a lot of you are not going for this one
most of you have couple months ago
advanced graduate in a year or two and
graduation is a big deal because finally
when you get out of school you can start
being the person we have all these
images all these visions some of them
are some of them are being about being
successful getting that job some of them
are being about being part of this
company hitting that position hitting
that money and some of them are just all
right and some of them are are just
about being something and I know a lot
of you don't want to admit this but we
all want we all want our happily ever
after we all want our happily ever after
why do we have these why do we have
these visions although a lot of them
comes from our family our culture our
society and a lot of them comes from the
media and we know that because in these
visions right our aim is what is our aim
our aim is to be happy somewhere along
the way somebody has told us that if you
get everything that we want me to be
happy right I'm sorry to say I don't
want to pop anyone spoke with you
happiness is never asked are you happy
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happiness is being who you are today if
you find something that we all are
because you know there's no good let me
tell you story before I graduate I got
my first job I'm super excited
so my reality is my reality so when I do
I side control the situation I think if
I do a really good job if I clean
everything up and everything looks
spotless and so I clean everything up
when I show them what I did yes
months later you're having lunch with my
colleagues and they say you know is this
what you want
thank you you know what they asked me
they asked me do you want to be part of
this
yes oh yes I am bound Colima crushers so
just think about it
all the energy that I did controlling
predicting what he did nothing
what what give me the job actually three
months in front of me actually reading
that cleaning and putting in that file
so please stop thinking about what
should have happen and see what's in
front of you because you have to let go
what you think you should be and you
have to start on focusing who you really
are
I know it's it's really easy standing
out there and saying yeah you have to
focus on who you are it's not easy to
find really who you are because we have
these layers upon layers that was built
by our families culture society and
media and find out the core that who you
are it's impossible we have all these
codes and it's impossible sometimes but
if you want and happier and more
peaceful life you have to do this you
have to change your goats why are we
telling another story so back in the day
once my cold sauce I had to be
successful and at the time I'm doing my
master's degree in Chicago and my school
offers three students this high
prestigious award that called master I'm
I'm working as a TA and I have another
job and I do this
so easy do what I did as an architecture
student I didn't sleep for four months I
didn't do anything so finally I submit
my project and you know what I felt like
it's not my exhaustion I was so tired I
didn't know and I asked myself why did I
push myself so I'm going to take this
and I said I want to change my clothes
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but no the thing for me was being Gordo
I'm not worthy of living I'm depressed
so I worked to change because whatever
you get in life position money success
you don't add up to who you are they
don't make you more you are who you are
those are experiences you get experience
but they don't make you more so during
my time in my dearest she said one thing
that kind of stuck she said whatever you
put in your suit it is on a dislike
and lasting what did I put in my success
story I'm an exhaustion security so you
have to be actively I'm thinking about
what you are putting in your world and
how you're putting it because if you
could love passion and joy into whatever
you're doing even though the final
product is success or not it's things
like those things so you have to be
actively involved in what you're doing
and how you're doing it because that is
gonna change everything and let's be
honest if you want to design a car you
should love driving it because we think
in our habits image that's cool we have
this fancy car it's hard experience is
not about the look of the car it could
be a charisma car but still it just
looks driving is not like that drivings
like me turn on the engine you to the
Hummer in your head and you push gas you
know how the car acts and you experience
the experience of driving so whatever
you're doing you have to focus on every
aspect not just the look on it with
every single part the system the engine
experience that's and you might think
why are we gonna learn these things
right you gonna learn these things wrong
you think you learned
professor maybe people you admire lead
from your colleagues of course you can
learn these things from these people
you're gonna learn a lot from them but
in my personal experience I learned a
lot of things that I learned from my
teammates from the girl who does the
posture from the guy who builds war
because these people are doing this and
they and they out and you will never be
like them their focus on detail and you
will never have actor even detail so you
have to talk to them you have to honor
your team you can learn a lot from them
so he comes the number 8 you have to be
a team player
no matter what you do you have to be and
finally you did all of these things you
focus on your team you did everything
right and you have this product it's
time to let yourself be seen and I know
it's easy to say it's not easy now I'm
still afraid of being pointment we all
do that it's not easy to be but if you
let the fear of disappointment failure
critic to stop you showing up to stop
you doing what you love you're gonna
miss so much you're gonna be so much in
their lives so you have to find a way to
be ok excitement feeling and last but
not least always designing this doing
that
school meeting this doing that it's
mostly about the ordinary if you want to
be happy anyway anyhow you have to honor
the ordinary you know honor the book
under your friends or family or loved
ones under the spiders and be grateful
your breath your you're doing that today
but it's something so whatever you do
find a way to be okay I want to thank
you all of you for having me to you
today it has been honestly extraordinary
experience
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