-When we wake up at separate times, it takes the pressure off.
Because if you're both waking up at the same time, you're both likely to go use the bathroom at the same time.
Or want to make a cup of coffee at the same time.
-As you know, the Hanks are not morning people. -Well I am.
But I don't want to bring... Like we said, we're not going to bring up those pet peeves quite yet.
But when you're cooking dinner in the kitchen, I kind of let you do your thing.
I try not to like overlap the activities. It gets a little stressful.
-Yeah. And if I need help in the kitchen, I'm like here's an onion. Go chop it over there.
Go outside and chop this onion. Because there's no room here. Okay?
-Are you okay with this so far? Because...
It's gonna get more cringy because you guys love the cringy.
You've been nailing it down in the comments saying love the cringe.
So tell us about your cringy moments and how you deal with them out on the road.
How do you and your significant other manage each other living in such a small space? -Yeah.
-Throw it down in the comments.
-What are the expectations when you get out here with your significant other on the road? Let me just think, hmm?
How do I put this? Things will go wrong.
But how could they go wrong when you're living the dream.
Oh my god. It's already... -Ahh.
-Oh this is gonna be good. What is that? -No way.
-That stinks.
-I fell. -Put that fan on.
-Oh it's worse up here. It's venting it all up into here.
-I see what you did there because we're all living the dream out here.
-Things won't go wrong. It's just the best.
-It's not like some fantasy world when you get out on the road
and everything's just gonna be amazing with doves flying.
Life is still going to throw its challenges at you. -Yeah. -So when we say don't have too high of expectations.
Or don't expect too much. We're saying just take the load and the pressure off yourself.
And be able to roll with the punches.
-What we're saying is be ready to have like those moments that just slap you in the face.
And now you and your partner like have to figure it out together.
Have those conversations like hey...
We're gonna hit the road full-time. And like a tire might blow out. And like...
How are we... What are we gonna do like...
But you know what I'm saying?
-I think so.
-We get a lot of questions about how do you like...
hide gifts from each other? And what do you do about like buying gifts for each other?
I think you kind of are getting a little trend because you've seen it on our videos recently.
-So yes, I'm getting the Blackstone.
Shh. Don't tell her the secret though.
I got the last one. All the other RVers are gonna come get me.
-You gotta get creative, right? -Get creative. Add a little extra pepper into it. And just have fun with it.
-For the most part, you live in an RV, so you don't really have like a place to put things.
You know what I'm saying? -I got one. Find something you both want.
Hey we've been wanting a washer and dryer. So be like...
We're gonna buy a washer and dryer and install it and that will be kind of like a little gift to each other. -Yeah.
Or... -Okay. -Let's not get anything at all and let's go on a vacation.
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Something else that needs to be talked about when it comes to like
going RVing with your significant other is like your roles and responsibilities.
-Nice. -Because there's a lot of expectations out here. Here we go with the expectations.
The man needs to do the black tank.
And the man needs to back up the RV.
And the man needs to do all the... Hey. -We're a team here.
-If you switch the roles around and experiment with the roles. Maybe you'll find something that works better for you.
-Get out there, learn how to hook up the fifth wheel together.
Learn how to fix the water heater together. -Yeah, ladies get in there.
-Level the playing field a little bit. And just go at it together as a team.
-So we have friends that we are hanging out with right now.
And they reverse the typical roles of backing up the RV. -That's crazy.
-The wife backs up the RV and the husband directs her. -You can't do that.
Yes you can. -I love that and it makes so much sense guys, if you think about it. -Totally.
-He is telling her what to do from... Like he's like you need to turn your wheel this way or that way.
And she does it and it works. So...
-How many times have we been in this situation. I'm like what do you need me to do?
Where do you need the trailer? And you're like I don't know.
And I have to get out and go assess it. So...
We might get spicy here and try this out. -Is there something in there? -My ear's itchy. -Ugh.
