One of the biggest, biggest decisions of our life is to know who "The One" is. When
you first give your life to Jesus Christ, that is the most important decision
you'll ever make in your life. And I've heard someone say, "If you want to
experience hell on earth though, just marry the wrong person!" So how do you
make sure you know who "The One" is? Well, first of all, I really do believe that
God gives us free will and free choice in understanding that "I don't believe
that there's only "The One" and only one, out of all the world could be suitable,
because if that doesn't work out, that I'm never gonna get married." No. the
bottom line is this: God knows the desires of your heart and if you
have the desire to get married, pray for that spouse. If you don't know who that
spouse is, keep on praying for them and ask God that in His time and in His way,
that friendship or spark, whatever is first for you–sometimes, I know some
people where it started with a friendship and then a spark happened. Or
that it started with a spark and then they were able to build a friendship. And
sometimes it's like, "Well you've been my friend my whole life and
I really believe that God wants us to get married"–you know all these terminologies
of friendship and spark, it's about understanding who your soulmate
is for life. And it is huge, and don't be burdened though as far as putting
unreasonable expectations on timelines as to when you should get married or
how this person's gonna come into your life or even how you gonna know.
Just gonna tell you right now: you're gonna know that you know that you know
when you have peace in your heart. And you pray and you even have other people
pray with you, and you building that friendship. I can't emphasize enough a
friendship where you can't see your life without that person–a friendship that
you would see having kids with, a friendship for life that most
importantly spurs each other closer to God, so that you together can fulfill
God's plan for you. It is good to be married. As a married man, I love being
married. Does it have ups and downs? Sure. Are their fears and uncertainties
at times? That's how life is. Whether you're married or not married, rich or
poor, sick or healthy, we all go through those ups and downs. But marriage is so
special and sacred, and so please take your time.
Pray. Be open to how God brings that person. And when God brings that person
into your life, and keep on going, there is no formula. But have counselling,
premarital counselling. Talk about the hopes and dreams. Sure that you have, but
also to me I think what was most important for my friendship with my wife
before we got married, is seeing how closely are we as
its termed in the Bible, equally yoked. Because when you believe the same things,
on the same magnitude, you're not gonna agree on everything, but there are some
fundamental values in faith and belief systems that must to me be of equal
yoke-ism, and a level of maturity between you. Or else there might be some
future ups and downs, that might be difficult later on, not to say that God
can't iron that out either, but it is good to have as much conversation as
possible and honoring God in that relationship as He outlines in the Bible.
I love you so much. God bless you! And if you're single or you just are waiting
for that person to come along in your life one day, know that God knows your
desire. So keep on praying. Keep on trusting and at the same time, saying "God,
if it's not your will that I ever get married, that's okay, because my soul is
restored. My spirit is filled now with your Holy Spirit, and you've renewed my
mind. God you know that I want to get married and I want to only marry the
person you want. I don't want my best. I want your best." And in that all at the same
time saying, "God I trust you no matter what." That's when you have the victory!