- I just want to show the world that we're just as normal.
- Want the same things.
- That we want the same things everybody else wants.
We look at all those little people out there
and think we just want the best future for them.
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- Can you look at me for one second?
And can you give me a big smile?
You look like a princess.
- Beautiful, Cass.
- But something just as simple as combing their hair
could make a big difference.
On my YouTube channel I do easy style tutorials
that anybody can do.
I'm not surprised that John and Kelly
don't know what to do because it takes a lot.
You have to actually learn this from someone,
but they can learn.
They can literally get online,
they can look up how to style the girls' hair.
So now then let's get your baby hair popping, okay?
- This is gonna be great, Gracie.
- I don't like my baby hair. - Why?
They're beautiful.
A lot of little brown girls like you
have an issue with their hair
because they just don't know what to do with it.
Once you figure out how to manage it
trust me it's so beautiful.
Sometimes as little girls of color
our hair becomes an issue.
So for them to just have a little bit of confidence
if I could give that to them
I'm gonna go home happy.
- Whoa.
(drumming)
- I'm teaching everybody about drums,
and everybody's excited.
(drumming)
And this is one of my favorite games
to play with my children.
And the person that plays the drums
is the person that will decide when the music stops.
So we can incorporate my favorite game,
the kashishi game.
And I think they're actually gonna love it.
The first person to grab the kashishi
gets to stay in the game.
(drumming)
Don't forget to escape.
(cheering)
Phil is so excited, he's actually getting involved.
I'm so excited.
(cheering)
- Typically people with autism are anti social.
The fact that Sophia was able to pull
some good things out of Phil
that typically a lot of people
have a hard time doing with kids with autism.
So she definitely gets some points on that one.
(laughing)
- So what did you really think when you saw our photo?
Were you like surprised, or?
- I just didn't expect it.
So I'm like, I didn't know.
- You just don't know any gay people,
or you guys to not know?
- No I just don't know, I don't know anybody.
Am I allowed to say gay?
- Mhm, yes.
- Because nobody talks about it.
Chuck grew up with a very religious family
who definitely was against that.
I just want to show the world that we're just as normal.
- Want the same things.
- We want the same things everybody else wants.
We look at all those little people out there
and think we just want the best future for them.
- This whole experience is new for me.
I think most people are kind of,
they're just scared of what mom or dad
or grandma or grandpa are gonna think.
- So we're no different than we would have been before.
So you might have a high school friend
and they said, "Oh by the way I'm gay."
Would you change what you thought about them?
- No.
It is a very new experience.
It's kind of opening my eyes up a little bit.
You know I think I'm really learning a lot.
- The idea of finding time to go on a date
is the hardest thing in the world.
A lot of times we play video games together.
- And she will play them?
- Oh she's more competitive than me.
What do you do for fun?
- I can't think of a lot we do without the kids.
We don't really make enough time.
I don't think that's really high on Virginia's list.
I just don't think she really likes
going on dates that much with me.
- Having the conversation with Dwight
it's all I'm seeing is this marriage is in trouble.
He's going down the wrong path.
Spending time with Virginia,
do you want it to be your priority?
- Virginia makes herself so busy
because she likes to accomplish things.
That's really hard sometimes.
I love her incredibly.
But, you know, I don't know
that she would really believe it
if I said it directly that way.
As much as you want to make somebody happy
you know, you can't do it all yourself.
I don't know how it's going to work
to try to have more time together
with Virginia as a couple.
But it's something I'm certainly willing to work toward.
- What would be something you'd like to do for Virginia?
- I would like to really focus on being kind to her
and I mean I feel like I already am,
but you know when I actually step back and look at it
I don't think I'm doing that enough.
- I love showing how I live,
but it's not about food and it's not about video games.
It's about togetherness and I'm hoping
that they can make time for each other.
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