Aren't we just happily ever after Hanks? -Can I get a hashtag team hanks?
-If you are worried you and your significant other are gonna have a hard time with
backing up the trailer with that communication. I have a little test.
Go rent a tandem kayak and see if you guys can paddle across the river or across the lake together.
Because I've been in boats with people before where I'm like get me out of this thing.
-And when you say people you mean your husband.
That's fantastic. -Now we need to do this... in the future. -We've already done this in the past.
-And we flipped the boat. (laughing)
There's a concern when you get on the road like who decides where you go?
-Oh my goodness. -How's that going on?
(Kyle yelling)
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-You gotta constantly communicate with one another and be like what are our plans this year?
And where do you want to go?
-If it has nothing to do with family then we sit down together and we decide where do we want to go?
You know? It's all about communication.
-We work with each other as best as we can and make it happen. And that's where...
Just talking to one another really helps. -It really helps if you talk to each other.
-Easy. We're just... we're right there. -Listen. Don't listen to her, guys.
Listen to me. -It's right there. -It's... it's right. -It's so amazing. And I have the stick readily accessible. It's amazing.
-I can't work in these conditions.
-You can't just copy what I say and use it for yourself. Give me that stick.
This is leading up to something I've been wanting to say for the longest time.
There's gonna be fights. No doubt. -It's happening. It's gonna happen. -Disagreements.
Bickering. Barking. Nagging.
Yes, HappilyEverHanks bickers.
-Oooh, do we?
-I'm gonna let you take it from here. -Oh. Thanks Carl.
Hey. You learn to come to resolutions much much faster because you're in such a tight spot.
-And you know, finding that balance with one another of knowing what each other needs.
-Yeah. -When it's happening really helps our resolution come about quicker too.
-Here's the thing. Pet peeves, you know, if there's something your significant other does that bothers you.
For example like whistling.
That doesn't bother me. I'm just giving an example.
But if your significant other whistles and that bothers you in a sticks or bricks, guess what?
-What? -It's gonna bother you much much more in a smaller living space.
-Find a way to make that space work for you guys. If you need to go take a walk.
Walk off the fumes. -Yes. Like literally just get out. Take a walk. Take a breather.
Part ways, okay? We're not saying you have to sit there and figure it out with one another.
That's okay too because if you don't want to be outside and having the whole RV campground hear your argument.
Then you got to be inside and you got to come to a resolution.
-These walls are thin too. -Yes. -So... -They'll hear it. -They'll hear it.
So you gotta figure. It's got to put the adult pants on.
The big boy pants and just be like I gotta get over it because we're a team now.
-Everyone's got things that trigger their partner.
-Oh my gosh. -Not me. -No, never you.
-But yeah like be aware that hey I probably do stuff that annoys my partner.
So I need to like not do that.
If you had issues in your sticks and bricks. You know like baggage with your relationship.
Buying an RV and hitting the road and finding your like dream and inner whatever.
That is not gonna fix any of that. It's gonna come with you.
-It's gonna like magnify it. It's not like... -Yeah. -Yeah. Yeah. It's like we're having a fight, let's have a baby.
That's gonna fix it, you know? Just ain't gonna happen. -Right.
-Lay it out on the table. Open honesty with one another. Being honest with yourself is huge. -Yes.
And you know what guys?
It helps when...
-Yeah? -He's your best friend.
You're my best friend.
-Okay. Alrighty.
It's kind of like those pet peeves where we just like you're laying in bed all morning. And...
I'm getting the day started you know?
-Really? Seriously? -Yeah. -Okay so...
It's okay when um you're laying in bed and I gotta get up and get the day started.
But you laying in bed is okay? That's no problem?
Well I want to get the day... I want to get things started. I want to make my cup of coffee.
I want to actually sit down and just write out... -So what I'm doing is not getting the day started?
-Okay, why don't you just let your true color shine right now?
Lay it out on the table. -No we're just. -Seriously?
(bickering continues)