Today we're going to talk about how to know if your ex is interested again, but first,
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So the first way that you can know if your ex is interested in you again is if they probe
about your relationship or your dating life. They ask questions like, are you seeing anyone?
Are you in a relationship yet? Are you interested in anyone? Things like that, or if they make
it pretty well known that they are available to you like, Oh hey, just so you know, I'm
not seeing anyone. Just so you know I haven't been dating anyone or anything like that.
So this is them just kind of probing to see kind of where you're at. They don't want to
risk humiliating themselves by saying like, Hey, I'm totally interested in you again,
let's get back together. So they're just trying to see like, okay, is this a waste of time
for me to be potentially interested in you because maybe you're already in a relationship
with someone else? Maybe you're dating someone else. Maybe you're moved on or something like
that. Or are you still open and available for me to think about trying to get something
going here? So that's one way that you can know that your ex is interested in you again.
The second way to know that they're interested in you is if they start to make future plans
with you in those plans, right. So if they start to make plans like, Oh hey, this summer,
why don't we make a plan of going to do this thing? Or I mean right now when I'm recording
this, we're in the middle of this whole COVID-19 pandemic, I don't know if you're watching
this years from now? I mean hopefully, if you are, this whole thing has blown over and
everything is totally wonderful, but right now it's kind of uncertain.
So I don't know how much plans for the future they might be making in the current situation,
but they can always make these sort of daydream plans like, Oh hey, when this whole situation
blows over or when we're able to again, it'd be so nice if we could go to this great winery
out in the countryside, or go to this place and stay in a bed and breakfast or whatever.
These are them trying to give you a glimpse into the future that they have in their mind,
and if you occupy that future, it shows that they are definitely interested in you. Keeping
you in their lives and starting to make plans together with you.
The third way that you can know if your ex is I'm interested in you again, is if they
are open up emotionally to you, okay. And this means that they have opened up, and they're
willing to share with you the depth of their emotional world. They're willing to share
with you the depth of what's going on with them, how they feel, how certain events, circumstances,
activities are impacting them on an emotional level. And they're willing to talk openly
with you about these sorts of things. They're not holding anything back. They're not caging
certain things up. They're not trying to put distance between the two of you. They're actually
letting you come close. They're actually inviting you to come close. They're maybe even trying
to come close to you themselves.
This is absolutely a very, very good sign that they are interested in you again, and
they are open to seeing what might be possible between the two of you. And trying to create
that future with the two of you in that future together by actually starting to allow the
two of you to get closer by allowing the two of you to explore what's possible between
one another. So definitely, definitely something to keep an eye out for is that emotional connection.
Now your ex may be a little bit concerned about opening up too much emotionally to you,
especially if they don't know where you are. Which is why the advanced relational skills
that we talk about on this channel, on our website, and our trainings, all that stuff,
why these are incredibly essential. So if you're new here, if you are unfamiliar with
these advanced relational skills, you might want to check those up. I'll put a video card
to a playlist on the topic of advanced relational skills up there in the corner.
With that being said, the fourth way that you can know that your ex is interested in
you again is if they just openly flirt with you. Now, most people's exes are going to
be mindful about not sending the wrong message, not giving you false hope, or not trying to
let you get too close. Not letting you get your expectations up. They're going to be
mindful of this, and they're not going to do certain things like that unless they are
pretty convinced themselves that, Hey, I want to make this work. Most people's exes are
fairly emotionally astute, at least when it comes to this. They don't want you to think,
Oh, you're interested in getting back together, if they aren't really there. They don't want
to send the wrong message. They don't want to be accused of stringing you along or dragging
you along or anything like that. So they'll typically go out of their way to kind of keep
this sort of conversation to a minimum or to eliminate it entirely because they don't
want you to take things the wrong way.
And so if they're openly coming out and flirting with you. Expressing some sort of relational
romantic interest in you or something like that. Either they are potentially stringing
you along, although, I don't think that is necessarily the case in most situations. I
made a video on that, by the way. You can check it out up there if your ex is stringing
you along, but most likely it's because they have worked through this on their own, and
they know very well what they're doing.
They're saying, okay, I'm leaving the door open for you and if you want to reciprocate
this interest, then okay that's kind of a small little sign that they can take and say,
okay, great there's something here. There's something that we can work on and that's wonderful
that we can see what we can create together if we're both interested. But they're just
kind of testing the waters, and they know really well what they're doing when they're
saying like, Oh hey, I've always thought you were really hot or something like that, right.
Or I've always thought it was really sexy when you do that thing or whatever. They know
what they're doing most likely, and they have come through that process of saying like,
okay, I don't want to send the wrong message, so I'm going to intentionally hold back my
thoughts and feelings. They've gotten through that and now they know that they're broadcasting
that message. And if you take it and reciprocate it, then it's like, okay, great. This is where
we're going.
And the fifth way that you can know if your ex is interested again is if they seriously
talk about how great you are in terms of things that they value in a relationship, right.
So if you know for example that they value trust, and then they start talking about how
you're always really reliable. Or how they can always trust you. Or how you never let
them down or something like that. That shows that they are really letting you know in sort
of a very sort of roundabout, twisted sort of way that they're interested in you again,
okay.
If you know that they value certain things in a relationship, trust, devotion, honesty,
generosity, whatever it might be, and then they start to talk you up in terms of these
things that are important to them, boom, that just shows you right there that they are very
much interested in you. They are seeing you through the lens of things that they find
important and valuable in a relationship. And it just shows you that they are absolutely
attracted to you. I know that people often wonder about that, but it also shows that
they are interested in potentially exploring what might be possible between you and them
again.
So if you want to learn more about how to connect and deepen an emotional connection
with your ex, you may want to check out our Connect and Commit course. Again, information
on that isn't in the description box down below this video or in the pinned comment
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