Renee: Did you know that you can actually die from a broken heart and that doctors
have prescribed people going through breakups with broken heart syndrome if
you have lost the girl that you love and you want to win her back then be
prepared for some open-heart surgery in this video as I want to give you five
practical tips to win the ex-girlfriend back I'm Renee sanski for the attractive
man and it's my job as a coach to help you become the most desirable and
confident man that you can possibly be if you've ever had a girl leave you or
currently are going through a breakup and you're planning to get her back then
you are going to want to take notes in this video the first thing I'm going to
do is help you get out of that depressive slump because it's not
attractive or productive and even if you are a great guy chances are right now
you're coming across as a sad sandwich then I'm actually going to give you five
things that you can instantly do in order to be able to get her thinking
about wanting to have a future with you again the first thing we need to do is
get you into a good headspace the thing you need to understand is that it is
totally normal to feel stuck and crap right now breakups suck especially if
you are still in love with a woman because essentially it's like having to
grieve somebody that is still alive what you are feeling is totally normal and it
does not make you weak or too emotional for wanting to have her back the thing
is love makes us do crazy things and breakups makes us do even stupider
things so before you do something silly or before you jump the gun before she's
ready to actually consider taking you back those things that I want you to do
right now the first is to reset your mind and your personal space now what I
mean by this is we have to kind of get your brain out of that place that it is
right now that is keeping you really feeling depressed and having degenerate
thinking and when our thoughts aren't healthy our actions and our words
usually aren't going to be the best for us either so what I want you to do is I
she wants you to grab pen and paper and I want you to write a list of all the
great things that you do love about yourself and what you actually do bring
to a relationship which are worth noting we have to start focusing on your
positive things not your faults then I want you to clear out your environment I
want you to do a little bit of a spring clean in your personal home and also
your work don't keep things that you don't need check out what it is that
isn't necessary because I want you to make sure that the environment around
you is positive productive and effective so that you can start having more
healthy thinking number two I want you to go and do some exercise regularly the
thing is when we go through breakups it really drains us emotionally and
physically so I want you to try to commit to at least 20 to 40 minutes of
exercise three times a week so that you can start to really boost your
endorphins again also your testosterone levels and of course clear your mind
number three start focusing on building other areas of your life what happens is
is when we go through a breakup it's almost like we have this tunnel vision
just on that problem and we start to neglect other areas of our life which
then start to fall apart and so we just feel that we're not getting anywhere so
what you need to do is you need to make a list of goals of all those different
areas whether it is your finances your passions your fitness your career and
then print that list out and actually put it somewhere where you can see it so
that you have something to work towards to keep you accountable and also the
actions that you need to do daily in order to be able to achieve those things
so that your life feels that it is still being fulfilled in some way now the
fourth thing to do to get you out of your funk is of course to schedule some
fun into your week when we are going through breakups the last thing that we
usually want to do is get out and socialize because we just want to heal
our heart but what that can do is essentially put us in isolation and make
us overthink everything and probably do things that we shouldn't do breakups
make you four miserable companies so what we need to do is almost trick your
brain into thinking that you're still having a good time even if the situation
isn't ideal what I recommend for there is actually committing to things that
you know are going to make you have a good time or at least put you in an
environment where you can possibly have a good time now whether that is hanging
out with the boys or joining a Facebook group or a meetup.com group I want you
to start planning things into your calendar at least once to twice a week
that are going to get you out of the house put you around other people and
remind you that life is still worth living and the last thing to do to
really get you in the right mentality before I teach you how to win her back
is you have to ask yourself hard question should you even really get back
together when you're going through a breakup you can really lose perspective
on whether or not you should even begin another relationship with that person so
it's time to get some perspective so ask yourself why did you break up in the
first place and what I like to do is actually make a
list of pros and cons make sure that there's not a whole heap of red flags in
the cons list that are just going to keep repeating themself hence why your
relationship fell apart and you want to make sure that anything that you have in
the pros list are things that just add surface quality things like she is a
nice butt or we had great sex don't forget that getting back together
doesn't guarantee that that relationship is going to be able to move forward it's
really important if you want to have a fighting chance in order for that
relationship to work out the second time around that during this period of
breaking up there has to be growth in between whether that's growth for
yourself for her and an understanding of how to actually make this relationship
not be a repeat of the past now before I jump into the secrets on how to actually
win her back and give you some really practical tips I want you to hit the
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will help you during this process okay let's talk about winning her back the
end goal of getting back with an ex is that the relationship should always be
better than what it was before not a repeat of the past the first thing that
you need to do is show her that things are different
woman won't even consider getting back into a relationship with you if she's
just going to think it's going to be round two of heartache and really trust
and communication needs to be rebuilt again and the best way to do that is
less talk and more action you can't win her back overnight
unfortunately this is going to be a marathon not a race and you're going to
have to pace yourself and go slowly the reason why is you want to show her that
you are being consistent and not feeding her false hope when you promise her
something even something as simple as hey I'll send you a text tonight
actually do it follow through make sure that your words and actions line up with
each other so that she knows that things are going to be different this time
around because you are a man of your word if you have identified why the
relationship broke down in the first place you want to actually communicate
that to her tell her that you realize this is why it fell apart
and that you're actively doing something about it to make sure that it doesn't
happen again this will make her feel secure in the
thought that you are first aware and that you're actually doing something
about it so that you can have a fighting chance to have a healthy relationship
number two trigger an emotional response by talking about good memories look
chances are you had some great times in your relationship and that is what you
want to focus on every time you actually talk to her when we go through a breakup
and we're trying to win somebody back we tend to just focus on all the problems
