INFJs form less than 3% of the population, and with that comes many challenges. Not many people
in life will understand an INFJ, and many not familiar with their unique ways of being will
underestimate them. Either through subtle shade, or overt obnoxiousness, it can be a
sobering smack in the face when an INFJs realizes, people will always underrate their capabilities.
And then there's trying to exist in a world, intent on power seeking
and racing to constantly be adored. INFJs will usually spend many years trying to fit in,
before they realize they were always meant to stand out.
It can be incredible to witness for those who have become accustomed to their passivity.
They’ll often continue to underestimate the INFJ, and end up learning the hard way,
they’re natural gifts will not allow for ego-boosting or power-tripping.
But lets explore further with; What happens when you UNDERESTIMATE AN INFJ.
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To doubt an INFJ is to fuel their passion
INFJs are natural visionaries who are always incredibly invested in their ideals. Their
internal worlds are built on stories. Like a need for food or water, they consume it from books,
movies and even the personal happenings they learn from others lives. They can often be so
immersed in the fantastical world of imagination, or fascinated by the different ideas and theories
they conjure up, they forget that the real world is far more uncompromising and dull.
People will oftentimes criticize them for being too idealistic, or of having their heads too far
in the clouds. However the reality is, most people around them just lack the same wild imagination,
and so they can only see ideas in the context of whats practical,
as opposed to whats possible. They can’t visualize so they criticize.
Nevertheless the criticism does cut deep because
most INFJs are usually very emotionally invested in their thoughts and ideas.
People sometimes label them as too sensitive, but its actually an appropriate reaction to
being perpetually misunderstood. INFJs tend to be questioned more about their decisions
than other personality types. They’re often also looked down upon for their uncommon life choices,
critiqued on their unconventionality personality traits, and even challenged on their beliefs.
Its never easy going against peoples opinions,
but true INFJs will more often than not opt for the unorthodox path, even if it means leaving
people behind. They will learn to use others doubts as fuel to follow their intuition.
Occasionally even managing to inspire and persuade even the sternest of skeptics.
They will not be cajoled to others whims
INFJs have Extroverted Feeling (Fe) as one of their core cognitive
functions. This tends to make them harmonious beings, more concerned with
the well-being of the collective, than their own individual wants and needs.
As a result, they are usually more open minded than most, when considering peoples thoughts
and feelings. However there are times when an INFJ will cease being tolerant,
and that is when someone calls for them to forgo their deeply held values and beliefs,
or pressures them to do something too far out of their comfort zone.
Trying to convince an INFJ into pursuing a goal, dream or life path that doesn’t
sit right with them is rather futile. INFJ are incredibly strong willed individuals
with deep rooted morals and values that they will seldom set aside for anyone.
And an INFJ will never care about anything, they haven’t come to care about on their own.
For example; Their friends and family might believe they are well suited to a particular
promotion at work, and despite it being more money and status, an INFJ will never persuaded,
unless they were passionately interested in the position, and it aligned with their beliefs.
INFJ will always mind their own business,
and they will never seek to prove anything, especially if it costs them their principles.
They will know when your lying
People test limits when they desire power and control.
We tend to see this with narcissists, who often start off with subtle manipulation tactics,
before switching to more elaborate and malevolent tricks, so as not to get challenged.
INFJs are of course not immune to such coercion,
especially because their idealistic trait tends to try and convince them that everyone is honest.
This causes many toxic individuals to see them as easy targets,
when in reality they’re massively underestimating their ability to notice the most subtle of things.
INFJs have Introverted Intuition (Ni) as their
most dominant cognitive function. They have a sixth sense like perception of the world,
and nowhere is this more expressed than when a person tries to lie to them.
Their ability to read facial expressions, notice the slightest shift in a person’s voice,
and intuitively feel a suspicious change make them exceptionally adept human lie detectors.
They instinctively know when someone is not telling the truth. An INFJ even knows when
someone lies through a written message. This is how good they are at recognizing insincerity.
So while INFJs tend to be more generous in giving people the benefit of the doubt, they are far from
naive. They will have no tolerance for people who intentionally interfere with their harmony.
In doesn’t matter whether it’s in a relationships, work environment, or even family dynamic,
they’ll know if you’ve deceived them, and that will be most likely be it for that relationship.
They can figure out your weaknesses
INFJs are exceptionally good at reading people and sensing things that are usually inconspicuous to
others. They have an intuition that is almost sixth sense like. This can be seen when they
observe people and are able to fairly accurately read what they really think, feel, or desire.
Their highly sensitive intuition is able to pick up on this through nonverbal cues
and body language, if it’s not coming across in peoples words.
They also often think back to those moments later in their day or week,
analyzing them and continuing to intuit reasons for different behaviors.
INFJ are therefore incredibly perceptive and might be able to pick up on a secret someone might
prefer be kept hidden. Although they’re generally kind individuals, who would never willingly
expose someone to harm or ridicule, they are most certainly capable of such acts, if pushed too far.
Subtle remarks and deep-seated questions is how an INFJ will
casually communicate that there is much more to them than just kindness.
They can be unpredictably ruthless
INFJs are famously known as being gentle and deeply empathetic,
and while that is true most of the time, that reputation does a disservice in forewarning people
of their less than gentle and caring side, when pushed too far.
INFJs have a high tolerance level for negativity
and they do tend to give people the benefit of the doubt more than most.
This tends to lull people into a false sense of entitlement, with how they treat an INFJ.
INFJs don’t tend to verbalize their discontent often, it just bubbles on the inside,
only becoming apparent when it eventually boils over, exposing an INFJs unparalleled rage.
Fortunately it is highly uncommon for an INFJ to get to this stage. It is only ever really
triggered when someone crosses a deeply sacred boundary, or does something truly unforgivable.
They are unstoppable once they’ve set themselves a goal
INFJs are used to being underestimated in their lives. Seen as too quiet for leadership
positions or too strange for traditional structures, or too introverted for most
friendships. They always seem to be too much or not enough in this overly sensing world.
Obviously this can be incredibly depleting to an INFJs existence.
Being perceptually misunderstood is never conducive of great mental well being.
INFJs are idealists and dreamers. They need purpose in order to live fulfilling lives,
but so often their ability to discover this is hindered by a society that demands them to conform
in order to be accepted. Many INFJs do, and trade a shell of an existence for this acceptance,
but there are some INFJs who don’t.
They’re the ones who have found their life's purpose and are on an unyielding path towards
their goals. These INFJs see being the underdog and the black sheep as a badge of honor, and they
see people who underestimate them as stories they can relate, when they inevitably prove them wrong.
For INFJs being underestimated can be a powerful thing, an unexpected opportunity to grow.
When people underestimate an INFJ, and an INFJ decides to still persevere,
they build an immense level of mental strength and fortitude.
But it is a choice to not let others opinions define you.
INFJs can either dwell on being misjudged for the rest of their life,
or they can use that chip on their shoulder as fuel to kick ass and change minds.