- Hey guys,
my name is Shayla.
Welcome to my channel.
If this is your first time here,
I started this travel,
(babble)
this channel traveling full time
and now I'm moming full-time.
I feel like motherhood is just kind of a crazy
thing to get into
and especially during COVID,
we don't have like that information sharing
so I make these videos to kind of just
tell you the things that I'm learning
and to just be like, crap,
what's going on.
First things first, I'm trying to get
to 100,000 subscribers, if you've liked
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It's a big goal but I'm in the big goal
so here we are.
I made a video about my birthing experience
with Hypno Babies,
I'll link that up here.
I actually just watched another YouTuber
who talked about her biggest mom regrets
and one of them was that she tried to go
into natural labor without any sort of
training or information, that's what
hypnobirthing was for me, it was like my
training for how to do a natural birth.
But what is it?
Do you listen to something?
What do they talk about?
What is it?
So my film was actually back in August
and I was going to redo the whole thing
no, because I started watching it
and there was good information
that I kind of already forgot
and I recently put up a box on my Instagram
asking what you wanted to know
and in there were a few extra questions
that I didn't cover in this video
so I put them on my blog linked below,
or just going to heyshyla.com
and look for what is hypnobirthing
things like did I meditate before
I started hypnobirthing?
Did you get distracted?
Do you need to buy the course?
How much do you really need to practice?
How did the hospital respond?
Let's just get into it.
Hi guys.
My name is Shayla.
Welcome to my channel.
I'm trying to be quiet because she's upstairs sleeping
nobody wants to wake a sleeping baby.
So I recently posted my birthing video
and I talked about how I did hypnobirthing
and there were a ton of questions about it
so I wanted to do an entire video about this
because it is confusing.
I do remember when I was pregnant,
I was like, what's hypnobirthing?
Is this witchcraft that people use.
Are you hypnotized?
What are you listening to?
I don't even remember, I think I heard
about it on social media.
There's not a lot of information
so I wanted to make information for you.
First I want to tell you, like, people have
these great stories but like nobody really
explained what it is or what it was
or how do I ever.
I remember first kind of telling my midwife,
like, yeah, I think I want to do hypnobirthing
and she was like, okay, what I would recommend
is reading the hypnobirthing book.
There were three books that I read
during my pregnancy in this order, "Mindful Pregnancy"
and it's by the guy who did heads,
who does Headspace, he also has pregnancy
meditations on his Headspace app.
I also did that.
So I'm already kind of into this like meditation,
calm pregnancy things, especially during COVID
I'm so glad I did that the stress can be real high
and this just kind of chilled you out a little bit.
I read Ina May's "Guide to Childbirth"
I cannot recommend that book enough.
If you're afraid of giving birth or you just
want to learn more about labor, please read that book.
The first half is all about positive birth stories,
oh, it's, oh, it's hippie.
They are out on the farm
and she's the midwife there
and people come to give birth
so she's like, everyone loves to share
their horror stories about labor.
All we get are these terrible stories,
so the first half is all about good, positive stories.
I read some of them and I was like, okay, awesome.
Then I moved to the second half of the book
where it's like the meat and potatoes
where she explains how women have had
babies in comas.
And the point of that is that our bodies
are literally made to give birth.
Like our bodies know exactly what to do
and when we get complications, sometimes,
sometimes there, this is a general statement,
but when our heads get in the way,
we get in our own way,
and she explained that what happens
is when we start to fear pushing
and like delivering, our body goes into
a fight or flight mode
and so our cervix goes, okay, this is not
a safe environment to give a baby so close it
and so we are like, doesn't, it doesn't open
like it should be.
But our bodies, I guess your uterus
kind of goes like this, like the sides come up
and push a baby out so our body's pushing baby out
and our cervix is going, no, no, no, no
I don't feel safe here, I'm afraid
so that causes a lot of pain.
So if you can relax and feel like safe
and comfortable, then as it's pushing,
your cervix can open
and baby can come out with less pain
and in like less time.
So hypnobirthing was that for me,
that was my way to just be like,
I need to get out of my own way,
I need to get out of my own head,
I'm going to do this hypnobirthing thing
so that everything can progress as it needs to.
