The biggest confusion in America in 2019
is that money is happiness.
I know what's gonna happen.
This is gonna post on YouTube
and I'm gonna read the comments.
They'll be like,
"Yo, easy for him to say 'I'm rich'
"but I'll cry in my Ferrari."
Until you're crying in your Ferrari.
And when you have money
and you're sad as fuck,
real bad shit happens
'cause that shit goes
from Cognac and weed
to cocaine and guns in your fucking mouth.
My friends, it is time, once and for all,
to fucking cut the bullshit.
We need to start talking about happiness.
My friends,
until our society,
and this country especially,
redefines success
in being happy,
not being rich,
everybody will continue
to go down the path
that we're seeing in our society
of depression, anxiety, drugs.
You have to be honest with yourself,
'cause if you're incapable of that,
you have no prayer of happiness.
And being honest with yourself is hard.
My friends,
we are so good at casting judgement
on everybody else.
We’re unstoppable at that.
Keyboard warriors on Twitter?
We’re not doing that to ourselves.
More importantly,
how do you start chipping away
in a world where you were parented,
or your environment made you that way?
There are people right now
that are living their life,
still in their 40s and 50s,
based on the opinion of their parents.
They think they’re doing the right thing
‘cause they’re fucking actually love their parents.
I get it.
I love my parents so uncomfortably much,
it scares me.
But they live it because they're appeasing
lawyer, two kids, living in
this area, doing this job,
don't take risks 'cause
we told you not to.
We came from a generation that didn't,
so you're doing that.
Or I was once an entrepreneur
and fucked it up,
and so we were scared,
so now you don't do that.
They live for their parents.
They think it's good
'cause everything's good
'cause you're doing
what your parents want.
You feel like it's good.
And then,
life keeps going.
Then what starts happening is they start to resent their parents
because now they're popping
to their 50th birthday,
their 60th birthday,
their 65th birthday.
They get a health scare
and they're like,
" I'm not doing what I wanna be doing."
People here are in debt,
or can’t do something
because they’re just staying above ground,
but that’s because they bought a house
that was too expensive,
not using rooms,
in that house,
and they don’t have the humility,
to sell that house and go back to rent,
because they don’t want their friend
from high school,
or their grandma,
to judge them,
because we manifested that you
have to own a home.
And if you did, and now you’re not just
staying above water,
and you sold that home,
and moved into a shittier neighbourhood,
or a smaller house,
or rented,
now your actual life can open up
but no.
The ideology of owning a home,
and the inability to take a step backwards
to take 3 steps forward,
is gonna make you unhappy
till the end.
I'm watching real deep sadness
and it's not because of social media.
Social media is not making you sad.
Your insecurity's making you sad.
There’s no hack.
There’s no passive income.
There's no system.
You wanna build something?
It's hard work and talent.
every person in here
that's not 100% happy, including myself,
is not doing something because
of judgment of somebody else.
100%.
You wanna fucking win in life?
Fall in love with losing
because most people here are scared of it.
The number one unlock
to happiness in this room,
is to go out there after this talk,
and get naked
about your vulnerabilities,
what you suck at,
take a step back,
go humble.
This is about losing and humility
at the forefront,
and nobody's talking about it.
Every single other person talking
is talking about
“fake it till you make it.”
“Winning at all costs.”
“Look the part before you are.”
Everybody here’s trying to
change the world,
change yourself first.
So stop
making judgement on the past,
and start being practical
on what you can do,
instead of dwelling
on what you can’t do.