By a show of hands how many women
in here desire a feminine,
passive, emotional man?
Anybody?
Nobody, okay.
So, if you don't desire
a feminine, emotional, passive man,
why do you think he wants a hard masculine woman?
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If you are happy
with that dynamic,
knock yourself out, all right.
However, what I have found is women
who carry masculine energy
and get with a more passive feminine man,
they may be okay at first,
but as time goes on
you start to resent him.
You start to look down on him,
you don't respect him the same,
you're mad because you feel like the
burden is on you he's not assertive,
he doesn't handle his business
ex, you know, so on and so forth.
The man feels like he's not respected.
You don't treat him like a man
he doesn't feel valued
in the relationship.
Now, if you go watch these
two people go cheat on each other
pay attention to who they
go cheat on each other with.
The woman will always
go to a very masculine man
and the man will always go
to a woman who makes him feel like a king
every single time.
So, we have to understand that
that's what we truly desire within us.
Now, by a show of hands
how many women in here
desire a feminine, passive, emotional man?
Anybody? Nobody, okay.
So, if you don't desire
a feminine emotional passive man
why do you think he wants a
hard masculine woman?
You got an answer, anybody?
Anybody? No, okay.
This is the problem
as a woman you have to ask yourself
and I have something for the men too,
but as a woman
you have to ask yourself
what kind of man do I desire
and am I exuding the energy
that attracts that kind of man.
And if you know you want a masculine man
that means you have to tap
into your feminine energy.
The problem is that
women are looking at
femininity as weakness.
You view it as well,
I was hurt when I was feminine.
I was taken advantage of
when I was feminine.
Listen, femininity was never your problem,
your selection process was, all right.
Who you chose to entertain,
who you chose to give
that feminine energy to
was your problem.
But you don't stop being feminine
you stop entertaining the people
who don't embrace and respect it.
You have to learn to get
back into tapping into it.
Now, many women will say,
well, I don't know how to be feminine.
I’m just not a feminine woman, that's lies.
Every last one of you
have femininity within you,
but you may have become very
detached from it.
You may have become very uncomfortable
or you become conditioned
to your masculine energy
so you don't know how to
turn the switch on and off.
And this is very common
for successful women.
Women working in the workplace
are conditioned to thinking
they have to carry this masculine energy.
And then when you get into a relationship
you don't know how to turn it off, all right.
And that causes a problem
because again,
the more masculine the man is
the less tolerant he will be of
your masculine energy, period.
And it's the same way a feminine woman
would never be with a feminine man,
it's not going to happen
never, ever she can't tolerate it, she can't
it's too much feminine energy going around
like she's not going to do it.
So, we've got to understand that.
Now, here are some things to consider.
For the women who say you're not feminine,
maybe you're not used to it.
I challenge you in this way,
picture yourself when you're
around babies and kids.
How are you?
Many times the woman
who says she's not feminine
put her around babies and kids
and she's sweet,
she's loving, she's charming,
she's all this feminine energy
coming out of her.
Then put her around a man,
shut the whole thing down,
it's done, it's done,
ain't happening no more,
where did it go, where did it go, huh.
You know where it went?
It went behind your wall
because you view
the men as a threat
to your emotions and your heart
you view the kids as
harmless beings to love
so you are completely
vulnerable and open with them.
When you can transfer the energy
that you give to the children to men
watch your whole life change, all right.
Someone said, it's hard
yeah it's very hard.
It's hard when you become so detached from it
but this is why healing is so important.
Healing is directly correlated
to your ability to tap into your true energy
both for men and for women.
So, let me pivot real quick to men,
but I got some more things to say about the women.
Actually no, let me stick with the women,
I’ll come to the men back in a second.
So, again, picture yourself around the kids.
Now, here's a couple tips for the women
to improve your feminine energy,
but again, this is a deeper topic
and healing is at the
foundation of getting this right.
But here's a couple of things to consider.
Number one, smile more, all right,
smiling helps you exude feminine energy.
What I have found
every city that I go to,
everywhere I walk
I see beautiful amazing women
mean mugging all day
every day, all right.
Like and you all call it
rest in beef face or whatever and I get it.
It can be hard to tap into your smiling self.
However, my thing is this
if you're doing that to keep
people from talking to you, cool.
But you can't do that
and then come to me and say,
why is nobody coming to me?
Why is nobody approaching me?
Because you look hard, you look stank,
you look too difficult, all right.
So, smiling more is going to help change that.
Now, I’m not saying walk around
24/7 like a big old clown
smile on your face.
What I am saying is
at least, when you're in environments
where you want to be approached, smile.
You see a man you like, smile.
But here's the thing
I want you to always remember.
When you are happy from within
smiling comes naturally.
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