Hey there, it's Clay with ModernLove.life and this is Relationship Inner Game.
Now in this series of videos that we are starting, we are going to be talking about what to do
to get back together with your ex by looking at some very common yet specific problems
that people experience on the way to getting back together with their ex and in this first
video in this series, we'll be looking at what to do if your ex is particularly stubborn.
Now, this is something that we encounter a lot when we get messages and emails and questions
from people.
They tell us that their ex was being stubborn in one capacity or another.
This can take the form of all sorts of different things.
For example, your ex might be stubborn if they don't want to get back together with
you.
Your ex might be stubborn if they are just closed off to talking to you.
Your ex might be stubborn if they don't want to meet up with you, but they will talk to
you.
Your ex might be stubborn if they just want to be friends with you.
You might think that your ex is stubborn if they don't want to have long, deep emotional
text conversations with you, but they're okay with surface level sorts of things.
And when it comes to the topic of your ex being stubborn, it is important to realize
that what's going on when people tell me that their ex is being stubborn, is that they are
along the spectrum of the five stages of getting back together, right?
So your ex goes through this emotional journey of their own in the process of getting back
together with you.
So they might be completely closed off and walled off from you, in which case they might
be experienced, a high level of resistance towards interacting with you.
This can cause them to just not respond to you.
This can cause them to give you short one word responses.
This can cause them to maybe give you some hot and cold behavior, right?
And oftentimes this can be mistaken as stubbornness.
And as you kind of guide your ex along this journey of getting back together with you,
what's going to happen is this, stubbornness will start to fall away and that's why it's
really important to pay attention to which of the five stages your ex is at when it comes
to their journey towards getting back together with you.
Because if you approach them in the wrong way, you will become frustrated and you'll
end up thinking about your ex is stubborn when really you just need to meet them where
they're at emotionally and help to guide them along this journey towards getting back together
with you.
That's why we have that whole series of videos on the topic of the five stages of getting
back together with your ex, but if you are uncertain about where your ex might be on
this series of this continuum of getting back together, just know that if you are really
frustrated with where your ex is, that if you're frustrated with their behavior, if
you're frustrated with their lack of openness, their lack of commitment to interacting with
you, then it's probably because you need to calibrate to where they are at on their five
stages of getting back together.
Okay?
And that is something that we teach inside of our courses, specifically the Ex Solution
Program course.
We teach you how to zoom in on where your ex is at, dial into that and then meet them
where they're at emotionally so that you can help to guide them along that journey of their
five stages of getting back together.
So that when you get to that last fifth and final stage, which we call New Beginnings,
your ex is emotionally ready to be in a new relationship with you again.
And the two of you just have to make the formality of checking in with each other and saying,
hey, it seems like we're having a great connection.
Would you be interested in being in a relationship again?
Something along those lines.
You can hash out any kinds of last minute hesitations or concerns that either of you
might have, but if that's something that you're interested in, if you're watching this video
on our website, ModernLove.life, just head down below and click on the link below this
video and you'll go over to a page where we'll tell you more about how to really read into
these five stages, how to overcome your ex's stubbornness and how to meet them where they're
at emotionally.
If on the other hand, you are watching this video over on YouTube, what I'd like you to
do is to go down below into the description for this video and you can go ahead and click
on a link.
They'll take you over to a website called RelationshipInnerGame.com.
And there you can just tell us a little bit about your situation.
Some of the specifics about your breakup and all of that, and we'll send you some tips,
advice, and strategies that will help you start to make a deeper impact with your ex
so that they'll start to drop some of that stubbornness that you might be observing with
them.
So once again, this has been Clay with ModernLove.life.
This has been Relationship Inner Game.
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