I always thought people were so cute when they have the little cheeks and they're like rosier, but mine are pretty plain
If I was going to change one feature about my face I would say that I would want fuller lips.
I am definately a person that looks tired and when I'm tired and when people say that I'm immediately like:" Oh, man ".
I'm starting to already get a little of crows feet and stuff which is like my mom has, so.. yeah.
I'm a forensic artist, I was trained at the FBI academy in 1993 in composite art.
I worked for the San José police department as the police artist from 1995 to 2011.
We didn't really know what we were doing so that was nerve racking for everyone.
I 've showed up to a place I've never been and walked into this big warehouse
and at the very end was a guy with his back to me with drafting board.
I had a curtain separating me so that I don't see them.
We'll begin.
First of all, tell me about your hair.
Hum... brown , long. I guess a little bit passed my shoulders.
Your jaw?
My mom always told me I had a big jaw. Yeah, they are brown eyebrows, dark brown eyebrows.
I didn't know what he was doing but I could tell after several questions that he was drawing me.
Tell me about your chin.
I guess I never really compared to anyone else's chin but, especially like when I smile I feel like it protrudes a little bit.
What would be your most prominent feature.
I kind of have a fat rounder face
The older I've gotten the more freckles I've gotten.
We sort of realized: Oh, man, now I have to talk about myself and, and, and think about my looks.
I'm forty so I'm starting to get a little bit of the crows feet going on.
Once I get their sketch, I say "thank you very much "and then they leave, I don't see them.
I still didn't know. All I have been told before the sketch was to get friendly with this other woman, Chloe.
Today I'm gonna ask you some questions about a person you met earlier,
and I'm gonna ask you some general questions about her face.
She was thin so you could see her cheek bones. And her chin was a nice thin chin.
The women were really critical about moles, scars and things like that.
And yet they were describing just a normal beautiful person.
She had nice eyes. They light up when she spoke and were very expressive.
The length of the nose, what is that like?
Short
Short?
Yeah, cute nose.
Her face was fairly thin.
She had blue eyes, very nice blue eyes.
Ok.
So, this is your self described image, and then somebody else described you like in this sketch.
I have this whole thing about having dark circles and crows feet around my eyes
and that was not part of the sketch at all, that the stranger did. The stranger was a little more like, gentle.
It's pretty different..
Just looks strange....
She looks closed off and fatter.
She just looks kind of shut down, sadder too.
The second one it's more beautiful.
Do you think they are catching more from you?
Yeah... yeah.
She looks more open and friendly and...
happy.
I've come a long way in how I see myself, but I think I still have some way to go.
I have some work to do in myself.
Do you think you're more beautiful than you say?
Yeah. Yeah... yeah.
Chloe's perception was so, so clearly different.
Her picture looked like somebody I thought I would want to talk and be friends with, like a happy, light, much younger, much brighter person.
It's troubling. I should be more grateful of my natural beauty.
It impacts the choices and the friends that we make, the jobs we apply for, how we treat our children... It impacts everything. It couldn't be more critical to your happiness.
Our self perceptions are generally kind of harsh
and unbecoming when really that's not how the world sees us.
We spend a lot of time as women, analyzing and trying to fix the things that aren't quite right
and we should spend more time appreciating the things that we do like.
YOU'RE MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN YOU THINK.
Watch the whole experience at dove.com/realbeautysketches