Good? We're ready to roll? Okay cool. What's your name?
Lucy. Hi Lucy. What makes a guy creepy?
From talking to a lot of women and understanding the dynamics of what a
woman is looking for in a man, I've been able to sum up 3 different types of
guys that women are creeped out by. What is the definition of a creepy guy?
A creepy guy is a guy who is not socially calibrated and a guy that a woman can't
trust. This is what happens when a woman is feeling that sense of I think this
guy is kind of creepy. He's a little bit weird, he's
socially uncalibrated so he's not very good in social settings. Maybe he's a
little off-putting and I'll be giving you examples of what this looks like in
terms of the 3 different types of guys, but this all happens and then a
woman can't trust him. The second that she feels that this guy is creepy,
she can't trust and then is no longer attracted. If a woman can't feel safe or
understand who the guy is that she's with and understand more of his
intentions, then she's not going to be turned on or attracted so let's go into
the 3 different types of guys. Guy number one is the psychopath, the
narcissist, the guy who has no empathy. He lacks the ability to understand what a
woman is feeling and women can actually catch on to this. They can see when and
feel when a guy is lacking that empathy and this comes out in their conversation.
He's almost robotic. He has no emotion, his face is very stoic, he's not very
responsive to what she's saying. Meaning, she might be saying
something and he can't empathize, he can't relate to her. He's not smiling.
These are characteristics of a guy who is creepy because he is not
showing any sort of human emotion and this can happen even if a guy is not a
narcissist, psychopath or sociopath. A guy who is very shy
could come off so timid that he ends up completely choked up in his voice and
he's not really responsive and he's got this fear in his eyes. This can
actually be creepy to women. "Long stares, like if you're my boyfriend sure but
you're not so please don't. Just don't do that". Don't stare just go up and say
hi instead of just sitting. "Don't be just sitting there and being like oh
like I like the longest stare like it's awkward and you'll catch people doing it
and it's like oh god." The next guy that women are completely creeped out by is
the overtly sexual guy. This is a guy who doesn't understand his boundaries when
he's talking to a girl. Maybe he's not giving her enough personal space, he's
touching her too much, he's complimenting her too much especially right away and
this happens and the girl's creeped out by this guy when the guy is coming on
strong very fast. This is when it's very creepy. The things he's doing
are completely normal if the girl knew him for a long time. But cat calling
her, saying weird things to her, when he just meets her. Like touching her
too much, talking about anything sexual within the first couple of minutes of
meeting her is going to completely creep her out. "Just like approaching at an
unapproachable time maybe just kind of like inserting himself into like my
personal space and just being like super forward rather than being polite.
I feel like guys are just too forward rather than taking into
consideration like whoa I'm just getting in her space and that's
kind of creepy." If you're socially calibrated enough, maybe you can get away
with being more physical with a woman fast or talking sexual to a girl
fast. But the problem is, is a guy who's not socially calibrated is not being
able to tell what the girl is feeling and thinking so if you're talking to a girl
and you have no idea how she's feeling in an interaction, which is what this
creepy guy does, then it can be a big problem. A guy might go too sexual,
too fast and sees that she's uncomfortable but doesn't care or
doesn't take notice and still continues to be too
sexual with her. This is a problem. You'll be labeled as creepy. The next guy
that women are creeped out by is sort of a similar dude but instead of being
overtly sexual, he's overly emotional. This is the obsessive guy. This is a guy
who shows up to her place unannounced, text messages her all the time,
says that he really likes her or maybe even says I love you when they just
barely met. "When they like you too much." What does that look like?
"Too many texts, too many phone calls. And when they don't have any friends and they just always...
Is that creepy?" What is creepy? "I think it's creepy when they don't have any friends
That's a red flag." Why do you think this is a red flag? "That means there's
something wrong with them. Exactly." On social media he's commenting on
every photo, he's liking every photo. This shows up a lot in social media where a
guy will basically stalk a girl and they don't even know each other and girls are
completely scared and creeped out by this. "Tinder matches often will just
keep it up even if you don't answer. You have to block them usually.
That's happened to me three times in the past week." Don't do this
and don't think that if you're a guy who's consistently commenting or liking
or doing anything on social media on her profile, Instagram, Facebook whatever that
she's gonna pay attention to you and then like you. No, this is creepy.
This is obsessive. It's very weird and it will turn a girl off very fast. You have
the unemotional sociopath guy, you have the guy who is overly sexual and you
have the guy who's completely obsessive. Try to stay away from entering into any
of these zones so you don't turn her off and I think one of the biggest things
that you can understand in terms of avoiding this is really understanding
what the woman is feeling and thinking. And one of the best ways to do that is
to consistently go out and talk to women so you can get an idea of how they're
feeling in an interaction. You are human, you have empathy, you have eyes, you can
hear so you can understand what a woman is feeling and thinking when you're her.
It's that gut feeling. It's gonna be telling you that but you're only gonna
get better at that when you go out and talk to more girls so make sure
you do that.