- In this video I will share with you a couple of signs
that he is taking you for granted.
And I will also tell you what to do about it.
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that he started to take you for granted,
and what you can do about it.
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So without further a do,
I will share with you a couple of signs
that the guy you're dating started to take you for granted.
See, do you recognize yourself and what signs?
And then I will tell you how to handle
if this is the situation you're currently going through.
So one of the signs could be that he starts
to call you, not intelligent enough.
He starts to purposely pick on you
and make you you look stupid, or just not that smart.
He actually tells you that he prefers more intelligent women
but you are just so beautiful that's why he's with you.
So this is one of the science that
if a guy started to take you for granted
as he is brave enough to tell you these things.
Ladies, when a guy really loves a woman,
he sees the good in her.
He puts the good in her on a pedestal.
So let's say even if you're not that intelligent
whatever that means, 'cause intelligence nowadays
can be very subjective as well.
If he really loves you, he'll emphasize the good in you.
However, when he starts to lose attraction for you
that's when he starts to pick on you.
That's when he starts to call you
not intelligent enough, not pretty enough.
he doesn't like the way you brush your hair,
he doesn't like the dress you wear,
he doesn't like the way you walk,
he doesn't like the way you sit down or laugh, et cetera.
Then the guy starts losing attraction for you.
He will start to pick on the silliest things about you
giving himself excuses of why he doesn't like you
or why he's getting turned off.
Usually these are never the real reasons.
Usually the real reasons are,
you are either over pursuing him,
either behaving too masculine.
You perhaps are behaving too needy or too clingy.
Maybe you're being too open.
Maybe you are telling him your every single move.
Maybe you are oversharing.
You are over speaking or nagging or blaming.
The point is, when a guy starts to lose attraction for you,
because of your behavior he starts to pick on you
looking for excuses to justify
why he's losing attraction for you.
The best way to handle this type of situation
is to perhaps banter back or stand up for yourself.
But in the meantime, it's important to reflect back
on perhaps you unknowingly behaved a low value
and started to turn him off a bit here and there.
That's why he started to pick on you.
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Check out my video right here.
The other signs that a guy started take you
for granted can be, when he stops taking you out for dinner,
or perhaps he tells you something about,
I took you out for this dinner or I paid for that.
Now you need to give me something.
When a guy kind of buys you or implies
that you have to sleep with him
because he paid for your dinner
or took you out on a nice date,
this is another sign that he is not that attracted to you
because if he was really into you,
first of all he would be doing things
in form of a more generous manner.
He would be giving things much more freely and yes
maybe he would be expecting something in return
but he would never be brave enough to say it
because he would be too scared to offend you.
Because if he offends you, right?
And he's really into you,
you could give him consequences as well.
You're behaving really disrespectful
and no, I don't wanna see you again.
And no I'm not going to sleep with you
just 'cause you took me for that dinner, right?
So then he's expecting things from you
because he has been generous towards you
and he's pushing you towards those things,
is one of the signs that he started to take you
for granted and is losing attraction for you.
The other sign that a guy is taking you for granted
is when he starts canceling on dates,
he's hiding you, he's never taking you on holidays perhaps.
Maybe he's going on holidays every single month
but you are never invited.
Oh, I wish you could be here with me
we could enjoy this,
these cocktails, laying on a beach together,
cuddling, but oh, such a shame you're not here.
He brags about his holidays,
he's showing them off, but you are never invited.
In a way he's kind of planting a seed.
Look what a catch I am.
I'm on the beach, I can't afford this type of holidays
and he's showing it to you.
But maybe if you'll jump higher from you
or if you'll do more things for me
or if you'll try to please me more,
maybe someday I'll take you on that holiday too.
Whichever way he's thinking, splashing holiday
in your face and not inviting you there.
This being done over and over again
while you guys are in a relationship already,
it's a big sign that he has lost attraction for you
and is taking you for granted.
He's not that scared to disrespect you like that
or to offend you like that
because he's not that scared to lose you anymore.
Now the sign number four where a guy starts
to take you for granted
is when he stops trying to impress you, right?
So he stops showing you off to his friends,
he stops charming you,
he stops going out of his way to please you,
he starts to split everything 50, 50.
This is a sign that the guy has started
to really take you for granted.
Again, why the guy is doing it?
I would really recommend to reflect back
on your behavior to see perhaps you have changed
and you are not behaving anymore the same ways
that you used to behave when he originally fell for you.
And he started to lose attraction for you.
Therefore he's feeling more of brave enough
to kind of split everything 50, 50
and he doesn't feel the urge to charm you,
to seduce you, to impress you
'cause he simply has lost quite a bit of attraction for you
or he's in the process of losing attraction for you.
So the number five would be,
what you should never do when the guy takes you for granted.
You should never nag.
You should never complain.
You should never blame him or point fingers
because the more you nag, the more you complain,
the more you will blame him.
The more you will just confirm to him
that he is doing the right thing taking you for granted,
as all of these behaviors,
all of these characteristics are even more.
Coming from you now are just confirmation
of your unattractiveness.
All of these characteristics also show
how much you are into him,
your high expectations, how much you want him,
how you feel about him.
Plus, as a rule, what a lot of people do
when we really care about you being nagged
and complain and try to fix things.
All of these behaviors are very masculine
and that shows to a man that you are really into him.
And behaving this way,
you're actually giving him a lot of attention
even though it's a negative attention,
it's still attention, it still shows how much
you're into him, it still shows how much you care about him.
And at this point when he's taking you for granted,
he really just does not deserve
any kind of attention from you.
Whether it's positive or negative.
The best way to sit in a boundary with a man
when he tries to take you for granted
is to stop giving or to stop sharing
what you were originally sharing with him,
is to step back to remove your presence from him.
Because if you're gonna now complain blame,
he's already losing attraction for you
and you are coming onto him with more unattractive ways
with more unattractive behaviors.
So instead of him changing his ways towards you
and start to treat you better,
he will actually get more turned off by you.
Therefore, when a guy takes you for granted
step back and start to remove yourself from him.
He can take a bit of a breather,
starts to miss you a bit
and starts to wonder what is going on.
Maybe he did behave in some disrespectful way
and that's why you stepped back from him.
So ladies, these are the signs
that the guy is taking you for granted.
And I also shared with you how you should not behave
with a man that's taking you for granted.
However, this is also a very quick video.
If you want a full on breakdown
how to behave with a guy who's taking you for granted
or how to fix your relationship
or to increase his attraction towards you,
you need to reflect at your whole relationship
and see how you are behaving with a guy on a daily basis.
How you behave at him on a phone,
what messages you text to him,
how you talk to him, you need to reflect
are you behaving in any low value ways?
And then if you recognize your low value ways
that's fantastic because now you will know
that you need to change those ways.
Start to take little steps to behave high value
and increase his attraction towards you.
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