Chase: Hey guys, it's wednesdays with Chasey Poo!
Um... Just thought I'd show you a different view of my room
or whatever and use my other camera...
...for today's video. And today we are talking about, um...
did I even say it's wednesdays with Chasey Poo? I feel like I'm all over the fucking place today.
Anyway, today we're talking about misconceptions
of what trans people are, what trans people do.
So I think that this is... [sighs]
I don't know, sometimes I look at these topics and I'm like
these are some really interesting topics and I wish that I had more to say
on a lot of them, but...
Um, I think that the biggest misconception that I want to talk about
is that trans people are either gay or they're all straight.
And I mean that in a way that before you transition you are a lesbian...
And then you transition and you're a straight man.
And then there's also the misconception that goes along with that where you're a "straight man"
And I'm doing this in quotation...
And then you "turn gay" and now you're only attracted to men.
So you went from a lesbian to a gay man, because you transitioned.
Well, it really doesn't work like that, so that's what I wanna talk about a little bit.
Um... because I know a lot of trans guys who were actually in "straight" relationships
before they came out, so they identified as female and they were dating a man.
Now, and then when they transitioned a lot of people expect them to...
either now be attracted to women or they say things like: "why did you transition?"
Like, "what's the point in transition if you're just gonna like men?"
"You could have just stayed a girl and made it easier on you and made it easier on everyone else."
Well, that's really not how it works obviously.
Um... because there are a lot of trans guys who are, um... still attracted to men
after they transition because they were attracted to men before.
And that's a thing that happens and that's normal.
And the misconception is very hurtful for this community because
it, like... let's people know in the community...
...it makes people feel like their identities are not valid.
So one: some people are maybe not gonna want to transition
because they feel like they cannot be a "gay man".
And I'm saying "gay man" like this... in quotations.
Because they feel like they can't be this...
...this man and be interested in men.
Because either cis men or trans men or whatever are not going to accept them as men...
or they're gonna feel invalidated by this community and have to hide that they're into men
and maybe even have to go to women.
And I know that sounds super dramatic and like that never happens.
It does happen. And maybe happened before and now that more people now are super open
about that sexuality and it's whatever... it doesn't happen that often, but...
the people that I "grew up with" in transition
um, a lot of them had a lot of issues.
And honestly, the experience that I had, I identified as a lesbian before.
But... I did have some feelings for men which I definitely repressed
because once you're a lesbian you can't go back.
You can't say, "oh I think that I'm attracted to men"
because then everyone is gonna think that it was a fase.
So I kinda hid those feelings and I was like, "no no no, women only."
"I want WO-MEN only, I want the titty." Like that's, I don't know that was my mindset.
And then I, um... realized I was trans, and then I transitioned
and I was like, "oh, I like women but I still only like lesbian women."
And that was really confusing for me.
And then certain things happened and I became waaay more comfortable with my body.
And by becoming more comfortable with my body, guess what happened?
I was like, "wow okay, I think I'm allowed to actually say that I am attracted to men."
And I feel like was really brave to say that
because I did not know any other gay FTMs or bisexual FTM guys
who were like dating or having sex with other guys.
It was like, there was one blog I think that was called "trans queers" or something...
where they talked about having sex with cis guys and I was like
reading that blog like, every night. Reading the same stories over and over again
just to like, get a... taste of their life and what it would be like, I guess.
And after I, um... slept with a couple of cis guys
I was like, okay well I guess like, maybe I was just having sex with cis guys to like
get over the fact that I never did that when I was younger, maybe?
I mean I have no idea. I can't tell that answer, right?
Um...
But I can tell you that... transitioning made me more comfortable.
And I think that that's what the misconception is, is that you turn...
You either turn gay or you can't transition because you're gay.
I doesn't make any sense to me, but I am here to tell you that
for almost every single person that I know that identified as a lesbian
and is now more attracted to men or is attracted to men equally
as they are attracted to women, like I am.
Um... Me it's more on different levels though, I'm not very attracted to men emotionally...
And that makes me sound like and asshole, but... whatever.
Um... I'm more attracted to women emotionally and physically
and men it's more of a physical thing.
Maybe cause I feel like I can't have an emotional connection to men as I would with women, maybe?
Or I have way more experiences with women than men...
I don't know, okay?
But... I don't even remember what my train of thought was.
Point of this is that, yes, um...
most people that I know who are now, um, attracted to men as well as women
and they never identified as that before
is because they found themsleves to be more comfortable in their own body
and their own identity. And they also found people online who
talked openly about this stuff like I do.
And other people on transtastic and other people on youtube
that say like, "hey, I am a gay FTM" and they're like, "Oh! You can be gay FTM. Huh!"
And it's like super interesting and then blah blah blah.
Anyways, that was like a long story short but that's all that I wanted to kind of like
swoop in there so that you guys, um, know that that's -
When I think about the misconceptions of the trans community
within the trans community, that's probably the biggest one that I have.
And also like, obviously outside people...
look...
...at the trans community and like, "you can't be gay."
"Why did you transition? You could've just stayed a girl, made it easier
since you're gonna like men anyways."
Well there's a difference between dating straight guys and dating gay guys...
...probably, right? I don't know, that's problematic, whatever.
[chuckling] Love you guys so much. I'll see you next week. Bye.