I read the hypnobirthing book
and I was still into it
I was like, okay, done.
So there's a course
and then there's like audio that you listen to.
The course talks about what you should be
eating during your pregnancy, what you should be
taking for supplements, talks about
delayed cord clamping, different possibilities
that could happen during your labor
to maybe get a C-section or it explains epidural,
it explains pitocin, it explains all the things
that could like the medicines that
the doctors could be giving to you
and what you might want or what you might not want,
things that happen to baby when baby is born
so it goes through all of that,
which I think is fantastic
and then there's the audio files.
So there's like six classes in the course
and I did one a week or something.
I started at week 32, I think that's
a good place to start.
I wouldn't start before week 30
and if you're past week 32, I still think
there's good information in there for you.
Then you've got the audio parts that you're listening to.
There's things like would have positive affirmation.
So this one you just listen to every day,
I listened to it on my walks
and it'd be like, my body knows exactly
how to give birth.
My body has the right amounts of iron.
My baby knows the best time or my baby knows
its due date or something because your baby,
when you're, when you go into labor,
your baby releases a hormone that
tells your body it's time
and your baby decides whatever,
and then everything happens.
I am healthy.
My birth is going to go exactly as it should
not as I planned, but as it should.
I trust my body, like all these things
that just you're like, okay, yes,
I can do this, it just is positive affirmation.
There's a partner one, Seth was very supportive
of me doing it but he was like, no,
I don't want to listen to the partner affirmation.
Really you don't want to do it?
He's like, no, this is your thing,
but I will be there for you.
I was like, okay.
And then there's like a questionnaire
that you can do with your partner,
I asked him some of the questions.
I basically just learned all the things
and then told him all the things
so he knows a lot about labor
and delivery that probably he doesn't need to know
which worked out because the nurse was
asking all the questions
and he like knew all the answers.
But I know that some people were messaging me
like my partner doesn't want to be involved.
I think as long as they support you, then it's fine.
Someone else was like, I'm kind of into it,
but I'm afraid he's going to be super granola.
First of all, you don't have to tell him
that you're doing it if you don't want to
especially now that it's COVID,
it's only you and your birthing partner in the room
so that person needs to know, but that's it.
There's something called the bubble of peace
and it literally has you imagine how you feel safe
and secure and who else is inside your
bubble with you that makes you feel safe.
And so Seth is in my bubble
and then I went over to my mom's house
and my mom was like, you're going to like
meditate your way through labor
and I was like, she's like, yeah, good luck.
You're not in my bubble, literally
I was like, so aggressive about it.
She was like what?
I was like, well, there's this bubble of peace
and I get to decide who's in my bubble
and there's some people that support me
and you're not in it.
She was offended
and I was like, sorry, mom, I don't want to
have to prove to you anything, I left
and I was like, was that aggressive,
it was a little aggressive.
There is techniques that they give you
like a finger drop technique.
So the tracks were like 45 minutes long,
which felt like an eternity, I fell asleep
almost every single time
and was very concerned that that would
ruin it for me but it didn't,
it actually tells you people fall asleep
all the time, your subconscious is still getting
all the information so it's fine.
But there's like a finger drop technique
so you're supposed to lay down
and then your finger, you literally put your finger up
and you drop it down,
calm all of your muscles
and this is why you have to do it early
so that you can start practicing that like, relax.
I remember doing that on the way the hospital
tapped my finger on my leg
and just like tried to relax during a contraction
so I didn't fight it, I just kind of like,
let it wave over me and then leave.
Listen to all the tracks in your ears
except for the laboring one which you play out loud.
That never got played for me
I forgot
and there was too many people in the room I think
and I was a little self-conscious about it.
I didn't even think about it to be honest.
I wasn't like where's my labor playlist
I just, it didn't play while
I was laboring.
It was fine.
So what I'm trying to tell you with all of this
is that if you don't follow this thing to a T,
it's okay.
I remember feeling like what they wanted was a lot
and I was like, I'm just going to do one a day
and this is going to be fine
and it was, it's just you need to practice
queuing yourself to relax.
