Sick of men who treat you like garbage? Wish there was a way you could make him step up
and treat you with the respect you deserve? Well I’m here to give you FIVE easy ways
to make him worship you like the queen you are.
Hi, I’m Amy North. I’m a women’s dating coach and the author of The Devotion System.
If you’ve seen any of my videos you know that I specialize in creating healthier, longer-lasting
relationships for both men and women. If you’d like more advice, please subscribe to my channel
for a brand new video every week.
So why is it that men don’t treat you the way you deserve? Well the truth is actually
pretty complicated and something that has been debated for centuries. Some say it’s
about biology, while others point to the complex societal forces that have shaped the way we
interact. I say, who cares what’s behind it? In this video I’ll talk about how to
change the things that you ACTUALLY have control over, and in the process, encourage him to
treat you better.
Let’s get into it.
1, Raise your standards
This is a KEY STEP that so many people avoid because they think it’ll scare men away.
In reality, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Raising your standards actually
makes men respect you MORE because it shows them that you’re aware of your own value.
If asking to be treated with respect scares a guy away, then I say good riddance.
Raising your standards can look like many different things. It means you stop dating
men who don’t treat you with the respect you deserve. It means insisting on real dates
instead of late night hookups. And it means setting the pace of the relationship, rather
than leaving that up to him.
There’s certainly a fine balance to strike here. Don’t be arrogant or rude. Just set
your standards and stick to them. And you’ll also need to treat HIM with the kind of respect
that you’re asking for, if you want to create a fair and balanced relationship.
2, set healthy boundaries
Boundaries are SO IMPORTANT when it comes to relationships and dating.
A lot of mistreatment we face could be prevented by establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries.
Now, this doesn’t excuse his inconsiderate behaviour. It just means that if you’re
able to create boundaries, you’ll be able to better protect yourself.
I know this one can be tricky, so let’s get into some examples. Boundaries are best
expressed as a statement: I don’t like it when you come over without
telling me first. I’m not ready to forgive you yet, I’ll
talk to you tomorrow. I’m not comfortable meeting your parents
just yet. I don’t like it when you stay out all night
without texting me
Just think about things that have made you uncomfortable in the past, and get out in
front of them. This allows you to be proactive rather than reactive.
Remember, a boundary is not a wall. It can be flexible. It can change over time. And
it is explained without judgment, before the line is crossed.
3, Take care of yourself
Noticing a pattern here? If you want the world to treat you with more respect, you need to
start by treating YOURSELF with more respect. This means prioritizing your own health and
safety, focusing on fitness and maintaining that TEMPLE we call a body.
I’m sure we all know areas of our life where we could improve. Maybe your skincare routine
is lacking. Maybe you don’t drink enough water or get enough fiber in your diet. Making
simple, consistent changes can have a huge impact on self esteem and, in turn, cause
people around you to treat you better.
For those of you who are already self care fanatics, taking care of yourself can look
like giving yourself a break once in awhile and not holding yourself to an impossible
standard. It also means being aware of negative self talk.
When things don’t go our way, it can be easy to focus on the bad things in life, and
even put the blame on ourselves. What we’re really doing here is trying to TAKE CONTROL
of our lives by taking responsibility even when we’re not really to blame. The truth
is, there are so many things in life that are completely outside of our control and
if we are able to recognize this, it will grant a powerful peace of mind.
4, Be confident
Confidence is key when it comes to gaining the respect of others. I know plenty of people
who feel like they have little to offer, so they can’t stand up for themselves when
they need to.
I like to think of it this way: we’re all the victims of luck and circumstance. While
“hard work” and “talent” do play roles in how our lives turn out, so much of what
happens is out of our control and was decided before we were even born. So that rich, successful
person you know has just as much right to feel confident as someone who lives in a van
down by the river.
Once you understand that, you realize that confidence isn’t something you earn, it’s
something you choose.
But that’s a bit abstract. Here’s a simple confidence building tip you can use right
now: think of a place where you feel confident. Maybe it’s hanging out with your family.
Maybe it’s when you’re playing soccer. Maybe it’s driving a car. Now all you have
to do is do that activity more frequently. If you usually play soccer once a week, see
if there’s a way you can do it twice a week. It sounds simple but this little tweak will
create effortless confidence that bleeds into the rest of your life.
5, Tease him
Often when I talk about teasing in these videos, I’m talking about playful jokes at a guy’s
expense but not today. Today I’m talking about the more sensual, sexual kind of teasing.
This means getting him all worked up, only to pull away and let his mind run wild with
desire.
This can be a difficult feat to pull off, but if you can do it, it will cause him to
associate you with excitement and get him turned on at just the sight of you. Here are
a few ways to tease him: Send him a naughty text in the middle of the
day when he’s at work Kiss him sensually and grind on him, when
he’s already running late Surprise him with a little flash when he least
expects it
These are just a few of the many ways you can make his mind run wild with desire.
If you’re looking for more, head on over to CoachNorth.com after this video is over
and check out my free presentation there. In it, I show you how to unlock the secret
desire at the heart of every man. Just follow the simple instructions there and he’ll
be all yours. That URL is CoachNorth.com
6, Play hard to get
Playing hard to get is a classic piece of advice for a reason: because it works. Men
naturally want to pursue women so playing hard to get is using the power of male psychology
to your advantage. If you’re too available and willing to spend time with him, many men
see this as desperation. Then you get into a situation where he pulls away and YOU pursue
HIM. For whatever reason, this isn’t attractive to most men.
Instead, play hard to get by giving him the cold shoulder once in awhile. Let him be the
one to ask YOU out. Don’t be rude, just make him work a little for your attention.
You’ll be glad you did.
That just about does it for today’s video. If you found a guy who worships you like a
queen you are? Tell me all about it in the comments below. Thanks for watching all the
way to the end and I’ll see you next time.