On the last video, I talked a lot about flirting and the concept of push pull.
When you're pushing, you're showing non interest and when you're pulling, you're showing interest.
I want to kind of piggyback off that topic, and talk about this idea of playing hard to
get.
We're talking about getting a woman to chase you.
Here's the whole concept behind getting a woman to chase.
If you want her to chase you, you have to run away, I get questions all day long, about
how to stop chasing the girl, because a lot of guys are doing exactly that.
And here's the situation. The guy is chasing the girl, or maybe you're chasing the girl,
because she's not giving her all to you.
It's hard to get her to meet up with you, it's hard to get her to respond to your text
message.
This leaves you chasing her because she's not being available.
In this video, what I'm trying to teach you is if you want to get a girl that chase you,
you gotta make sure that you're not so available.
The 5 words that I want to teach you are this, "I'm actually busy that day".
Those are the 5 words, I'm actually busy that day.
Of course, there's a contraction in there.
Maybe technically six.
But those are the 5 words you're going to be using to get her to chase you because you're
gonna be showing her that you're not available.
In just a second, I'm going to be going over 3 different ways that you can use,
I'm actually busy that day in all different avenues of the courtship progression.
Three different points in the courtship process.
The first point, let's say, you end up meeting a girl at a bar, things are going really well.
And you end up getting her number or you end up setting up a date to see each other again.
And yes, this absolutely can happen.
If you're sparking attraction. I want you to make sure that you are not just ready
to meet up with her any single second. You're going to be using the I'm actually busy that
day.
You're going to ask her, hey, when are you free?
When are you free to hang out? When are you free to meet up?
And she's gonna say, oh, I'm free on Thursday or Saturday. Say what days are
you available to meet up and she'll say, oh, these days.
Then you're going to come and say, you know what, I'm actually busy that day, or I'm actually
busy those days.
And then you're going to try to come up with another day.
You're doing a little bit less desperation, which offers a little bit of a room to chase.
But here's where it gets even more intense.
Let's say you're already dating or you guys have been dating for a little while.
Maybe it's been, I don't know, a month, six weeks, something like that.
This is another time where you're going to use I'm actually busy that day.
Here's where it's more powerful. You get to the point where things are going well and
you guys are seeing each other and she asks you out and she's like, hey are you busy Thursday?
Or hey, do you want to go to this thing on Thursday or Saturday, whatever it is.
And you say, sorry, you know, sorry, babe, I'm actually busy that day, sorry, I'm actually
busy that day. I want you to use that.
And you know what, hopefully, you actually are busy.
Hopefully, you're creating a life for yourself where you're doing things and not just waiting
around for her.
You can say that.
And that's gonna be so powerful, because she's going to see that, wow, I'm not always the
number one priority, and boom, that's going to start making her chase and want you more.
And this also applies when you're in a relationship. I don't want you to be readily available to
hang out with her so much.
When she's your girlfriend that you're always there and you guys spend a lot of time together.
When you guys spend too much time together, things get really stale.
You want to make sure that you have your alone time or your time with your friends, time
doing your hobbies, your own thing.
Make sure still when she's asking you for plans that you can say, you know what, I'm
actually busy that day.
These are the magic words, but really look behind it for a second, because the whole
concept here is you actually being busy.
Like I said, having a life and doing things, you're not just all focused on her.
That's what makes things boring and predictable.
Predictability is one of the killers of attraction.
I just ran into my friend Ben over here. He's an ex dating coach.
He used to run boot camps all over the country.
And now he's an internal leadership coach.
There ya go. I got it. I got it.
I like to cal him a life coach because he helps with all aspects of your life.
I'm gonna put his Instagram handle right now on the screen so you can check him out on
Instagram.
But the reason why I'm having him on is because he was an ex dating coach and he has some
thoughts on what it means to get a woman to chase you or even why you might be chasing a
woman.
Ben, take it away.
The whole concept of getting a girl to chase you is it's really just making yourself
more unique than she's experienced before in dating.
How can you do that?
When you think about dating and hitting on women, they're used to getting hit on, they're
used to getting approached, they're used to having men fall for them when they give them
the opportunity.
Your trick when it comes to getting women to date you is not falling for those opportunities
immediately.
It doesn't mean not going on that day or not texting them back or not calling them.
Or not approaching them. Yeah or not approaching them.
But it means making it a little less.
"Here's a treat dog eat it."
You know what I mean?
It means be more like a cat.
Show them some love.
Pull away a little bit.
Wait for them to show some more attraction, more attention, show them some love again.
Just don't put them on a pedestal.
It'll make you so unique when it comes to dating.
What you're trying to say is it's like you're giving them a little bit but not too much.
What would be an example of that?
Well, let's say she texts you, hey, I'm available on Tuesday at 7pm.
You don't you don't text back right away.
You weren't waiting for her to text you.
And then maybe you're not available that day.
Like using the magic words.
Yeah, maybe you can meet at eight o'clock.
Take a little bit of control all over the opportunity
she's giving you to show that you're not letting her lead you. You're going to be leading
the interaction and the dates and the communication.
Now you have a really good idea around the concept of getting a woman to chase you.
I want you to use those 5 words and see what happens. If you're looking for a more
deeper dive into this kind of idea of getting her to chase you and getting her extremely
attracted to you,
maybe getting her hooked on you,
I want you to check out my program called Get Her Hooked.
I'll put a link down below and on the screen www.getherhooked.com.
Go there so you can check out my program that teaches you the A to Z guide on how to meet
and attract women even if you're very shot.
Check it out.
See in the next video and I'll see in the comments.