I also got a question from somebody saying,
what if I am going to have a C-section
would you recommend this?
I would, I would still recommend it.
It's not like you're going to have a natural birth
and you can do it, it's like, you're going to
have a birth exactly as you're supposed to
and just like roll with whatever comes
and just be calm.
And I actually had someone else say that
they did hypnobirthing and had a C-section
and it made it so much better
because it, they were just able to like,
be like, okay, let's do it, whatever
we got to do, let's go.
They talk about a light switch
so the light switch is either all the way down,
which means that you are like,
they call it hypno anesthesia
so your body's just like muscles don't move anymore
you're just like relaxed or your light switch
can be half on where you can still move
but you're still in this like meditative state.
Is this way out there?
I feel like now that I'm saying it out loud,
it totally is but I am into it.
So you're supposed to start when you start
having contractions.
I started when my contractions were like
five minutes apart, which is pretty long,
but I was fine before that.
My midwife understood hypnobirthing
and she was like, all that I ask is that
when you come in, when you're about to deliver,
you put it halfway so you can talk to us
and you can answer questions for us
because the tapes tell you,
you do not need to talk to anybody
they can wait for your contractions to be done,
you can whatever
and that's good but I think doctors
need to know what's going on when you go in there
just to answer questions, that seems
totally reasonable, follow what it says,
but also be willing to like wiggle a little.
And if you want, your partner can answer
all those questions for you.
You're going to want to decide if you want to
do Bluetooth or if you want a cord.
I had a cord because I didn't want my
Bluetooth to die then not have it,
some people say the cord bothered them.
I didn't really care.
Another question was, do you feel hypnotized?
I did not feel hypnotized, I felt like I was in the zone
and I was just kind of like
in a deep meditation really,
but I could still answer questions
when people asked me questions, I just felt super relaxed.
Someone asked if I felt pain.
I did, but I wasn't afraid like I,
there was no fear when they were like, okay,
it's time to push I was like, okay, it's time to push.
And I remember pushing and just being,
I was screaming, if you've watched my labor
and delivery video, you know, that I was screaming
and that I yelled the F word,
but I was just pushing
and then I remember going, I can do this
and everyone else was just like you can do this
and I was like, yeah, I can do this.
Someone asked if it was hard to stay
in the meditative state during labor
and it wasn't, you practice getting there
and then you can just stay there
and then you're just listening to the tapes.
The next question is, what did the tracks say?
And the tracks, it's like a positive affirmation,
you've got the bubble of peace, you've got,
let's see if I can find it, oh yeah,
they would have you visualize your birth.
So it would have you walk through like, is it daytime?
Is it nighttime?
What does it look like when you're about to give birth?
What's like the ideal scenario for you?
I'll read you the titles.
So it's easy first stage if your birthing time
begins birth day affirmations
and that's just like, we can do this.
Fear clearing, which was another really good one.
Special safe place, deepening your hypnosis.
Easy, comfortable childbirth,
open eye childbirth.
So it teaches you how to do these
relaxation techniques with your eyes open,
yeah, comfortable pushing
and then pushing baby out.
It was a little bit confusing for me
when to do what recording
and I just emailed customer service
and then somewhere in the course I had missed,
they give you like a little calendar
that's like this week, these are the ones
you are going to be working on.
If you're interested in it
and you're into this at all, you can do it, okay.
Truly believe in you
and I think that my doula was a hypnobirthing doula
and she said that women who do hypnobirthing
have shorter (beeping) on average,
it just allows you to relax
and just let your body do its thing.
And now that I've made this video
it sounds absolutely crazy but it was amazing.
I would highly recommend it to anybody
who wants to learn more about labor
or is a little bit nervous or just wants
a technique to like help them get through it.
I hope that was informational,
I hope that was helpful if you are thinking
about doing hypnobirthing.
I'm an affiliate with Hypno Babies
and my link is below.
Thank you so much for watching
and I hope that you have a healthy,
happy, safe, fearless birth.
So like I said, thank you for watching.
If you like my videos, please subscribe,
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and go check out my blog if you want to
read this or get the extra questions
that I didn't answer in here.
Thank you so much for watching.
Bye.