- Heya player, did you recently get blocked by your crush
and now you're struggling to figure out
what to do about it?
Should you message them again?
Should you leave them alone?
The answer isn't always that clear but don't worry.
In this video I'm gonna teach you how to deal
with getting blocked by your crush and how to move forward.
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So let's talk about getting blocked.
Number one, it sucks.
It's a sucky feeling to go through.
To know that you can't communicate with this person
and even worse, to know that they don't wanna
communicate back with you.
I think what happens with anyone that gets blocked
is that it only fuels your desire to talk to them more.
You wanna know why they blocked you,
what you did wrong and what you can do
to fix the situation.
A lot of times when people get blocked
it usually catches them off-guard.
They end up sitting there thinking, what did I say?
And what did I do that caused them to react this way?
And in that thought process your mind
might be telling you, just create a fake account
and message them from there
and ask why they blocked your other account
but I think that's a really bad idea.
If they blocked you for whatever reason,
you weirded them out, you talked to them too much,
they don't want you seeing their posts,
whatever the reason may be creating a new account
isn't gonna help convince them to unblock you.
It's only gonna make them wanna double down
and block you again.
Instead I think there are three positive ways
to react to a situation like this
and the first one being talk to the people
that are closest to them.
Talk to their friends, find out what's going on.
Try to find out why they blocked you.
In most cases, people's friends know what's up.
So if you can talk to their friends and ask them,
hey why did this person block me
they might just be honest with you and tell you,
you weirded them out, you said this thing to them
or they just don't want anything to do with you,
they don't like you
and they don't wanna give the wrong impression.
Now I'm not saying what the friends have to say
is the end all, be all.
Sometimes friends inject their own attitude
and biases into the equation
and might try to push you away from your crush that way.
So, if you don't really wanna go through the friends,
then go to the person directly.
Talking to them in person is the best way
to really kind of resolve getting blocked by them.
Asking them, hey what's up?
What did I do, what did I say, how can we fix this
is the best solution.
Now for some of you talking to them in person
might not feel like a realistic option.
Maybe you never see them in your school,
maybe they don't even go to your school.
So what do you do in those situations?
Well if that person blocked you
and you have no other way of communicating with them
you need to move on.
I know, it doesn't sound ideal,
you want them to unblock you.
You don't wanna just walk away but sometimes
that's the only option you have.
Giving them space, letting them work through
whatever they're feeling,
letting them go through that experience is the best option.
Sometimes time does heal wounds.
They may unblock you on their own
or they may start to interact with you in other ways
and then eventually unblock you from there.
So let's say you tried talking to their friends,
they didn't unblock you.
You tried talking to them, they still didn't unblock you.
You tried giving them space and letting them
unblock you on their own, that didn't work out either.
So now what do you do?
How do you get them to unblock you?
You didn't do anything wrong in this equation
so why did they block you in the first place?
What do you do about it?
Hold on, hold on, the third point here then
has to be self reflection.
I know you feel like you didn't do anything wrong
and there was no reason for them to block you
but clearly something happened
that triggered that behavior in them.
Maybe you said something and you didn't realize it,
maybe you were talking to them in a way
that made them feel uncomfortable.
You need to go back and look at the conversation.
Look at what was said, look at what happened
and truly reflect on it.
From a non-biased perspective
and really see what you can do about it.
Sometimes we don't realize that maybe
we were being too annoying or maybe we were just
too awkward in the conversation.
Maybe you said something weird
or you asked them a weird question
or you just weren't personal enough
and they felt like this conversation is going nowhere
and blocking you was the only option they saw fit.
If at the end of the day there is no way to redeem yourself
and get unblocked you have to accept it for what it is
and do your best to prevent that from happening
in future relationships and future conversations
with other people.
I get where you're coming from.
Getting blocked really sucks and your options
are really limited but those are the best things
I think you can do to deal with them.
But now I wanna know what do you think?
Have you ever been blocked by someone before?
Why did they block you?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
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On that note guys, I'll catch you in the next video.
As always, love and peace.