Hey.
It's Clayton and Jack.
And in this video, we're going to talk about how to make a long-distance relationship work.
It's an important question.
And if you are currently in a long-distance relationship, you might be feeling a little
bit confused.
You might be feeling unsure about what to do next.
You might find that a lot of relationship advice out there doesn't actually apply to
you because of the distance, and that can leave you in a place of anxiety, uncertainty.
So what we're gonna do in this video is we're gonna give you three tips, three secrets to
look out for, to pay attention to while you're on this journey with your partner and hopefully
come out on top.
So, Jack you want to give them the first one?
Yes.
Totally.
So, the first tip is to PRIORITIZE HIGH QUALITY CONNECTION TIME.
It's like creating dates together, right?
Now this may be a Skype date video, it might be some other way that you're connecting that's
not actually in person, but treat it with the priority that if your relationships a
priority this has to go on your calendar, right?
And you may need to move your gym schedule, you may need to make other arrangements with
friends, in order that you give this the priority that it deserves.
Because when you're not living in the same place you don't find those sort of natural
spontaneous flows, so you kind of have to create that.
You have to work a little bit harder to put structure into the relationship.
So, create high quality connection time, get it on your calendar and make it happen.
I love that.
Aright.
So, point two on how to make a long-distance relationship work is to BE WILLING TO HAVE
THE TOUGH CONVERSATIONS ABOUT WHERE THE RELATIONSHIP IS GOING.
One of the number one reasons why people actually break up in relationship is not necessarily
because of the suffering that they're experienced in the relationship, but because of the confusion
that they're experienced in the relationship.
Not knowing where they stand with their partner, not knowing what the future is going to look
like, that creates a sense of anxiety in the present moment that has somebody feeling very
insecure about where they're going, and who they should be, and how they should act that
has them often wanting to exit the partnership.
So, how you avoid that in a long-distance relationship which naturally has this kind
of momentum for confusion because you don't know perhaps when the long distance is going
to end, is to come up with a game plan with your partner to check in periodically about
where the relationship is going, perhaps when the two of you are gonna be together; whether
that's three months out, five months out.
If it is uncertain, if you're not sure how long that's gonna last, maybe set a mile marker
out five months, six months out to revisit how the two of you are feeling and then set
another mile marker out after that.
That allows both of you to have a sense of security and checkpoints along the way, so
you can feel safer in the relationship and be fully enrolled in the long-distance nature
of the connection.
The third point is to INCLUDE EACH OTHER IN YOUR DECISIONS.
So, imagine that you're thinking about taking a work trip, we're imagine you're thinking
about going away for the weekend, run that idea by your partner or the other person whoever
they are to you, just like you would if they were day-to-day in your life.
Because that way they get to be your partner, they get to be your sounding board, they get
to be your advisor, they get to be your champion, and you're actually giving them a role in
what's unfolding in your life.
You know otherwise it's kind of like you have a lover ship which means that you're together
when you're together, but when you're not together you're not really in each other's
lives.
And by the way, that's totally fine if that's what you want.
But most of you looking at this, if you're trying to make a long-distance relationship
work you want a partnership.
You don't want to just be lovers who see each other occasionally.
You actually want the other person to be in your life and increasingly that you're in
there.
So, include each other in your decisions, and if there's ways that your partner isn't
including you, ask whether you can be included.
Not from a place of trigger but from a place of desire like, “Hey.
I noticed you booked that trip and didn't run it by me.
I'd love to be included.
I'd love to be part of your life.”
So, include them in your decisions.
I love that.
It's almost as if treating the relationship as if you are not long-distance.
Totally.
Yes.
So, almost not like overlooking the distance and behaving like you're in the same city
within proximity already.
Yes.
And most people will need some intention to overcome the inertia of not having that person
around.
Thank you.
Cool.
So, look if you're in a long-distance relationship right now and what you're wanting is to make
this work, we have a webinar that's called the Three Keys To Attracting And Keeping A
High Quality Man.
And what's beautiful about this webinar is whether you're in a long-distance relationship,
whether you're in a relationship in the same city, the principles that we teach in this
webinar will apply.
And they will most assuredly give you a sense of confidence, and a way to see your intimate
relationships through a different lens that allows you to feel empowered.
It allows you to have a clear road map of how to handle inevitable challenges that come
up.
And ultimately, feeling just more confident about this relationship lasting.
So, if that's interest to you, go ahead and click the link below this video, and we will
see you on the webinar.
We'll see you there.