There's a power to be harnessed. Learn how to set goals as a couple and watch
those big dreams come true.
This is my beautiful wife Kimberly. And we're married. We've been married now for
27 years. Wow, right? I know 27 years. How did we get to 27 years? Well one of the
important parts about us making it 27 years is the fact that we plan our life.
We're thinking about our life. About where we're going. You know, part of life
is dealing with everyday activities. And dealing with what happened last week and
trying to resolve and kind of fix things that happen along the way, right? We have
what has happened. We got currently what is happening. We
have kids, we own a business. We have employees and Wow,
what if we got caught up in all of that and we didn't plan where we were going?
I can tell exactly what would have happened. We'd lose hope. You'd... It
wouldn't make sense why we do what we do every day. It would make sense why a
problem would come along and literally shut us down. Because it wouldn't seem
like it's worth it. Because we wouldn't have a vision or ideas about what we
wanted to create in our life. You see as a couple, the way that we've been able to
keep moving forward no matter what comes our way is we literally have an idea of
what we want to build and create for our life. And that can be sometimes a
challenging thing going, "But wait, our current situation doesn't look like it's
going to support where we're going." But what if the missing link for you, in your
marriage and your relationship is you don't have goals as a couple? And so for
you to consider. If you don't have something what you're looking forward to,
it makes it difficult to deal with what happened. Which then can cause you to
literally not even want to try with all your effort and with all your might to
keep moving forward. And believe me, I've met couples who kind of settled in.
They've settled in and they're just kind of okay with where they're at and
that's it. And that's okay for them. But I know that there's still a life to create.
And my wife knows there's still a life to create. And so, we literally brainstorm
and come up with ideas of what it is we want to build in our life. And I want to
give you 6 different points to look at when you are setting goals as a couple.
One of them is whatever you're talking about,
write it down. Even though it might not be the final idea, take notes. You know,
when when Kim and I drive around and do errands. Or maybe we have a road trip
that we're going on. We bring along a pad of paper and we just dream. We talk about
things and we have in our office you know, in our folders, all these different
notes of ideas that we've had and some wishes and wants. And some dreams that we
wish could happen within a year, within a couple years or before we die. You know,
kind of like creating a bucket list. Like what would it be like if we could do
this or this. But when we write them down, even though we're kind of playfully
talking about them, we have a list that we can go back to. I think as a couple,
you're still discovering what it is that you'd like to build and create together.
And instead of trying to sit down and just squeeze it out of you, it might take
a few brainstorming moments, it might take a while to narrow in on what those
goals could be. But be patient in your relationship of coming up with what the
goals are. Or what the next goal will be. But a secret behind it is take notes
along the way. Take notes. Now, remember that there's more than just one area of
your life. You know, some people say, "Well, we have a goal to go on a vacation."
That's awesome. What other goals do you have do you have? Do you have goals about your health?
Do you have goals about how much time you spend together? Do you have goals of
maybe you want to go climb a mountain? Maybe there's a particular country you
want to visit? And literally live there for a while?
You know, maybe there's a financial goal. Maybe there's a, you want to... You know, both
of you participate in a marathon or a triathlon. But there's lots of different
ways to look at your goals. Maybe there's a level of education. Number of books you
want to read. Lots of fun things to talk about and to literally open up your mind
and explore the different areas. But consider that there are different areas.
Not just one or two areas of your life. And don't be shy to bring it up to your
spouse of an idea that you have. Because an idea that's not spoken, has a tendency
to die. Next, how could you track this. You know, once
you decide to pick one of these and start to take some action on it, you know
how do you track the progress? How you going to do this? What could you do to
decide this is exactly where we're at let's let's measure where we're at and
then how often are you going to check in and measure yourself again? You got to
find out if you're having progress or not. Suggestion I have is, every Sunday
afternoon. Sunday afternoon is a great time for Kim and I to literally sit down
and talk. When I say sit down, I don't mean like at a table all official. What
we do is we... I'm sorry, that's pretty too much information. But on Sunday, we have a
a pattern that we like to do where we sit down and we do a foot soak. You know,
either an Epsom salt or you know a type of foot cleanse or something like that.
