Lisa A Romano
idea on a mistake about the love and light and you it's been awhile since
I've put out a YouTube video for my channel and that's because I've been
working pretty much non-stop to finish up my coaching program which should
launch within the next few weeks I will be having a webinar at the end of March
and I'll be free and I really hope you join me and I'm gonna be talking about
what's involved with coaching program but I like it right to what this video
is all about it is about attachment trombone and how it relates to being
codependent and in some cases being involved with the narcissism how a kind
of like all together so little bit about attachment trauma too late I see it and
the way I made it makes sense in my head is that you know 11 a child is born here
and share it with everyone across this little beautiful baby divine right this
baby is supported is common in choir meets in utero with it with an umbilical
cord attached to that corn is responsible for all the offense the
newborns fetuses nutrients it is it's for lack of a better way of explaining
an extension cord to mother where the child is actually in some other
connected there's a flow there there's an energetic flow right from from mother
to baby baby to mother back and forth its beautiful wanted to find an amazing
design I mean really so why not baby gets will learn and build gets cut
that's very serious and that alone is traumatic because now this child is no
longer relying on this score that's in this extension cord to make it feel
grounded
so
what is supposed to happen after a child is born is a child is supposed to end up
on those moments right after a child is born
very very important in my case my son was born with the cord wrapped around
his neck I had toxemia I mean I held him for if I held her for a man it was a
long time and they took him away from me and I couldn't see him until the next
day because I had toxemia preeclampsia and they were so worried about me at the
time with my blood pressure and it seemed to the next day which is terrible
so we're talking about attachment attachments what we're talkin attachment
trauma we have to first really appreciate the fact that you got me that
every every single person that you see on the street every person that's ever
been any personal ever be made to feel connected or grounded today
if you do the studies if you if you if you research you will discover that I
found this fascinating that a mother's body has the ability to regulate your
newborn's body temperature they've done studies studies with twins where that's
a blessed day
the breast actually
like this the breast is so funny but I'm depressed actually one brass will will
actually heat up if Bill wants win needs their body temperature due to raise and
the other the other breast Lashley cool if if the other end up the other twin
means the body temperature to
be cool down see what I'm trying to say is that if there's if a newborn infant
twins born and their body temperature is too high the mother's breast if you take
the opposite wins body temperature is too low the mother's breasts will
actually she got fabulous regulation going on outside the field of
consciousness divine connection so gonna talk about instincts and primal needs
and basic primal trauma codes it's sort of like when you open up computer
program are you get a video game it comes coded right or a pass codes we as
human beings have certain posts haha coating is to experience is grounding
experience in utero and to have that grounding experience continued after
were born now when there's an attacker trauma when there is a problem with
mother perhaps she offered it dies right after were born or aren't there is some
type of a break in that next time it happens my son and I are if after this
child is born this mother is unable to connect to this child we're talking
about a tax return let's talk about adult children who come from abusive
homes have been ignored by omission who have been abused by omission who have
been abused by coalition who have been sexually abused mothers are alcoholics
who cannot connect to their children whose mothers are crack addicts whose
mothers are schizophrenic whose mothers are severely co-dependent marriage or
now all it is completely blog avail of consciousness you know completely
stressed out trying to micromanage need to the alcoholic so many boxes of
alcoholics are living in fear
fight or flight response which mimics childhoods what they don't realize is
that as a Chinaman micromanage the fear of the home by trying to keep calm we've
got children who are being ignored and not being able to connect to the mother
that's just a sad reality that doesn't make the mom of baby killer that doesn't
make her an axe murderer that makes her unaware that makes her out of the realm
of conscience
that makes her basically what she's doing she's replant childhood and she's
not aware at what's happening so we have these instincts these days do these new
code and jocks and being connected to our mothers absolutely one of them so
when we won we are unable to create those bonds with their mothers what ends
up happening is we suffer an attachment pharmacy think about codependency
accorded pattern is fueled by this innate push this innate need to bond to
bond to bond to attach co-dependency cash they believe they think they need
