Hello, my wonderful friend!
Today I have 7 signs you are attractive, even if you don't think so.
If we're being honest, pretty much everyone has moments in our lives where we just, frankly,
don't feel attractive.
That's normal and it happens to everyone.
Have you ever been in that situation where maybe you've had enough failed relationships
that you're starting to wonder if maybe you're even attractive enough to get the kind of
relationship you want?
Or maybe you have people who tell you you're attractive, but you just don't really see
it.
Or something has happened to make you feel like you're just not as attractive as other
people.
And then this obviously makes you start doubting whether you'll actually be able to have the
relationship you want.
Have you ever been there?
Are you maybe there right now?
As I said before, this is normal, but it's time for you to learn the truth.
Because as they say, the truth really does set you free, and you deserve the freedom
of confidence.
Here's the best part about this video: I'm not just going to be talking about physical
attraction.
Although yes, that is part of it, and I will be talking about that as well.
But we're going to go even deeper and talk about some of the qualities that allow you
to attract a lasting, loving relationship with the girl of your dreams.
These are some of the qualities you need for that.
And I think you're going to be surprised by the fact that you already have some of them.
So make sure you stay with me till the end of this video, so that you learn all of the
signs.
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My name is Melannie.
I'm a Christian dating coach for men and creator of Attracting Lasting Love Academy.
I am your go-to source to learn how to attract a loving, lasting relationship without mind
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We're talking a real deal, dream relationship here.
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And if you'd like to learn more about how you can learn from me, how to attract a loving
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I will put a link in the description below.
As we get started with our 7 signs you are attractive, even if you don't think so, I'm
going to mention a couple other videos that will also help you with this.
Make sure you watch this video with 17 other signs that you are attractive and make sure
you watch this video on how to win her heart.
This is basic that every man needs to know if you're looking for that loving, lasting
relationship.
So I will put links to both of those in the description below.
Sign number one that you are attractive is probably going to sound weird, so just follow
me, okay?
Just go with me on this one.
Sign number one is that you are alive.
Yeah, I know that sounds funny.
Just hear me out.
I have been studying attraction for years.
This is obviously what I do as a coach.
And the more I study attraction, the more I realize that it is far more simple than
most people think it is.
Being physically attractive is not cookie-cutter.
It's not like there's one attractive type and that's it.
In reality, there are many different variations that are very attractive to different people.
Here's the way to think of it: There are attractive qualities that pretty much everyone is looking
for.
And if you have those qualities, that's how you can attract that lifelong, happy relationship.
Those are basic fundamentals that everyone needs to have.
But then there are also different appearances that are attractive to different people.
This is true for men as well as women.
This is why some men like tall women while others like short women.
Some like brunettes, some lik redheads, so on and so forth.
God doesn't make trash.
He doesn't make junk.
And he didn't put someone here just to be ugly.
Even if we don't see those qualities as attractive in ourselves, there are people out there who
think it's insanely attractive.
This is why in my academy when I'm teaching my clients about self-love and confidence
and increasing your attraction, I teach you how to do that in a way where you stay true
to who you are.
You never have to change who you are to be attractive.
We're all different, and that's what makes it so amazing.
For instance, I have a friend who's really attracted to men who are really, really big,
like barrel-chested and like big teddy bear guys.
They make her feel safe.
She's very attracted to them.
I have another friend who men like that intimidate her and they make her feel less than safe,
and so she prefers a man who isn't quite that big.
The truth is, there's something for everyone.
Here's something I want you to remember with this: It's not your fault that sometimes you
feel like you have to be a certain type in order to be attractive.
There are a lot of people who are saying this.
Honestly, they're manipulative, toxic people, but that's a lecture for another day.
It's not your fault that people are being so unkind to you about this.
The more I study science, and like I said, I've done this for years, the more I see that
you are amazing as you.
Remember, you don't have to believe something just because someone says it.
Just because it's a popular opinion does not make it accurate.
Our second sign you're attractive, even if you don't think so, is that you are willing
to learn and grow.
This is what we call a growth mindset.
For years, people thought that you could only reach a certain level of learning or a certain
IQ, and then it just stopped and that you could not grow new brain cells.
However, we have since proven that wrong.
Isn't that exciting?
