Hey, what's up, everybody?
Adam LoDolce from LoveStrategies.com and this video right now.
I'm going to be talking about
Three places to avoid like the plague when you're going out on first dates.
Because I guarantee if you go to these types of places
over and over and over again on your first dates,
you are just not going to have those good, warm, fuzzy feelings.
You're not going to be attracted to the guy.
You're not going to build a lot of good connections.
Now, you're probably wondering why it is that I am looking
like a 15 year old skater boy with my backwards hat.
It's because I have been on the road for the past
five or six days and my hair has gotten a little bit out of control.
Jessica looked at me last night when I first got back from my trip.
She didn't say how much she missed me or how much she loves me or any of that.
She just said, Oh my God, you need a haircut.
So sorry about this guys.
So if there are any men
watching this video right now, if you're going on first dates,
make sure you get a haircut before that date.
Now, I want to talk about this topic about first dates, because that was a lot
of what we discussed on my Love Accelerator coaching call just now.
We had one client and she keeps going on these dates over and over and over again,
and she just hasn't been feeling that spark.
She's just not really connecting with the guys that she's going out with.
So that brought up this topic.
So the first one, and this is the type of date that she has
been going on over and over and over again is lunch dates.
All right.
She is a very busy woman in her work life.
And then what she's doing is going on lunch dates
throughout the week to just squeeze them in.
And my hypothesis, my theory of why this isn't working for her
is that when she goes when she transitions from her corporate work job
to a lunch date, those are very different energies.
Okay.
Think about how it is that we are in the corporate world or at work.
Usually we have a lot of masculine energy,
a lot of directive energy.
And it can be very difficult to go from that kind of masculine
take charge don't take any bullshit type of energy to a first date
where you lean into a little bit of a softer, more feminine energy
so that you can attract a more masculine man. It can be very difficult
to make that transition.
So I always recommend, rather than do lunch dates,
move it to at least an evening date, grabbing
drinks and something a little bit more casual
and try to do it on the weekends ideally so that you can
really transition out of that work energy to something a little more casual.
So that's the first thing to think about.
And there's a lot of matchmaking services that recommend that,
oh, just go for a lunch date in the middle of the workweek.
And you'll finally find love.
Guess what?
I have heard horrible, horrible reviews from these types of matchmaking agencies.
Most matchmaking agencies, honestly, are garbage, but especially those
because I just don't think you have the right type of energy.
The second date to avoid like the plague are movie dates.
All right, now this only for first meet up what we call we call it a meet up.
If you just meet them online for first meet up or even a first date,
we recommend avoiding movie dates because you just don't talk
because there's a saying, like, if we're going to spend our time
getting to know someone, why would you go to the movies?
Also, like, who goes to the movies these days anyways?
Now, the third date I really want you to avoid, like the plague.
I personally hate this one with a passion is coffee dates.
Now, remember, back in the day before I was a dating coach, I once took a woman.
Don't judge me too hard for this to a Dunkin Donuts for a first date.
And let me tell you, that date was the most
awkward, painful date to get through that I could ever think of.
All right.
Because there's just something so non romantic about
drinking coffee together, and then you drink coffee at the end.
You're supposed to kiss.
God, help us.
There's no way you're going to build any type of a real connection.
So, again, just move these types of first dates
or first meet ups to an evening.
Just grab drinks together.
If you don't drink alcohol, that's totally fine.
Just get a mocktail or get a soda water with lemon.
All right.
Go into a place where there's a nice ambiance.
It's got nice lighting.
It's just going to give you a much higher chance of actually
being attracted to the guy that you are across from.
So, I wanna hear from you guys. Do you agree with this?
Are these the types of dates that you want to avoid?
Like the plague?
Again, it would be a lunch date, a movie date and a coffee date.
Do you agree to avoid these dates like the plague?
Leave that comment right there below.
I'm going to leave you with one final story
that really is a fourth date to avoid.
This is actually a second date.
One of my clients was telling me
that she's going on a second date with a guy that she went out with recently
and he invited her to get couples massages together.
I advised her not to do that.
That's a little bit too intimate for me for a second date.
And again,
the purpose of the first couple of dates is actually to get to know each other.
And I think that this guy's got a little bit of a trick up his sleeve
with this couples massage dates.
So I wanna hear from you guys on that as well.
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