Ever noticed how if you find yourself in one relationship that is toxic and you're dealing with narcissists on
whatever level,
chances are that you're probably going to find yourself in another relationship just like that one but different?
Well that's what we're talking about today at queenbeing.com. Chances are that if that's you, you might be an empath.
So let's get started.
My name is Angie Atkinson and on this channel, I offer free daily video coaching to help you discover, understand and overcome
narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. I like to call it toxic relationship rehab. So if that sounds good
to you, hit that subscribe button and we'll just get going. Have you ever found yourself
asking yourself questions like why are you staying in relationships with narcissists? Is
everybody a narcissist? Why am I so attractive and
attracted to narcissists? Is there something wrong with me? Is it me? Who's the problem? Well I know I have.
What about you so? Why is it that we keep finding ourselves in these
relationships and what can we do to avoid this in the future? Well let's start right here. I've got a few theories
and i'm going to share them with you. Here are my three theories on why you might be a source of
narc bait as it were. Take a look. You're an empath or an hsp those of us who tend to attract
narcissists tend to be empaths and other hsps or highly sensitive people who are wired to sense the emotions of others
to a narcissist and empathic kind of be like crack. It's that whole vampire fairy factor you know or try to fix your broken
childhood. Another theory is that we are working on fixing our own issues from childhood or earlier in our lives.
Listen to this quote: we choose our partners because they
represent the unfinished business from our childhood. They manifest the qualities we wish we had. In doing so,
choosing such a challenging partner and working to give them what they need,
we chart a course for our own growth. I heard this quote in an episode of modern family that I happen to catch a while
back and boy it really stuck in my head. It really made me think. Isn't it possible that one reason we find ourselves
attracting narcissist is because each time we deal with one, we never really heal afterward and
subconsciously we're trying to solve the unfinished business from our childhoods? I think yes. Next up you avoid:
confrontation like the plague. Yeah a narcissist has a way of testing people early on in the relationship
and if you're one who's who is willing to work through anything or you get upset but ultimately let them have their way,
well a narcissist knows they've start gold. So if you're sort of a person who tends to be a people pleaser or
to be often described as
too nice, watch out.
You're exactly what a narcissist looks for in a person. I share one more theory with you and this one's from an old video is
a short little clip but i think it has some insight that could really be helpful for you. Take a look at this.
So why do empaths and narcissists tend to feel an almost magnetic pole from one to the other? They are
obviously very different types of people, complete polar
opposites in most cases. We have a lot of theories but at the heart of it where the narcissists is lacking, we have strength and
where they sometimes have strength, we empaths sometimes lack it. So the first thing I think is that is important
to remember here is that while we as
empaths are
often targets for narcissists, it doesn't mean that we're powerless.
Knowing who we are and knowing what we need is gonna make it a lot easier for us to
draw the line between a first date with a charmer and the relationship from hell
if we're careful. So if you find yourself in a toxic relationship,
you already know that the best solution is to leave because it's not really your job
to fix anybody else okay. You have to take care of yourself at this point in any children you may not have. So the first
thing is that the narcissist will often create a certain sense of comfort
believe it or not, for the empath.
Now,
how does that work and why does it happen? The empath feels a really strong connection to the narcissist even if the
narcissist doesn't do anything to let the empath know that they're on track with their feelings.
Part of that is because the empath loves to love.
You
know that's who we are. We love to love people. We like to make people feel better, feel whole.
We want to make people feel like they're decent people worthy of our attention.
The problem of course that that is that the the narcissist is
increasingly controlling the more love and care you. So for a narcissist, the more they're going
to try to control you in the process, believe it or not.
So the narcissist will make the empath feel like everything is going great because the narcissist is constantly looking for
validation from the empath.
And the empath of course is happy to give it so they'll say things like "oh do you love me? Do you really love me?"
And of course inevitably if you're watching, you'll notice that the narcissist loves to turn the conversation around right back
to him or herself and that puts the empath in a position that we're very comfortable familiar with talking about someone else.
What do you think? Now it's your turn. It's time for the question of the day and the question of the day is
What other traits would you add to my list? What else might make you attractive to narcissist and
what do you think that you can do to change that? We're gonna talk about this more in future videos so stay tuned.
Do you have other questions about
narcissists and empaths that you'd like me to answer? If
so, be sure to leave them in the comment section below and I'll respond to them in a future video.
Alright that's all I've got for you today. As always, thank you so much for being a part of my day and a part of
my life and hey thanks for letting me be a part of yours. It really does mean a lot to me. I'll see you soon.
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