Codependency Recovery - How to stay out of your negative childhood programming
hi beautiful you to family say remaining in the life coach and today I want to
talk about one of the things that you can do as a recovering co-dependent to
help you stay out of the childhood programming the negative childhood
programming let's just recap quickly so this is 2016 hello happy new year is
January 2nd I'm really really excited about the new year and I believe this is
going to be your best year yet I know it is because you have a whole plethora of
information especially on my child that's going to be able to help you
completely recover so just a quick recap we are not a childhood programming all
of us have been if you're here on this channel chances are that you've been
raised either by an alcoholic or a narcissist or someone who was completely
self-absorbed perhaps mom was the PDA or schizophrenic blah blah blah and its I
don't need to minimize it but you get the you you get the message if you've
been raised by Annan perfect parent right abusive parent emotion neglected
you then you haven't downloaded with faulty free get information you have
your repetition observation inconsistency that we do our is not
enough and you are pain vs pleasure principle the aspects of the brain the
dynamic of the brain which is supposed to keep you safe
has gone rogue you have learned to associate pain with expressing your
feelings ok which is abnormal children are supposed to be they're supposed to
do a feeling unconditional love you are supposed to be able to go to your mother
and tell her that you're angry go to dad that you're angry that your mom we're
supposed to be raised in an environment of unconditional love and understanding
and lord knows if you have a dysfunctional home that was not the case
some of us are not kidding lucky we were even fit ok I have clients who were
starving children
disgusting I have clients who
was sexually abused by their parents which is disgusting so you name it we
have been someone out there was one of the family
our people in our community that we are all members of the same family we're all
connected
someone in our family has suffered at the hands of the people who was supposed
to take care of them in discussing ways and my channel is all about trying to
heal those of us who have been abuses such a horrible way and also to raise
awareness so that people who haven't been abused in those ways develop
compassion and empathy for those of us who have been seeing time developing
compassion and empathy for your own self we must develop empathy for the self
because that is the way one of the ways that we can heal and reconnect to our
childhood experiences and began to ascend and descend what we've learned to
stop surprising how we feel but it's very very frightening to control
confront how you feel and lord knows I know all about that because it was
terrifying to embrace all of the emotions that I suppressed as a child
but it was absolutely part of the healing journey so what prompted this
video today was one of my clients who shall remain nameless but she got her
wings today today was her final session and she is at her recovery where she
feels completely able to take care of herself and on herself and she's able to
set boundaries with the people that she she has dealt with her whole life some
people have been more difficult to deal with than others but she's a point in
her recovery where she understands why she was good and she understood she dogs
please ignore them and she understood
along a lot of coaching what she had to learn to do in order to heal from
codependency so very proud of her so I wanted to offer all of you who perhaps
can't afford to coach who who can't afford psychotherapy whatever or who are
using you to which i think is so adorable so many of you have written
being said that I should channel and channels across as a form of therapy did
on if it works for you
absolutely remember there that don't understand co-dependency and it's sort
of like you know someone who has never been obese doesn't understand how
difficult it is to not only be obese and exist in this world as obese person
which is very difficult because the world judges away but just like somebody
who is never bilbies has never been pleased when never ever be able to
understand how challenging it is to lose the weight 100 pounds 200 pounds there
are there is out there that if they've never gone through recovery they've
never disassociated they've never been emotionally challenged reviews by not
raised by alcoholics they really don't know what the hell you're talking about
so on your journey it's going to be really important for you to understand
you deserve that artists who understands what it's like to you from codependency
and what like what it feels like to be abused by a narcissist there are
oftentimes in therapy there's triangulation so you going to therapy
with your not who you have discovered is probably a narcissist and you think that
your path by saying hey let's go to therapy and lo and behold you don't get
there and
aside and here you are reacting to the fact that you're be a polite way of
course because you're reacting you like the crazy person so sometimes it happens
so do all your heart do your homework asked questions call Therapy Center
interview this therapist before you throw down your insurance card you must
know that this person knows what they're talking about
ok now so why I suggested to my lovely client this morning is that she must
stay aware ok because our patents are in the amygdala and hippocampus ok in the
temporal lobes we have we have a big deal is
and hippocampus is below each side of the brain each hemisphere of the brain
so we have to understand that when we were children which is very hard to the
emotional aspects is very much to fear we were children we were in Ada thgt a
brainwave States primarily until eight years old and that's very hypnotic see
room we've state and what happens in that state is that we get downloaded
from everything that's being offered to us in our environment
videos this is why we believe in Santa Claus and his reindeer herders and we
believe in ghosts leave
Easter bunnies and we believe in magic and all that good stuff which is nice
but you know we also believe in the vast oh by the time I was eight years old are
receiving information from my mother primarily but I was that I really
believe that I was bad I believe that I was worthless by the time I was seven
my dad told me that I was never allowed to say anything bad about it because she
works so hard house so I was taught that I am NOT allowed to tell the true and
I'm not to talk about my feelings so that became part of my program and
hippocampus now the reason that's significant because if we don't push if
we don't turn the switch on the amygdala and we don't force ourselves to the