this just being outside at them in most cases the person that we as
co-defendants were gonna do it
Sharma will attract someone who is either just like our mother or just like
our father or a combination of both in most cases it's a combination of both
and would become the Eagles I and you look at it from our perspective you can
see like you know she's like my mother and she's like my father or you know
he's like my mother and he's like my father
and we know this because we feel childlike when we're trying to relate to
these people so any outsider ability to control it so the further below the veil
of consciousness you are you are the harder it is for the last time you take
looking at the attacker trauma the heart of the harder it is to actually
appropriately appropriately deal with the attachment trauma and that facet of
how codependency showing up in your life so the really interesting is that
attachment trauma make someone in the real-time feel afraid not attachment so
it's it gets really really
complicated in the mind and that's what really helps to talk it out with someone
whose professional action understand the task dependency and was actually I'm
successfully navigated out of it
talking to someone actually gone through just because they understand like the
nooks and crannies and and that the hidden always that a lot of people who
haven't been to this don't understand and so what we doing about dealing with
attachment trauma the whole fear is the brain thanks it needs this connection so
now getting into another default setting another cold pain vs pleasure so we have
one need one in eight need that is now acting upon another coast so we have one attachment trauma
called the tacking on another code one in a program in a program we're not
talking about the subconscious programming that's the world so you know
I think about that those outside influences like think about Christ
carrying the cross as we all set for many of us like this is the Cross will
have to bear so the subconscious programming other childhood brainwashing
is not talking about talking about your code what you need it as a human being
and let's talk about why you know if you think about
why if your Creator why would you why would you go to you and being with this
need to feel seen why would you go to human being with this need to attach
well if I'm creator I want to cure my species you know I want to make sure
that this human race has a really good chance procreating and you know I'm
being able to enjoy the wonders of this beautiful quiet that I created think
about what would happen if created to not cold within us this need to attach
mothers would give birth and they would talk to the kids off a cliff they would
let them go hungry they wouldn't pick them up and actually breastfeeding I
mean our bodies our mother's body is absolutely designed to take care of this
this human being and so it's an almost got you the same way hello you know so
all of us came here with the same media and this damn cold that's just that's
what makes us all brothers and sisters you know we all have the same needs so
we have the one caught you attach and then we have now it's supposed to
protect us as we move forward is the pain vs pleasure principle so why would
creator she'd actually this is pain vs pleasure in small my opinion it was
supposed to be a divine guidance system that's it so when I stepped out of my
family and with all my stuff out quite a bit I step on a shopper shock rock I
talked about this new programming one of the modules and the pain that I
associate with stepping on iraq will actually help will carling with the
pleasure of that never happen again so you know I could be an afterthought have
a very small Solo very small brain or whatever and not be very positive or not
be very sophisticated and I can understand this pain is pleasure
principle and codependency and trauma
dobbs decor and design so we have now now think about many many many many many
generations later never become the eye in the sky you know don't just see it as
a Neanderthal and forget this whole this whole time line of human existence and
this whole evolution and all these outside crosses release outside
influences whether it be war or small pox or you know alcoholism or whatever
you know the trials and tribulations of trying to get from one part of the world
to another and you know that the survival of that so if you trace back
civilizations to 2016 and you now at Intuit ok you have alcoholism you have
you know also if I was a kid it was claimed losses in and that was the name
of the drug LSD you know I'm dating myself you know today I don't even know
what the hell is out there today
you know I never did drugs honest with you I was just too damn afraid of what
might happen you know I was a first responder when I was a kid and I watched
it grow over to my age and I had to pick her up off the ground and that was
enough for me that was not nice enough and so if you think about human species
and Watchmen introduced now think about the different types of crosses that
we've had to bear maybe our mothers had $2 have to bear the cross of racism
masturbation and the separation that came from that in in a community or even
a house you know and now we're now or back in the nineteen twenties when there
was a separation between the idea that women were not you know as valuable as