That's so cool.
As a matter of fact, we now know that the brain, when we learn and we study that the
brain actually gets heavier, like a muscle.
Like if you were to work out your arms or something like that.
The brain can in fact learn and grow.
Now, some people stay in a very stuck, fixed mindset.
And they're not willing to learn, they're not willing to grow, they're not willing to
improve, often because of lack of confidence, but they just kind of stay where they are.
Other people say, "I can change.
I can improve.
I can learn.
I can grow.
I can become better."
And those people are insanely attractive.
Those people refuse to settle.
While people who are in a fixed mindset, they kind of have to settle by default on themselves
and on their relationship.
But someone who's willing to have that growth mindset, they're exciting, they're interesting,
they're fun, and they're insanely attractive because they're always learning new ways to
become even more attractive.
As a matter of fact, if I had to pick just one trait that is the most attractive trait
someone could have, it would be the growth mindset.
Because if you have that one trait everything else falls into place.
So take a moment and just celebrate that.
This means if you struggle with confidence or if your relationships fail a lot and you
don't know why, or if you struggle talking to girls, or if you struggle getting past
the first date, whatever your relationship struggle is, you can learn how to change it.
That's exciting, isn't it?
You don't have to stay stuck where you are.
But the important part is you can only change it if you do something about it.
And that's why the growth mindset is so important.
The willingness to learn and grow and improve.
As a coach, this is one of my favorite things to see in my clients, when they apply what
they learned in my academy.
I've had men come to me who have felt really desperate and really discouraged like maybe
this is never going to happen for them.
And watching them be able to flip it around very quickly is incredibly exciting.
It shows the power we have as humans to change our situation and turn our life around.
So if you're sitting here watching this video right now, and you're not completely happy
with your love life, there's something you can do about it.
And you need to take action so you can turn it around.
This is exactly what I'm here to help you do and help you do quickly.
That's why I created Attracting Lasting Love Academy.
So you can quickly learn exactly what you need to know to attract that lasting, loving
relationship.
Everything from confidence, how to talk to women, how to dress, how to skyrocket your
physical attraction.
I walk you step-by-step through exactly what you need to know to avoid those toxic, mind
game relationships, and finally have someone who loves the real you, who sees who you really
are and absolutely adores you.
To learn more about that and how you can get started today, just watch my free masterclass
at coachmelannie.com/masterclass.
This is where you will learn more about the strategies I teach and why they are so crazy
effective.
So again, go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass There's also a link in the description below,
and I'll put a link in the pinned comment.
I've seen the secrets I teach you in that academy work wonders, and I can't wait to
share them with you, so make sure you check that out.
Our third sign you're an attractive person, even if you don't think so, is that you are
an encouraging person.
You build people up.
I've said it before, I'll say it a million times again, people like people who make them
feel good.
And if she feels good when she's around you because you build her up, you encourage her,
she's going to want to be around you more and more.
No one wants to be in a relationship where they feel like they're not good enough or
they feel criticized or they feel belittled.
However, everyone wants to be in a relationship where they feel like they're good enough,
like their dreams matter, like they can do this.
So if you're someone who encourages people, you are definitely so much more attractive
than you realize.
Our next sign that you're attractive, even if you don't think so, is that you are a kind
person.
There was a massive study done - If you've been following me for a while, you've heard
me refer to it several times.
- a massive study done where they asked people what the trait they wanted the very most in
a partner was.
And the number one trait that came in above looks and wealth and status and everything
else was kindness.
If you're being honest with me, is that one of the things you want most in a partner?
You want her to be kind, right?
Because you're smart.
Well, the truth is, so many people act like women don't want a kind partner.
Come on, give her the benefit of the doubt.
Of course, she wants a kind partner if she's remotely smart.
And if she's not remotely smart, you should not be dating her.
Of course, she wants a kind partner.
As humans, we are drawn to people who are kind, and it's one of the traits that means
the very most to us.
If that's not something you can see right now, if you look around at the women around
you and you're like, "they don't seem to want kind men," well, you're probably attracting
toxic women.
And you need to instead turn that around and learn how to attract the high-value women
because high-value women want a kind man all day long.
As a matter of fact, a high-value woman will not settle for a man who isn't kind.