prefrontal cortex here so we've got to get from the programs the front of the
train we will not be able to kill its debut we will revert back to the
programming getting it she sorry but anyway while we wanted to do on the
journey is commit ourselves in 2016 hello january 2nd today
commit ourselves to staying aware and highly conscious conscience
cost-conscious to how we do that yes mentation is huge
YouTube is awesome it is filled with thousands hundreds of thousands of
videos that are designed to help you heal in all different ways so ideally
journey began doing guided by Neil and activation video messages I did loving
this inner child mentation do your meditations commit to them daily
exercise exercise to increase to create increases the secretion of endorphins in
your brain will help you stay keep your route elevated so you'll be depressed
especially personally I think that should be equipped with stationary
bicycles and treadmills we have to put people who are clinically depressed and
suicidal on treadmills they are going over and over and over in their head
recycling takes her in the head
only depresses them and suppresses their ability to increase neural chemicals
that can elevate the mood and exercise televised nationally even advised to win
for me we start exercising you know job in place for 10 minutes
you know once you start investigating is things that exercises that are
associated with brain Jim we will need to exercise the brain so we're trying to
do is we want we want brain thinking we don't want to stay in our co-dependent
childhood patterns that was a key bus stop being afraid to rock the boat
afraid to tell the truth worry more about what other people think that we
think about that's the those programs will lock in the amygdala and see what
we want is we want brands thinking we want a logical water and prefrontal
cortex and I'm gonna look very very silly right now but I don't care if it
helps you are going to do it so the rights of the left side of the body and
the right side of the brain controls left side of the body so scientists
discovered that when you cross when you take the right arm and you cross a cross
into the left hemisphere of the body to buy what happens is you get braces when
you cross the body into the right side of the body
what happens is your brain is kind of like activated is confused little bit
but you want gassing you want Ukraine guessing you want the patterns so what
is that you begin doing exercises that are involved with crossing having your
own structure body
things that I start that I started to lose I started this way so that my my
left and right here you want to do that for about 20 seconds another thing that
you do you can cross and you can't act you know a lot of humor into the EFT
this way cross your arms and do it that way I also I want you to assume that I
don't want i don't want your energy Ariz the vibrations of the planet so come up
with interesting ways to be used as you can
years and then another thing that you can do is tap on you know either side of
your head with opposite arm you stand up
cross your legs like jumping jack but cross your rock crusher 2011 back and
forth anything that even sometimes this morning I was I was exercising in my
downstairs in my gym and I was crossing my eyes just crossed the crossing the
Meridian and if you do your own investigation you will discover that
this helps to activate the brain and the brain
why is this so important because he caused the problem is in the brain
the problem is in the programming Saudi Airlines please this year do what I did
commit to understand the basics of your brain I mean if that's where all the
problems are residing to know how this tool works just the amygdala and
hippocampus or tied her emotions are time you have to understand the limbic
system and you have to understand
the absolute importance of racing game and that's why the videos are sold
another thing that you can do is going through a dark room should get a candle
and raise the candlelight service that is equal to your vision field of vision
and stare at the flan just here in the flame and what will happen if you're
going through a hypnotic state but they don't wait brainwave state and then
would you want to close your eyes and see if you can see the flame in the
middle of your eyes that will help you activate the third I was just gonna
which is it is all related shoot the prefrontal cortex you want to be able to
to also increase your ability to think with the prefrontal cortex so much just
hope she is really simple is that you must keep journaling ok Germany help you
identify who you are
keeps you connected to the essence of you if you know my client this morning
she got her wings this morning but I'll listen to every day every single day
then ten or fifteen minute journaling about the way you feel what are your
needs for today when you watch her tomorrow what are your goals
aspiration that type of cock into thinking you tethered to the sole and
will keep you growing and moving forward now it's very very very very very
important to continue to do that because what happens when your patent is it's
just too easy to slip back into older teens and the old programs worrying
about what he said
and she said what not so all of you
ideas are designed so that you are brain can begin appreciating who you are on a
spiritual level and awesome information we want to keep the channels cause
dependence oftentimes disassociate from their emotional body and are very
concerned with what's happening outside of here and get caught out there what's
happening on Facebook yes who was happening on Twitter all Michael get out
and lead you one get out and live make this your best year ever ever ever ever
ever ever so be careful with that stuff because we're looking for validation
oftentimes we might not be aware of that were back of her head to see a validated
that could go back and buy chechnya you know waiting to be validated by some
people you don't know me so you once this is all the suggestions that just
made this video I really need some made some notes and if you have to go back
and we want the tape I promise you but I promise you that you begin to address
co-defendant hearing from a true perspective understanding that has
created this could identify an indiscriminate reality I promise you it
will catapult it is my promise to you do 150 to my at my webinar the upcoming
with Mr Ross rosenberg on every 13 is going to be called that she fear that
she fear finding the courage to defend the state and self-love deficit disorder
because we all know you know so you are
definitely been a challenge when it comes to dependency so we don't talk
about it apart and courage you to do what you need to do to find the courage
codependency recovery
to heal completely in love my 2011 balanced eleven lighten your day