hey guys susana from wingman attaining
coach in Vancouver Canada I want to just
follow up on a video I did a few weeks
ago where a guy in hardware store asked
me out on a date and I'm fit so I'm
going to give you a few the do's and
don'ts based on that date so that we can
all learn and grow from this first of
all the things he did right he showed up
on time and even though I should have
early in bought my own coffee he
insisted on buying me a treat and so I
asked for a cheesecake he actually got
another point for that because I found
out later that he's a vegetarian and he
never once made me feel bad about asking
for a non-vegetarian three third point
he was a great conversationalist he was
great about asking questions and also
sharing his story and we shared about an
equal amount of talk time and fourth
thing is he walked me to my car which
was very chivalrous the things I didn't
go as well were during the conversation
his phone although the notifications
were set to silent it was on the table
and every time screen lit up he checked
out of our conversation by checking his
phone so that's a turn-off and then the
next thing is to that when we when he
did walk me to my car
he was obviously wanting to go in for
the kiss and I didn't want to and I was
trying to show the signs that I was not
interested in that by not making eye
contact moving away from his personal
space to wait for the handle of my car
like I'm leaving and he kept kind of
maneuvering in trying to get closer to
me until finally I actually had to say
look I'm not going to kiss you so that
was a bit aggressive and then he asked
me where I was doing later sort of
hanging out with friends he said what
about later tonight that translated into
Netflix and chill which is cheesecake in
sex and at that point I was just totally
turned off so what I did wrong here's
what I did wrong when I first met him he
had a kid with him that well maybe it's
nephew I should have asked I'm not a kid
person I don't want to be a stepmom I've
already done that love those kids but I
don't want to do it again
and so I should have asked that question
as well the next thing that I did wrong
was during on a conversation he did ask
me what I was thinking of when he found
out I was a dating coach he was curious
about my intention I'm going on a date
with him and I was honest in that I said
well I thought if you weren't there
for me then maybe I could set you up at
least I was honest but he did ask me if
I want to go out again
and I said yeah but I was thinking as
friends and I should have said as
friends or you're a great guy maybe I
can set you up because obviously I
already knew that with him having a kid
it wasn't going to work out and I should
have said that but you didn't even ask
me any questions about whether I even
like kids so another little point there
and then oh and in the other point which
was not bad on his part or my part but
as an incidental I totally respect and
even admire the vegetarians and vegans I
think they are the saviors of our planet
because I do believe that being a
carnivore is not great for the
environment you don't have to share my
opinion whatever it doesn't matter
and but I am a carnivore I love a meaty
juicy greasy I'm going to hell burger
and I prefer to share that experience
with someone else who feels the same way
as me we all have flaws what do you
think that's a bonus or a flaw that's
the truth of Who I am so what I'd like
to know from you
is something that you've experienced on
a date that was particularly positive
negative or comical please share in the
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