So if you're not attracting those women, that's again something I teach you how to do in Attracting
Lasting Love Academy.
So make sure you watch that free masterclass.
Our next sign you're attractive, even if you don't think so, is if you live a healthy lifestyle.
This is something we kind of get confused about a lot in at least the US
Sometimes we hear "healthy lifestyle" and we think "obsessive lifestyle."
And we think that you have to give up every food you enjoy, you have to spend hours and
hours and hours in a gym, and you have to be obsessive.
And that's not true at all.
If you are someone who focuses on health rather than obsession, you're certainly a very attractive
person, and there are a couple of reasons why.
When someone is healthy, that is like the highest form of physical attraction.
That's the way God made us.
We are attracted to health.
It also shows that this person has self-respect and discipline.
It shows that they will live longer, which you certainly want your partner to live long,
right?
So a healthy lifestyle is definitely something that makes you incredibly attractive.
I'm going to say it one more time: This is not about obsessing.
If you haven't yet seen this video, make sure you watch that one.
I talk about it a little bit more there.
I'll put a link in the description below.
Quick question before we get to our next sign.
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And should I make more videos on this?
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Our next sign you're attractive is if you create and focus on confident habits.
Confidence really does come down to our daily habits.
Confidence is one of my favorite things to teach how to create in my academy.
When you have those confident, simple habits, that's how you have high, healthy self-esteem
and how you create that confidence and maintain it.
A lot of people don't know this, but confidence is something you create, and it is something
that you either maintain or you lose.
And so if you're someone who learns what those confident habits are and you maintain them
you are insanely attractive.
As humans, we are just drawn to people who are confident.
Confidence is one of those traits that I like to call Attractive By Default.
It's something everyone is attracted to.
And the best part is, if you don't yet know how to do that, that is something you can
learn.
Remember, confidence is attractive and it's honestly just something you deserve to have.
Our next sign you're attractive is if you have good social skills.
And it's important to note that social skills kind of change as you get older.
What worked in high school does not work as an adult.
Far too many people are still using the same social skills they learned in high school,
and it's not super effective.
So just be aware of that.
But if you're someone who's willing to learn how to be charismatic, how to make people
feel comfortable with you, how to handle small talk in all of those things, you're an insanely
attractive person.
Why?
Because it makes people feel comfortable when they're with you.
And we all want to be around someone who makes us feel comfortable.
When a man has good social skills, it makes a woman feel safe with you.
It helps her feel comfortable with you.
And it helps her have more respect for you.
And you have to have respect for someone in order to love them.
So even though it might sound like a really small thing, it's incredibly attractive.
And if you're talking about a high-value woman, it's one of the biggest priorities that she's
looking for in a husband.
Now that you understand some of the biggest signs, I want you to do a couple of things
for me.
Number one, be really honest with yourself, and the things you're doing good at, pat yourself
on the back.
Celebrate that.
That's a huge win and you should enjoy that.
The second thing I want you to do is I want you to honestly acknowledge the things that
maybe you could improve on.
Because remember, a growth mindset is one of the most attractive traits you can have.
And any of these things that maybe you're not a boss at yet, you can learn how to become
a boss at them.
That's exciting, right?
Like, that's really exciting.
You don't have to stay stuck where you are.
You can improve and become even more attractive.
Which, who wouldn't want that.
I'm here to guide you through that journey, so again, make sure you watch my free masterclass
at coachmelannie.com/masterclass.
Any man who is unhappy in his love life, any man who wants the relationship you've always
dreamed of, even if you're afraid maybe it doesn't exist, any man who wants someone to
love you for the rest of your life must know the secrets I teach in that academy.
And trust me, they're going to blow your mind.
You're not even going to know they exist until I share them with you, but they make dating
and relationships so incredibly simple, exciting, and fun.
So make sure you watch that free masterclass.
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Thank you so much again, my amazing friend, and have an amazing day!
[blooper beep] Here we go.
Okay, it's going.
I was looking at the wrong number and I was like, "It's not going up.
We're not filming."
But we were, I was just looking at the wrong place.
That's fine.
It's like a life lesson there.
If you're looking at the wrong things, you won't be able to measure your success accurately.
Boom.
Truth statement from Melannie.
[laughter] Okay, let's get going.