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you know it's always a little bit
frustrating to me when people have a
negative relationship with failure
failure is a massive part of being able
to be successful you have to get
comfortable with failure yeah you have
to actually seek failure failure is
where all of the lessons are you know
when you go to the gym and you workout
you're actually seeking failure you want
to take your muscles to the point where
you get to failure because that's where
the the adaptation is that's where
growth is successful people who fail a
lot they fail a whole lot more than they
succeed they extract the lessons from
the failure and they use that the the
energy and they use the wisdom to come
around to the next phase of success got
it take a shot you have to live at the
edge of your capabilities you got to
live where you're almost certain you're
gonna fail the reason for a practice
practice is controlled failure you're
getting to your limit getting to your
limit getting to your limit you can't
lift that you can't do that you until
you get to the point that all of a
sudden your body makes the adjustment
and then you can do it
failure actually helps you to recognize
the areas where you need to evolve so
fail early fail often fail forward set
your life on fire and seek those who fan
your flames the Phillie translation of
that is don't be hanging with no Jang
casts Joker's that don't help you shine
the prerequisite for spending time with
any person is that they nourish and
inspire you they feed your flame look at
your last five text messages are those
people feeding your flames or dowsing
your fire put your phone down for just a
second and look around look to the
people around you are those people throw
when logs on your fire or they pissin on
it the people that you spend time with
are gonna make or break your dreams
everybody don't deserve to be around you
you got to defend your light with your
life so who are the people in your life
that are fanning your flames I was just
having a debate with a friend of mine
and we got stuck on the difference
between fault and responsibility she
kept talking about how something was
somebody's fault somebody's fault and I
was like it really don't matter whose
fault it is that something is broken if
it's your responsibility to fix it for
example is it's not somebody's fault
if their father was an abusive alcoholic
but it's for damn sure their
responsibility to figure out how they're
gonna do with those traumas and try to
make a life out of it it's not your
fault if your partner cheated and ruined
your marriage but it is for damn sure
your responsibility to figure out how to
take that pain and how to overcome that
and build a happy life for yourself
fault and responsibility do not go
together it sucks but they don't when
something is somebody's fault we want
them to suffer we want them punished we
want them to pay and we want it to be
their responsibility to fix it but
that's that's not how it works
especially when it's your heart your
heart your life your happiness is your
responsibility and your responsibility
alone as long as we're pointing a finger
and and stuck in whose fault
something is we're jamming and trapped
into victim mode when you're in victim
oh you're stuck in suffering the road to
power is in taking responsibility
accepting responsibility is not an
admission of guilt you're not you're not
admitting that your fault
taking responsibility is a recognition
of the power that you seized when you
stop blaming people it's not like you're
letting somebody who wronged you off
the hook like taking responsibility is
an act of emotional self-defense
taking responsibility is taking your
power back your heart your life your
happiness is your responsibility and
your responsibility alone we didn't grow
up with the sense that where we were was
where we were going to be you know we
grew up with the sense that where we
were almost didn't matter because we
were becoming we were becoming something
greater being realistic is the most
commonly traveled Road to mediocrity why
would you be realistic what's the point
of being realistic
if Confucius said he who says he can and
he who says he can't are both usually
right thrust was realization and we can
put into the universe
what we wanted to be a study the
patterns of the universe there's a
redemptive power that making a choice
has you know rather than feeling like
you're effective the things that are
happening make a choice like you just
decide what its gonna be who you're
gonna be how you're going to do it just
decide and then from that point the
universe is going to get out your way
it's like it's water it wants to it
wants to move and go around stuff you
know you know there's a there's a flow
of the universe that I've grown to know
just how to go with it you can't be
scared to die for the truth the truth is
the only thing that's ever going to be
constant
don't ever let somebody tell you you
can't do something not even me
all right
you got a dream
you got to protect it
people can't do something themselves
they want to tell you you can do it
you want something go get it period
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