This is the most perfect thing to say to someone who has an addiction
I am seriously telling you if you say this one statement that I'm about to tell you
you will get their attention so you need to get ready for it actually you might want to
stop and get a pen and paper and write this down because that is how good it is
all right here we go the one most powerful thing that you can say to someone who has an addiction
is actually a question and the question what do you think
yes you heard me right the best thing to say to someone who has an addiction
is to ask them what they think now I think I might know what you're thinking right now
you're thinking but Amber I already know what they think and they are all
wrong they just don't get it and if you are thinking that there's possibly a little truth
in that statement that maybe they don't get it or maybe they're wrong about some things
but that actually doesn't matter it doesn't matter if they're wrong or they're right
what matters is what they think and the reason that is so critically important it's because
when you know you have the starting point to help guide them in the right direct I
think we're onto something you cannot start where you want to start because most likely
you're 10 miles down the road from where they are and you are not going to get their attention
when you're 10 miles down the road get our communications back up whatever you have to do
you have to back up and you have to find out where they're starting from and you have to
use that information to help walk them through the process if you really really want to help
someone who's struggling with addiction to drugs or alcohol this actually became really really
clear to me in a recent family session Campbell and I were actually doing this family session
and so it was me her the person with the substance abuse problem and their parent
and just so you kind of get the context this person the person with the addiction
like all of the secrets and lies and stuff had just very recently come unraveled and the whole
thing had kind of shown itself how it showed itself was because other people um family and
friends of this person with the addiction they told the mom about what was really going on
now as you can imagine this young person was pretty dang upset about the situation
not happy at all they kept saying but you didn't even come to me you didn't ask me
what was going on you just listened to them now secret confession here when that person said that
I was actually thinking my head I was thinking well To be honest the last person you want to
ask to find out the truth about what's going on is probably the person with the addiction
I mean let's face it the credibility's not always that great I know that's
not a nice thing to say but it's kind of true right but the thing of it is
is that this young person actually kind of had a really good point you got a good
point there ronnie now it's not so much that the mom should have took everything
this person said to heart and just believed everything I've got to say I was involved
in helping do that when I probably should have backed up a little bit
everybody was scurrying around making all these plans planned to have this big old
intervention thing and forced this person into treatment but there was one problem
what well it's something kind of small but it might be a big problem no one stopped to check to
find out what that person think you want to know why that's really really important because what it
tells you is what stage of change that the person is actually in and let me tell you something if
you put someone in big cat daddy treatment when they're not in the right stage of change for that
then you're probably going to end up wasting a lot of time money energy and heartache because
timing is really important when it comes to making a decision like that don't waste
your time sis no of course there are more steps involved in getting someone like out of denial
and into recovery or into treatment if that's what needs to happen but asking them what they
think is going on and how they feel about it is the absolute perfect place to start
now naturally you'll want to know what the next steps are don't worry I've got
a whole playlist that is going to walk you through this process
step by step how to get someone out of denial get the help they need and
into recovery I'm going to put it right up here all you have to do is click it