That it no more finishing last
If you are tired of getting walked on and not getting what you want at a life, this video is for you.
Today I'm gonna show five things you can start doing to stop being the nice guy and don't get this confused
This isn't about turning into a prick but instead like Dr Glover put in his book " NO MORE MR NICE GUY"
These are gonna be steps that you can take to increase your musculinity and get what you want from life
Whether it's business, relationship or dating.
If that sounds like you, let's hop into it.
Number one, stop trying to make other people happy.
The nice guy always does what he is asked because he wants to make other people happy
even at the expense of his own happines.
This is also why he can't get a date bacause with girls, he is always there, always trying to please them
like a well trained puppy.
Women get instantly turned off by that.
In other words a lot of nice guys do this things thinking he is gonna get exactly what he wants in return
In other words known as "cova contract"
for example, I'll do this hopefully they will like me back.
This rolls me on to number two, you are going to have to learn how to say NO more often.
This is to make you more aware and not just stuck in the same cycle of "cova contract" I was just talking about.
For example, say there is this pretty girl in your class or your job and she always ask you for help for with her work
And you always say yes.
Just bacause you like her but don't actually like doing the work.
The next time she ask you for a favour, really think about how the task itself really makes you feel
and also how many times she hasn't returned the favour to you and done something for you.
If that's the case just say no
Does this mean you are a bad guy? absolutely not.
You are just more aware and conscious now
Like I said if you want more depth net knowledge about this, you really wanna learn about how to stop being a nice guy
I really recomend that book by Dr Glover called "NO MORE MR NICE GUY"
And since I know you guys may hate reading
I took a step further, I partnered up with Audible so you can get this book completly free and just listen to it.
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Listen to it in the car as you drive to work or at the gym while you're working out.
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This rolls me on to the third you gonna have to start doing and it's that you need to make your voice heard
Because now that we have stepped away from being the yes ma'am
it's time to start making your voice heard
because many nice guys just fall into the trap of following the herd to avoid criticism
By you starting to express your own opinions and how you truly feel
will take you from that quite nice guy that everybody just walks over to a musculine assertive guy
That people are actually listening to
And that rolls us on to number four, you need to set boundaries
bacause now people are listening to you, now you are expressing your opinions
with that voice you stet the boundaries that you want
It's nothing you being a dick or a prick, it's that now you are saying what you are comfortable with and what you are not comfortable doing.
And this is great for business and relationships
Say you are in a relationship but are the one putting all the effort and always doing everthing because you are afraid to speak out
When you stat putting boundaries and say what you want out of that relationship
communication is key key, that's when you gonna be happier because if the other partner loves you
she is gonna put that effort in and balance out the relationship.
Again communication is key and when we are talking in a business environment it's the same
If you are that nice guy, you are the one everybody goes to to do all the work that nobody wants done
but when you finally set boundaries you can actually say no and say what you are comfortable and not conforable doing.
And finally number five, you have to ask yourself this quastion
If you didn't care what others thought of you how would you live your life?
See, nice guys nice guys do what others want them to do
But if you really want them to break the wall you have to forget about what others want and ask yoself what is it that you want.
What career path do you want to choose, what type of woman would you like to date, who you want your friends to be?
At the end of the day it's your happiness that matter