improvement pill here, are you someone who constantly doubts themselves are
your levels of confidence and self-esteem basically non-existent
if so pay close attention and watch this video till the very end because today
I'm gonna show you the secret to believing in yourself now the reason you
don't believe in yourself is because of your thoughts
we humans average around 50,000 thoughts every single day and of these 50,000
thoughts 95% are repeats meaning that they are the same thoughts that you had
the day before and the day before that and so on these same thoughts go back
months years and sometimes even decades and ultimately stem from certain
experiences that you had in the past maybe you got rejected hard after
confessing to someone that you really liked and this caused you to believe
something along the lines of I'm not attractive or I'm not desirable maybe
your parents were hard on you when you were young often criticizing you and
comparing you to other people and this caused you to believe something like I'm
not good enough maybe you try to break a bad habit and failed multiple times
causing you to believe something like I'm not strong enough or I don't have
enough willpower these experiences happened in the past but the thoughts
that came with those events still haunt you they're still there playing on
repeat in your head months and maybe even years after the experience actually
happened and unless you replace those negative thoughts with positive ones
they will continue to drag you down for the rest of your life see the thing is
your thoughts ultimately determine your actions if you're someone who thinks I'm
not strong enough all day every day you will find yourself doing things that
reinforce this idea maybe you'll stay in bed all day surfing social media instead
of working or studying because I'm not strong enough right there's no way I'll
be able to work or focus for long periods of time because I'm mentally
weak why even try when I'm only going to fail might as well just stay in bed all
day Ryan because you stayed in bed all day and got nothing done this just
becomes more evidence to back up your negative thought oh my god I did nothing
all day again it must be because I'm mentally weak it must be because I'm not
strong enough and just like that you just strengthen this belief even more
and this cycle repeats itself over and over again every single day bringing you
further and further down now I got good news and bad news for you good news is
you can change your thoughts it's entirely possible to replace I'm not
strong enough with something like I am mentally strong or I get things done the
bad news is that it's gonna take a while I mean you've been saying I'm not strong
enough for years so you shouldn't be too surprised to hear that it'll take at
least a couple of months for you to start believing I am mentally strong
right but if you're willing to put in the time to make this change here's what
you gotta do step number one figure out what you currently say to yourself you
need to pay attention to what goes on in your head throughout the day and look
for the most common negative thoughts that you say to yourself you probably
have a couple right the top three down in the comments down below
step number two figure out what new thoughts you want to adopt look at your
list of negative thoughts and figure out the opposite of those statements for
example I am weak becomes I am strong I am not good enough becomes I am good
enough I am undesirable becomes I am desirable
write those down also in the comments down below step number three find proof
for your new thoughts you need evidence to back up these new dots you need proof
that you are in fact mentally strong in order for you to actually believe it and
the great thing is you don't need to do something extraordinary in order to
prove this to yourself let's say for example you've never worked out before
in this case simply doing a 30-minute workout routine is proof that you are
stronger at least for today right because people who work out are strong
they literally get stronger with every single workout step number four repeat
your new thoughts every time you find proof so using the example from before
after doing your workout routine you got to manually think to yourself I am
mentally strong and here you might bump into some resistance because of
something called cognitive dissonance basically it's uncomfortable to have two
conflicting beliefs so of course it's gonna feel weird to say I am mentally
strong when you've been saying I am weak like the past five years but you got to
do it anyways you got to think this new thought so that it can eventually
replace the old one which brings us to the last and final step step number five
repeat steps 3 & 4 until your new thoughts become your normal thoughts
this is by far the hardest step of them all because again this will probably
take months you basically just keep gathering proof and keep repeating your
new thoughts to yourself nothing fancy just rinse and repeat what I'm telling
you to do here is to basically build a habit and I know I know this is a lot
easier said than done which is why I have the tamed course which is a free
course that you can check out in the description box below there I teach you
more about how habits work and also how to build them the right way but this is
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