Hey there, it's Clay with modernove.life and this is Relationship Inner Game.
Now, over the past couple of videos we've been talking about things that people think
are very super critical deal breakers, mission important stuff when it comes to getting back
together with your ex, that actually don't matter at all.
Okay?
And we've talked about several of these things such as if your ex's initiating contact with
you, if your ex is moving on and all that, but today we're gonna be talking about one
of the biggest things that people seem to worry about, and that is if your ex is dating
someone new, if your ex is in a rebound relationship, now you might be thinking, how could this
not matter?
I mean if my is dating somebody new, what if?
What if it's true of what if they fall in love with each other and run off into the
sunset and get married and have 10 billion kids or something like that.
And the truth is, is that it doesn't matter if your ex is dating someone new because we
have something that we teach our students called the decoy strategy that allows you
to actually leverage the sharp break between the version of you that your ex broke up with
and the version of you that has acquired what we teach in our course called Advanced Relational
skills that allow you to have deep, meaningful, strong, intense emotional connections with
your ex.
Okay?
So if you can do this, what actually happens is you leverage a certain psychological effect
called the decoy effect, and it causes your ex to laser focus on you and to really kind
of become a little bit obsessed with you.
Okay?
And so I set it all right.
I said it.
But what's going to happen is you're going to really outshine anyone else that your ex
might be dating because of the quality of the connection.
And this whole decoy strategy is going to really be working in your favor to cause your
ex to have such a strong emotional connection with you that honestly they won't care about
someone else that they're dating or anything like that.
And besides, you know, after you go ahead and we're in these advanced relational skills,
after you go through everything that we teach and start to learn these advanced relational
skills to help you connect better with your ex, what's going to happen is you're just
in general going to smoke the competition anyway.
Most people out there don't really put much of a concerted effort into learning how to
connect better with somebody else into learning how to have a deep, meaningful, emotional
connection with someone else.
If you just go out there into the dating world and you, and you ask people like, what's important
in a relationship, they'll often say, oh, it's chemistry.
It's connection or something like that.
And people treat it as if it's just some sort of magical random thing that happens.
It's just the roll of the dice.
It's like you know, one in a billion people you actually can have an emotional connection
with, but that's not true in my experience.
I've found that it's actually possible to teach people how to have chemistry with other
people.
It's possible to teach people how to have an intense emotional connection with other
people and if you can do this, you can instantaneously have rapport or chemistry or connection or
whatever you want to call it, compatibility with someone else, and when that happens,
the two of you will come together naturally.
It doesn't matter if someone's in a relationship with some lukewarm person over there or whatever
because you will be able to leverage this psychological phenomenon of the decoy strategy,
the decoy effect, and you'll also be able to have an intense emotional connection, which
of course is what is very important.
- that intense emotional connection.
So here's what I'd like you to do.
If you're watching this video over on modernlove.life, our website, just head down below this video
and click the link below.
And what this will do is it'll take you over to another page where you will learn more
about how you can create a deep, substantial emotional connection and leverage this decoys
effect to your advantage even if your ex is in a rebound relationship, even if your ex
is dating someone else.
And what I want you to do, if you're watching this video over on Youtube is too quick down
below this video and you'll instead be taken over to our website relationship, inner game.
All you have to do there is fill out a couple of quick questions about, you know, kind of
what's going on with your relationship and your ex and all of that stuff.
It'll just take like 30 seconds.
And then I'll start to send you some tips, advice and strategies that will really help
you to build a strong emotional connection.
Okay?
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