hey psychoers welcome back
so perhaps you're in love with someone
and you're curious as to whether they
feel the same way about you but they
haven't quite said those three
magic words
what's holding them back
maybe they haven't yet fallen in love
with you
but they appear to like you enough that
love could be on the horizon
well there are a few psychological
secrets that can boost the likelihood of
love in your future
what are they you may ask
watch to find out here are six
psychological secrets to make anyone
fall deeply in love with you
number one
make good eye contact hybrid
psychologist zick rubin conducted a
study where he recorded how much time
lovers would spend looking into each
other's eyes he found that individuals
who were not in love looked at each
other 30 to 60 percent of the time
while those couples deeply in love
they stared into each other's eyes 75
percent of the time when talking and
when someone else entered the room or
interrupted them they were much slower
to turn away from their partner's gaze
a little secret to really getting
someone to consider these feelings of
love for you look into their eyes 75 of
the time the brain remembers the last
time someone they loved stared at them
in the same way
they will associate this stare with
feelings of love
why this lovely memory causes a release
of
phenylethylamine which is known as a
love drug
phenylethylamine is released in the
brain when someone falls in love the
chemical too mimics the brain chemistry
of someone who is deeply in love
chocolate contains phenylethylamine
which is probably why it's historically
been considered an aphrodisiac it's also
probably the reason we love chocolate so
much
number two
choose a date location with dim lights
when deciding the location of your next
date it might be a good idea to pick a
location with dim lighting in a
significant research study published in
the journal scientific american
researchers showed male subjects two
photographs of the same woman in one of
the images researchers changed the size
of her pupils to be faintly larger while
the other image was adjusted so that she
had smaller pupils none of the men
reported noticing the slight change but
the men described the woman with small
pupils as cold hard and selfish the
woman with larger pupils was described
as soft more feminine and pretty
many further studies have had similar
results when it comes to women's
preferences on pupil size studies
suggest that they are similar in some
ways
findings appear to suggest that women
who are attracted to nice guys are
attracted to medium-sized pupils while
those who like bad boys are attracted to
larger pupils
well obviously we can't control the size
of our pupils but dimming the lights
will expand them a romantic candlelight
dinner and your partner may feel even
more attraction for you
especially if there's chocolate involved
number three don't be afraid to smile
when you feel like smiling don't be
afraid to let those pearly lights show a
study published in the bulletin of
psychonomic society found smiling might
just make you more likeable according to
the study women in the experiment who
smiled 70 of the time were seen as more
interpersonally attractive than women
who seldom smiled so while you may think
a good old lip pout is the way to go a
smile may be even better
number four
casually touch them often
in an experiment from the university of
mississippi in rhodes college
researchers had waitresses briefly touch
customers on the hand or shoulders in a
controlled yet natural setting the
waitresses who casually touched their
customers when returning change received
a significantly larger tip than those
who did not another study published in
psychologically press taylor and francis
group had men stand on the corner of a
street and attempt to talk to women who
would walk by the men were more
successful in starting a conversation
with the women when they lightly touched
the woman on the forearm for one second
as the researchers state
our results showed that a man's
courtship solicitations are more
favorably accepted by a woman when the
request is accompanied by light tactile
contact an intimate touch on the arm
here and caress there may just leave
your partner even more romantically
drawn to you
number five have meaningful discussions
about yourself and them
research from harvard found that deep
conversations and meaningfully talking
about yourself can help activate the
very same regions of your brain
delicious food or sex activates the
study states that over a 45-minute
period subjects paired carried out
self-disclosure and relationship
building tasks that gradually escalated
in intensity study one found greater
post-interaction closeness with these
tasks versus comparable small talk tasks
so while small talk is fine every now
and then when you're on a romantic date
a more meaningful discussion may excite
them more
you know more than the weather when you
both open up and reveal your true
emotions your partner may fall in love
with the deep engaging conversations you
have together instead and number six
have a good sense of humor
everybody loves to laugh and a little
sense of humor can heighten any
relationship researchers from illinois
state university and depaul university
found in their study that when you use
humor when getting to know an
acquaintance at first that individual
has a better chance of liking you more
they even found that engaging in funny
tasks may raise romantic attraction
sounds like a fun date may be the way to
go cracking a joke under din candlelight
with chocolate
they may just fall in love with you so
do you see love in your future with
these habits who are you in love with
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