man and didn't have the right to just keep going back and you could see that
each generation karadzic process so here we are
that's a 2016 advanced creatures we think we are and now my life really
isn't that much about trying to survive you know we pretty much have found ways
to create homes we have jobs
now on now with the type of human beings that lot more we want our spirituality
we want to get more out of life now I need an hour associating clashes with
freedom emotional with choices because thank god you know in our history and
human evolution that we can think about you know encouraging ourselves seriously
beautiful so now running associate pain with not feeling free now
while we're talking about attachment trauma 2016 for those of us who are the
adults are dysfunctional people who did not but were not able to bond with us
the issue at hand is we have long called for a meeting to bomb the second code is
pain vs pleasure we have to go back to the first code I need to bond because
our brands are going to associate pain not and never receiving the attachment
and pleasure with
achieving the attachment fast-forward to be an adult and out of a father's home
an hour where sexual beings and we bump into somebody who we feel extremely
attracted to it is like the little black box in the bottom of the ocean going
being that's low that's cool but what it is is that their vibration that person's
vibration if you're not heal is resonating with the aspect of you that's
stored in you being operational level Michael branding iron yourselves have
been branded with the vibrations that your brand associate with love to this
human being not a personal showing up is probably going to be a lot like mom or
dad remember to bring associates mom and dad with your need to attach so now
there's going to be a pleasure being motivated like the internal drive to
watch what chapter you might not even like this person knowledgeable you could
hear what has he think he is
you know I'm caught in cognitively you can't think like what the hell does she
think she is you know you could hear your brain to 5% of you not like this
person but you won't understand the 95% just dry within each want to attach this
person that's why so often when I caught your client will tell me I did you like
my husband the first day I met him I knew he wasn't the right person for me
but I don't know I felt drawn to him because we're 95% unconscious and 95% of
what we do you can feel and as a result of watching the subconscious mind and
the result is primal needs versus posture and in the need to attach that
have gone row now we have the ability
enlightened beings of 2016 and lightworkers so many of you are and I
know you are we have the ability to unite our final and turn it on like a
flashlight and look below attachment trauma
look inside the subconscious mind we have the right to pull these ideas apart
and look at them and I seconds I feel that way
and wifeys expanded viewpoints and understandings you begin to learn how to
master
two programs so the thing with the thing that gets sticky with attachment trauma
is that so let's say you're you're married to an alcoholic or drug addict
or a sex addict or whatever you just use your marriage or problematic person
right and you
want to leave them five percent of you says I gotta get outta here but there's
this 95% this as I can't do it so the 95% of you I'm sure you wake up and you
see what's happening below the surface is attachment it's a consequence of
attachment drama what's happening in you you internally see attachment to this
person because the plan pain vs principle is driving you to attach and
it seemed time you're also associating pain will be leaving the person so your
story it's like a pump so so many of my clients and so many of you right now I
want to go but I'm afraid to go like I keep telling myself I want to go with
five percent but 95% of you is is one wants to also bombed this person and
also at same time is associating fear with leaving this person so it's like
this cat-and-mouse game so for me my life changed when I saw it when I
understood what was happening
and I learned to bond with myself and i learn to I started getting pissed off
that I have like this crap going on inside I was unable to control over my
strength I was determined to get like kick ass like no no default setting is
going to control me anymore I want to think with my conscious deliberate mine
I wanted to become a creator of my own reality I want the life I want I don't
want the life to default that's going to default setting type life I don't want
to live my default settings the hell no I will decide what I think I will decide
what I feel I will decide who I want to spend my time with and live within a few
are not being white too I will decide and so that's what I'm hoping that you
will gain from my upcoming coaching program and that's what I hope that you
will be released but he also threw for any of you that is a new my work and
that's what I hope that you gain prom prom my my website and my books and all
the information that I put out my internet my meditations I hope you feel
liberated and three and I hope you learn how to master your mind and how to
understand the default settings and how to over right now
01 this is you know I like it could be anything that you want about it alone in
the light and you not
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