a simple and easy NLP mindset to improve your communication dramatically
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Damon Cart here from NLP gym on another gorgeous day in Santa Cruz California
how to use NLP to communicate more effectively if you haven't already
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regular basis we have presuppositions in NLP there are several of them I'm not going
to go through all of them right now and they're easy to look up you learn them
typically in your practitioner training enforcing a lot of people don't go back
and go over them
re-read them are really attempt to party them one wonderful mindset that you can
use to improve your communication dramatically is, this is a
presupposition the meaning of a communication is the response that it
gets and you can think about that not just for yourself but you can think
about it if your marketing if you're in sales if you're in negotiating if you're
in anything where communication is really really important and there's
almost nothing that you can't involved in that communication is not important
that's so think about that and I think about and take that on for yourself and
that is in this is an incredible amount of responsibility to take on your for
yourself and that's what makes this so effective
you're taking on that responsibility and you're you're basically saying when I
communicate sure what I mean is important but more importantly with the
other person understands the results that are the feedback that we get from
my communication is more important than what I met now people will misinterpret
you from time to time and sometimes it is their fault but that's not where we
have to hear we're not we're not arguing over who's right who's wrong
it's not about being right or wrong it's about are you getting the outcome of the
results that you want
so maybe I meant to say one thing or maybe I met to communicate one thing but
if the person communicating to our the group down on communicating to don't
respond in the way that i meant then it's my responsibility to change up my
communication to then get the response i want i see artists do this a lot when I
was in film school and also when I was doing a lot of writing if the audience
didn't get our movie or the audience didn't get the story that we wrote we
would often clam up and say oh it was their fault they didn't get it or not
smart enough or would make whatever excuse but that's complete bullshit if
you're communicating to an audience when you're communicating to a person and
they're not understanding what you're talking about instead of getting this
thing caught up in your ego about they're not smart enough to get it or
they don't understand you or whatever that's irrelevant
you're not getting what you want out of this so change up your communication and
keep changing it until they respond in the way that you want them to respond to
you get the outcome of the results that you're looking for it doesn't help you
are the other person to make them in your mind seem like they're not smart
enough or they just don't get it
that's not gonna help anything that's where communication breaks down and
there is no communicating now there are occasions when people are just not going
to get what you say they're there are occasions where people have already made
a judgment about you even before you you deliver the communication in those cases
you just have to let those go that's about them you know and sometimes people
will misinterpret you and it it's not really something
it's not your fault and that's again going back to this is not about fault
this is not about blame
this is about responsibilities big difference between blame and
responsibility it's about taking responsibility for your communication
and when you open this door you will instantly become a better communicator
because it won't be about right or wrong it won't be about a principal it'll be
about whether or not you're getting the results you want and there's another
presupposition that basically states if you're not getting the results that you
want to do something different
do anything different so if whatever you're doing in your communication is
not feeding back the way that you wanted to feedback and change
don't get upset about it don't don't blame the other person for not
understanding you change up your communication this is really about
getting out of the ego and taking full responsibility
blame is about ego responsibility is not responsibility is about accepting who
you are and accepting the circumstances around you and responding not reacting
responding effectively so this is also about being flexible being flexible with
your communication this will make also make you a better communicator so and
becoming more responsible you become more with more flexible and get out of
your get out of your ego respond to what is happening in front of you not into
what's happening your head and the loops that are going on in your mind respond
to the person and you will become an effective communicator realize that all
communication the meaning of all communication is the response that it
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