- [Narrator] Few weeks ago, my wife was having a few drinks
to celebrate getting a new job.
I saw her texting someone a bunch of messages,
and when I asked, just out of curiosity,
she quickly hid her phone and said, "No one,"
and wouldn't explain.
I let it go thinking she was just being tipsy and weird,
until about an hour later, she was on the couch,
and took a picture of her new sunburn by her bikini line
and sent it to someone.
I saw her then open up a conversation,
read a message, then delete it.
I kept quiet.
And when she left to put our youngest down,
I quietly took her phone and opened it up.
I saw messages to a number
saying how bad she wants snuggles, how drunk she is,
and that picture.
The other person responded to the picture
with, "Wish the picture was wider."
And once I saw that, I lost it.
She also had the other person
on that zero notification setting iPhones have.
I freaked out at her,
left for a few hours and came back.
She denied everything saying it was her sister,
and she was being a hoe and joking around.
I didn't believe her at all.
I told her I wanted a divorce, all that stuff.
Long story short, she ended up initiating intimate time,
and that was that.
I've never lost that feeling she was lying.
And remember the number she was messaging.
Since that night, she has changed her password
and deleted the whole conversation.
Kids were watching YouTube and I snuck on it the next day.
I just did a phone number search,
and it came back as a guy from her past
I've had huge issues with.
Last month, I came back from a deployment overseas.
I had a feeling during that time she was cheating,
but didn't have proof.
I don't know what to do anymore.
We've got two kids and are about to buy a house.
We've been married for five years.
I still have the number saved, I'm tempted to call the guy,
but I don't know.
I just need some help.
Edit, while I appreciate all the concern
and helpful advice everyone is giving me,
I keep seeing questions
as to whether or not my kids could be mine.
I'm 100% certain they are,
and won't be spending the money to get paternity tests.
Even if by some chance they biologically aren't mine,
I've been the one raising them,
and I've been the one supporting them,
so, I'm their father and they are my boys.
Again, I appreciate all the helpful advice
and conversations everyone has been giving.
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- [Advisor] One, do not buy a house with her.
Two, call a divorce lawyer.
She does it while you are there,
you can be sure she does it while you are deployed, too.
Calling that guy won't change anything.
She is hiding things from you,
and clearly not being faithful,
even when you are there with her.
Get a divorce while you are still young.
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And two, don't let her distract you with intimate time.
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Yeah, that is crazy that she distracted him with that.
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- [Narrator] Tried to distract.
I knew something was fishy, I'm not completely hopeless.
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- [Advisor] Thank you for the clarification.
And you're not hopeless at all.
She's terrible.
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Don't buy the house.
Ask her who the number is,
and why she sent that stuff to him.
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- [Narrator] I did.
She said she was joking around with her sister,
which I didn't believe. (beeping)
- [Advisor] So, she's lying and cheating.
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Call the guy and tell him, "Dude, I know everything.
"She confessed.
"I just want to hear your side of the story."
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If you pay the phone bills,
you can request an itemized bill for phone calls,
and you may be able to do so for texts as well.
But I'd start trying to gather records,
and physical proof for lawyers.
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I agree with this.
You can log in to your phone carrier,
then, download all calls to and from her phone.
Then, you can download in Excel and sort by the number,
and see how much time she spent talking,
or texting him or anyone else.
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