But we'll sit and do a foot soak. Meaning, we can't go anywhere because we're both
sitting with feet in tubs of water. And then we pull our laptops out and we talk
about, "Where we're going? What are we doing? What are our ideas?" And so we have
this little pattern we do on Sunday afternoons that gives us an opportunity
to talk. But it also gives us an opportunity to track and to track
progress. You know and when you're tracking progress, you got to be nice to
yourself and not beat yourself up or think you're moving too slow. Because
there's two of you that you're calibrating and coordinating to make
these things happen. So, in every 7 days is a great time to review and edit
the goal. Because sometimes you you start to discover where your goal is and
maybe you want to describe it a little bit better. Or just make some minor
adjustments to it. But I think every 7 days is a great way because it's
often and it's frequent. If it's often and frequent,
then it keeps it on your mind. It keeps it in the conversation. Again, a goal that
is unspoken has a tendency to die. An idea unspoken has a tendency to die. So,
to have it every seven days keeps it alive and fresh. Ready to get up and go.
So, you literally are paying attention each week to opportunities that can help
you really take it... You know, take the next step towards that goal. Now, as you
come to a decision of what these goals are and how you're going to track it to
accelerate your progress, turn it into a visual goal. Maybe a collage of pictures.
Or maybe there's one particular picture that you both agree on. But if you don't
agree on one particular picture, you can have a picture that represents the goal.
They can have a picture that represents the goal. And you create a collage of
pictures. So that way, you both get to contribute to the visual aspect of that
goal. And then post it somewhere. Put it on the bedroom wall or the bathroom wall
or the closet door. So that you both can see it and have that reminder every
single day. Because when the both of you have decided on something because of
conversations and and thinking about it narrowing it down and now you can see it
up on the wall, there's a higher level of guarantee that it's going to happen. Boy, you
take both of you working on that together?
Wow! That could be powerful. And you make a visual, so it's a constant reminder? Wow!
That's awesome. Now, along the way, you know, also keep your progress displayed.
Either in a binder or you're keeping track on a computer document that you
both can look at. Because when you know the progress you're making and
you can see it. Not just talk about it but you literally can see it in writing,
it can give you motivation. And it also can give you that insight of adjustments
that you need to make. So, with this right here, it begins to help you realize, you
can build and create a life. So, whatever you're facing today, it doesn't ruin your
goals, it doesn't ruin your progress and moving forward.
It can just be moments that are tough. But they're tough because you're going to
learn something that's going to help you get your goals. Now, here are some success
tips. Something I think is smart is to get a mentor or a coach to help you
build your momentum going towards your goals.
Because there's shortcuts. There are really good shortcuts to be able to get your
goals. And mentors and coaches know how to teach you those things.
Number 2, get educated. Whatever your goal is, study it. If you're going to
another country? study it. You want to build a house? Study it. The more
information and education you can get in you about your goal, the more your mind
can wrap around it and make better decisions. Start exercising. Somebody who
exercises thinks better. Somebody who doesn't exercise has slower thinking. Not
as accurate either. Somebody who exercises has more accurate thinking.
Well, it's been proven over and over again. It's another reason to exercise is
so that you can have more accurate thinking. Also eat better foods that
helps your body function better. Because sugar messes with your head. It clouds
your ability to make decisions. It does not help you make better decisions. It
does not. It is a foreign substance to the body. Number 5, spend time outdoors
in nature because it will help you have creativity come to you. About how to
accomplish the goal. When you go look at trees and mountains and rivers and
streams in the valley and you're on the outdoors, you will get inspired from
nature on how to accomplish your goal. It happens.
Every time one of my mentoring clients get stuck, I send them out into nature.
They come back, inspired. It's incredible when they go looking for the inspiration
of what to do, nature never fails. It just never fails. It's always there to help
inspire us. Number 6, if you have a goal together as a couple
and you choose to spend more time together, you'll be able to calibrate and
coordinate your thinking. Because your spouse holds some of the ideas and the
secrets about how to accomplish that. And you hold some of the ideas and secrets
about how to accomplish that. And when you both spend time together more than
what you've been doing, you can unlock those ideas. But it takes the two of you
to unlock those ideas. You will function better by working together. You'll
function better by working with it because of the dynamics that both of you
bring to the relationship. That's why I really strongly believe and have seen
when couples are dialed in and they're on the same page, they can really produce
and create an incredible lifestyle. It's not just what you have right now. It's
what you can dream about. It's what you can wish for. And the two of you working
on the same team? Wow! That is powerful. My wife and I Kim, we teach a course called
Royalty and Romance here in Salt Lake City. It's awesome. And we teach couples how to
get on that same page. Now, these videos... You want... This one you've watched and
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