that need to be fixed but you need to actually balance that out with all the
good things that you actually had in the first place hence why you're trying to
fight and save it and reconcile remember women actually respond to more emotional
based conversation rather than logic that's why if you can paint a picture in
her mind every single time that really pulls on her heartstrings and her memory
then she's going to be more open to realizing that she actually had
something great with you now this is actually really easy to do it could be
something as simple when you hear a song on the radio that reminds you of her
record the song on your phone and then send it to her a message yeah and say do
you remember when we heard this song together at the
so and we had this crazy night and you fell down the stairs then I rescued you
whatever it is that's relevant okay or if you've seen a picture or a puppy or
something that you know that you will both have a giggle about or it
represents a good time that you had together in that relationship take a
photo of it and send it to her and say something as simple as remember this
time or remember that or remember this Facebook is really good for this because
we get Facebook memories so if you have a facebook memory pop up which has a
photo of the two of you in the Bahamas then send that to her by messenger and
say remember when we had such an amazing time on this holiday remember you want
to keep reinforcing in her mind that you actually had something amazing together
and the best way to do that is simply trigger the good memories number three
learn her love language guys this is something that if you can do this you're
going to be set up for life in fact I even have a male clone say to me that
this book that I'm about to recommend you which is the five love languages by
dr. Gary Chapman is dangerous because once you know how to actually use the
tools in this book you can almost make any single woman fall in love with you
if you're not aware what the five love languages are then I suggest that you
buy the book and you read it in fact I get every single one of my clients both
male and female to read the book and it changes their relationships essentially
the way it works is there's five different ways in which we give and
receive love and they are gifts quality time acts of service physical touch and
words of affirmation now just because you may have been giving your girlfriend
gifts in the past Sharon who is presents roses money whatever and you wanted to
do that to show your love for her if her way to feel love was actually when you
spent quality time with her but you never really did that then you can see
why you're getting this divide and you can get my point so if you want to
actually communicate to her that you want to make this work next time around
and that you actually really still do love her work out what her love
languages and then just do that every single time that you interact with her
never for show her what she's missing by coming across as really happy and
confident even if you don't feel it now this is where we kind of use a little
bit of reverse psychology in order to be able to get her curious about what it is
that she's missing out on when she's not with you essentially you want her to see
you as the best version of yourself so that she can fall back in love with you
so ideally you want to steer clear of any sort of negative self-talk or
posting drunk selfies on your social media make sure that whenever you do
communicate with her which I do encourage you to do that it's actually
positive that it is encouraging that it isn't talking about your depressive
state or your broken heart all the time whilst it's important to be open about
how you feel make sure that the conversation is mainly around the good
things that you're doing right now because you want to come across that you
are healed confident and growing even if you don't really feel that you have
arrived at that point yet and I will say these guys make sure that you look after
your appearance shave shower wear some aftershave wear your best clothes every
single time that you have an opportunity that you might meet her or that you're
going to post a photo on Instagram then of course when she actually reaches out
to you to comment on how fabulous you look you want to actually equate that to
the fact that well yeah I've been working on myself I realized that I had
a few things to actually do within me and you know you inspired me to be able
to do that so I have to give you some of the credit spark their curiosity within
her and then reward her with hints that this is the new version of you that is
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the image above okay guys and number five super important if you want to win
your ex-girlfriend back then you have to
reach out to her but with a strategy don't go and send her I miss you text at
4 a.m. in the morning or essays of how you screwed up and why you want her back
as I said before this is a marathon not a sprint and you're going to have to do
it gradually over time to really once again build that trust and attraction
between you two now the first thing you actually want to do is have no contact
for the first two weeks so that you can really clear your head and give her an
opportunity to miss you that means no contact like don't texture
don't like some of her social media stuff no contact now after the two-week
period if you know it's right to get back with her then it's time to reach
out via a text message send her a simple message with a memory trigger saying
something along the lines of saw this and it made me think of you what you
want to do is you want to consistently send her a short text messages over the
next couple of weeks that indicate that you're thinking about her and that you
miss her but you're not necessarily about to go into a serenade of why you
miss her and how much you want her back then when she's got comfortable with
seeing that you're thinking about her and that you do miss her you want to
start leading into more positive and longer sort of conversations ask her how
is her day going if you know that she's had a couple of big projects on because
maybe you've seen it through social media follow up and say to her hey I saw
that you got that promotion at work congratulations I think it's really
well-deserved how such-and-such going by the way the
keys obviously to start to build some sort of rapport between you two that is
positive and familiar now if you do actually get stuck with not being able
to text her back straightaway or you've left it a day in between give her a
reason why because you want to make sure that she doesn't think that you're
playing games or that you're not sure yet if you actually do want her back now
if she mentions in the conversations between you two that she has a problem
this is the perfect opportunity to be the hero and step in and say I'd love to
be able to help you with that or do you need some help with that now helping her
with the problem is also an easy way to lead into suggesting that you can go for
a walk or even have a copy to catch up and chat
a little bit if she's hesitant it might be because she just needs a little bit
more time have you been consistently charming but she actually does say yes
then lock in a time and place ensure that you are committed to having this
casual coffee date with her guys it is not impossible to win the
girlfriend back I have seen it happen all the time all you have to do is
understand why it fell apart in the first place and how to rectify it
remember you need to actually win her over again as if you were meeting her
right from the first start and build that trust if you're pushing the right
sort of buttons and chances are she's actually going to come around a lot
sooner than you think because we always gravitate towards what we're familiar
with and what we've actually had an emotional attachment to now don't forget
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because we're here to cheer you on until next time guys I'm Renee so I ski for
the attractive man know that you are awesome and I will see you soon bye for
now