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Hello, it's Wednesdays with Chaseypoo. Today, we are talking about being outed
Being outed and I made a video on my channel about this, but it was like a year and a half ago
And I'm going to talk about it again. Youtube outed me. So, a couple of years ago,
I was outed on YouTube and do you know how that happened? Okay, here's
the thing. I have a lot more subscribers now than I did four years ago. And four years ago,
I don't even think I had hit 10,000, maybe I was not even at 5000, okay.
So, I wasn't at risk of being outed by YouTube, but here's a thing.
I was dating Zuzia at the time, and their parents didn't know. Zuzia uses they pronouns, by the way.
Zuzia's parents didn't know that I'm trans and we wanted to keep it that way, because they were very religious
and we didn't really want to deal with any of that stuff, like, to the point where, like, no one in that family knew
and then like went to scull and I was stealth. I looked so different and it's like I look back,
I mean, I'm like really? Like I feel like I didn't look the same. Anyway, it doesn't matter.
But right before I had top surgery, Zuzia's mom had asked,
"Zuzia, what are you doing in Florida?" And Zuzia was like, "Oh, you know,
We're just going to go hang out. And then their mom was like, "No, what are you really doing?
So, Zuzia's mom had found out about my YouTube channel and
knew that I was trans, and I think that what had happened was somebody had told someone else,
and then like she had like looked through my channel on Youtube, or like, googled my name or something
and I popped up so that was like really sucky for me, because it's like one of those
that I really wanted to...I wanted to stay stealth. I'm not stealth in any
aspect of my life and I like to be out, and I like people to know that I'm trans
because I feel like I bring a positive representation to the trans community and trans people
in a way where like people aren't scared to ask questions. And I can tell people like,
"Hey that question's really inappropriate, don't ever ask anyone, but I'll answer it
for you just so that you know but we did keep it "hidden", I guess,
from Zuzia's dad for a long time, and Zuzia and I aren't even together
we're just really close friends, and I actually went to Slovakia with them for Christmas this year and
Everything is great, and, you know, stealth life, whatever,
It was like a little anxiety-inducing, a little bit, because we went skiing and everything,
so I don't really like it with the tights and the wiener and everything like that
But I found out later on that Zuzia's aunt or something like that told
Zuzia's dad. So now he knows and, like, my... That was the only person in the entire world
that like I didn't want to know, just because I wanted to keep it that way.
And now that he knows it's like, whatever. It's not a big deal, like who cares, it just
sucks, because like a part of me is like, I feel so disappointed. I feel like I've been
like working at this for literally five years, and it's like, now it's gone. Like, "Oh, bye."
And it just... I don't know. It just sucks a little bit, but I don't feel like I get outed very often
I did get outed at work once, by one of my co-workers who was like,
"Oh, Chase is trans" or something like that. Or like my manager didn't know I was trans. I was like,
"Oh, how you know? Oh, she told me."
So I think that we need to like have more narrative around "Don't out trans people" instead of like...
Yeah, not instead of, we need to focus on that. Like, that should be a topic video, like "How to talk to people
about not outing trans people" But anyways, being outed is really not a fun experience.
And I have heard of horror stories that have happened in people in high schools.
So if it does happen to you that you are outed, I think that the best thing to do
and I always say this, because I'm very biased, is go to the internet.
Honestly, because you're going to need support and if you feel like being outed is dangerous
for your life, then you really need to find someone who will be able to either
take you away from that situation or help you figure out a way and what to do, because it is a very
anxiety-inducing thing to have to deal with, being outed. It just sucks though
that like YouTube outed me, you know? Like in a time where I didn't want that.
Now it's impossible. Look, listen toots. Like, I can't disappear. I even, like, I made my middle name...
No one knows my middle name, okay?
Literally no one, like a couple people in my life know it, no one knows online
Because I thought to myself, "If ever I want to disappear, I can just use my middle name."
It's too late for that. My face is all over the place, like I feel like
people know me too much, because of my YouTube channel. I'm not saying like people on the street
I mean like if you Google my name even if I went by my middle name,
I feel like you would somehow be able to find my channel, because I have a lot more views
and because I'm on FTMtranstastic and because I have a podcast
and because I do binder giveaways and because my face is everywher.
So I'm okay with that and I'm okay with being out, But it's like,
I no longer have the option to go back in and to like be stealth and there's absolutely
no problem with being stealth. I think that people who are stealth are...
Stealth. Like, it doesn't really matter. You do your life, and I'll do my life.
But yeah, that's all I want to say. YouTube outed me. Fucking rude.
Thanks a lot YouTube. I'm kidding, okay, I'm actually not kidding, but whatever.
Have a great week, bye.