once an infj discovers their personality type their life can change drastically the mbti theory
is able to explain much about the qualities that form an individual's distinctive character for
an infj this can be particularly relieving as it gives them language to think and talk about their
differences how they make decisions how they're taking information and more but of course it will
not explain everything about what makes them who they are every personality type will take slightly
different forms in different people based on their experiences the people they've grown close to
and how they were raised however defining a similar set of traits helped explain how an
infj views and copes with the world they live in being an infj can therefore be a great gift
and a terrible curse and it's important to see both sides so let's explore what it's really
like to be an infj the best and worst parts please leave a like if you enjoyed this video and let us
know your thoughts in the comments below being three percent of the population can be lonely
infjs are one of the rarest personality types in the world composing only three percent of the
population due to this rarity they can frequently feel misunderstood and isolated they yearn to
deeply connect with others and yet they tend to be worn out and discouraged by social interactions it
is both not enough and entirely too much at the same time an inevitable contradiction as creative
souls who feel and think deeply infjs can often feel a heavy loneliness to express themselves
they frequently opt to sing compose music read write or create some form of art their creations
are profoundly personal and meaningful to them they do not create to be admired and notice rather
their souls have something to convey and they must find a way to express it naturally while there are
many different purposes for art the most important one is in creating soul connections with others
when an infj listens to a great piece of music or reads a book alone it can be inspiring and
joyful but you can also feel incredibly lonely to not have anyone to discuss or share it with infj
is aware that it is difficult to find people with similar interests and creative insights
they always want to connect with people's souls but finding such soulful people
can be an eternal struggle the all-or-nothing mentality can be a bit unrealistic infjs try
to downplay their expectations but in reality they have incredibly high standards for themselves they
are not only self-critical but they also expect a lot from others especially those closest to
them their spouse friends and even their children when it comes to love they especially want a lot
so much so when excitement and passion inevitably fades away in a new relationship
they will often feel confused and discouraged they then begin to reconsider whether they should
have gotten involved with the individual in the first place if they were honest with themselves
what they want is actually a fairy tale infjs are such dreamers they want the most perfect
most magical thing in everything they of course are aware there's no such thing as a perfect human
being when an infj expects a lot from someone it's a good indicator that they care for that
person deeply and the high expectations is just them wanting the best for that person
they are methodical decision makers contrary to popular opinion infjs are very empathetic
to other people's needs but this sensitive and considerate nature often needs people to believe
that they are far too emotional to think logically this is a mistake for many reasons the biggest of
which is our society's belief that emotions are incompatible with good decision making we are so
often taught that good decisions should be based solely on empirical data and completely devoid of
emotions in order for them to be strong and good this is of course not true leading with empathy
doesn't make someone weak in fact this would be the ideal type of leadership in a more just
world infjs are big picture thinkers who care about others and consider the consequences
of their decisions they employ introverted thinking as their tertiary cognitive function
they're extremely systematic and rational in their thought processes they construct an
internal framework for how things operate and then seek methods to improve change and perfect ideas
they're incredibly methodical in this way however infjs usually make these calculations in silence
only letting someone into their internal dialogue if they have gained their trust
they tend to see things others can't which gives them the upper hand
infjs inhabit a world of silent introspection and imagination they're able to see beneath the
surface of people situations and words to find hidden meanings and motives
they do not care about how something appears on the surface only the fundamental truth behind it
infjs gain their key insights by employing their dominant function introverted intuition this
gives them the ability to be superbly attuned to others feelings and temperament and it's this mix
of skills that enables them to perceive even the slightest behavioral changes or inconsistencies
infjs can therefore be very perceptive about what is bothering someone they tend to be
acutely conscious of other people's body language tone of voice and facial expressions allowing
them to pick up on the meanings motives or feelings behind people's words and actions
this is one of the reasons they are so good at emphasizing and understanding others maybe this
is also why there is such a high proportion of infjs encountering social work and teaching roles
they are insatiable learners on a quest for more knowledge infjs are always seeking new
information whether it's by picking up a book people watching or occasionally stepping outside
their comfort zone because of their innate desire to learn and grow infjs are lifelong learners
who wholeheartedly embrace the notion they absorb new ideas draw connections and develop
unified theories about human nature by using their introverted intuition as a result libraries and
internet tend to be loved by most infjs many spend countless hours engrossed in the captivating world
of a good novel or down a rabbit hole of online research trying to satiate their questions about
something however infjs can also be adventurous souls when it comes to things like camping in
nature and even skydiving it's their innate curiosity that leads them to find pleasure
in both internal and external adventure they believe failing to plan is planning to fail
as a predominantly judging personality type infjs can find spontaneity and
change difficult to comprehend they prefer to be forewarned of what is going to happen
so they have time to mentally prepare many frequently maintained schedules and planners and
obsess over to-do lists for this reason an infj who feels in control is a particularly joyful infj
before going to any social gathering they will often want to know their time location and guest
count to feel settled when an infj feels like they have no control over a situation it is likely to
stress them out immensely they'll feel extremely out of sorts some may even be unable to adequately
function as a result they fear vulnerability so they build walls to protect themselves
infjs often panic at the prospect of appearing vulnerable or of getting hurt and this makes
sense when you consider that many of them have been hurt in the past it also makes sense as
infjs are intensely emotional and sensitive by nature when they suffer they suffer a great deal
whether it happened yesterday or 10 years ago they bear those wounds with them for a very long time
as a result infjs are often on automatic defense mode when it comes to being vulnerable with people
and this can be either advantageous or detrimental when they establish healthy boundaries when they
abandon detrimental relationships when they safeguard their energy it is beneficial
however when they assemble barriers to keep people out it can be incredibly harmful infjs
will most likely create barriers around themselves when they're worried about being hurt again they
attempt to mold themselves to their surroundings in order to be liked thereby shutting people out
when they feel vulnerable to rejection the shutting down can almost be instinctual
unfortunately as a result they can miss out on some really great relationships
friendships and novel experiences and all because they're too scared to take another chance
if you tested as the infj personality type you belong to the three percent minority of people
exhibiting rather unique characteristics that can be both a blessing and a curse in this
overly sensing world however it is important to understand your strengths and weaknesses
as it can help you better understand your own needs tackle issues in more effective ways
and feel more assertive and less guilty about your life choices hopefully this list has highlighted
the many ways having this personality type can be an incredible strength and also highlight
some weaknesses you should be aware of please feel free to add to this list in the comments